I don't take my own advice?

Question

Basically, I'm the type of person that you love to talk to. Whenever someone i know is going through a rough situation they turn to me because i'm extremly logical and i give good advice (not to toot my own horn). On top of it, i'm just an overall very comforting person to talk to. What i don't understand is i help people almost everyday with there realtionship issues inclduing family, romantic, and social but, i haven't been able to really talk to someone about my issues in about 4 years. I don't date, and i'm unsocial. i don't purposely do this i just dont find anything fun anymore. I've been told i'm fun and attrative but i don't feel that way anymore. I just think its wierd that everyone comes to me with there issues and i can't even deal with my own issues.

** sorry if theres any spelling or grammar errors.

basically what i'm asking is how do i get out of this rut, i'm only 17 i should be having the time of my lifee

Answer 1

Hey, I'm the same way...it's the perfect example of how things are easier said than done. You can give logical advice all day long, but when it comes to experiencing it for yourself it can be a totally different ballgame.

Really the best way to get out of your rut is to just go out there and do it. Go out and meet some new people (this is me saying and not doing...hehe). Probably won't be a piece of cake the first go around, but sooner or later it'll kick in. If you're told you are fun and attractive, then who cares if you don't feel that way right now? Listen to what folks tell you! We never see ourselves the way other people see us anyway.

You're not depressed, are you? I ask because usually a person will lose interest in everything if they are depressed. If that is the case, then definitely open up to someone close to you about it.

Answer 2

You've taken on the heavy responsibility of listening to other people's problems. On the positive side, it feels good to help them. And you get to hear everyone's dramas. On the negative side, you're going to be impacted and drained by hearing all this stuff and feeling responsible. Even therapists have to get help from other therapists because they get so burned out hearing people's problems. And of course, there's the thing where your problems aren't taken care of because you're seen as very wise, mature, and someone who doesn't HAVE problems.

Bottom line - don't be available as the resident therapist anymore. You can listen to a little bit of this stuff but draw the line. Later you can become a real therapist, but right now it's okay to take some time for yourself to be a teenager.

Answer 3

get out there girl, start making efforts to make yourself feel beautiful. flirt with guys, cuz most don't just fall in love with a girl by their looks....only the shallow ones do.
Try not be be reserved or unsocial, you need to talk and show yourself to the world, you are a year younger than I am...and seriously I hate being without a girl! right now I have been single for close to 2 months, and it drives me crazy....so you have good traits if you have been single for 4 years....you just need to break out of your shell and open up to people, prove to them you are someone. Obviously they are the ones who think you are anti-social, so prove them wrong!

Answer 4

What I think is your the type of person that can help others with their problems but as soon as you have a problem and need someones help, whatever they say doesn't matter because your going to take your own advice. And then you pawn them off as insensitive when your really inconsolable. In fact my latest ex-girlfriend was exactly this way.

Answer 5

You are probably getting depressed about other people's issues, and you shouldn't be, so just lay back. Go to a club, party with some people, and don't worry about life!

Answer 6

if you were 22 or older, i'd be concerned.

Answer 7

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