My friend is 13 years old. She has a boyfriend who is the same age as her. They went on a date. When they got to my friend's house, she wanted to practice sex with him. So her boyfriend decided to put his finger inside the vagina. When her boyfriend put his finger in her vagina, she felt a lot of pain. He did that for about 20 minutes. Her boyfriend thought that her period might be coming because she felt pain. Her period was suppose to come on December 20th, but it never came and today is December 27th. Please help her!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-26 15:56:25 · 8 answers · asked by Sarai A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not sure if its that or something else that may cause the pain when he did that. I just want to know why does she have a lot of pain because of that.
My friend lives in the Bronx, New York and I live in Yonkers, New York. She visits me everytime I hang around my neighborhood.
2007-12-26 15:59:54 · update #1
They have been dating since July 2007.
2007-12-26 16:13:50 · update #2
She finally got her period on December 28th.
2007-12-28 13:44:44 · update #3
Your friend probably had her hymen torn. In the normal terms you've probably heard, she had her "cherry" popped. It may not be fully torn, so when she EVENTUALLY does have sex, it may hurt bad again and possibly even bleed. There's also a chance that her boyfriend may have hurt her with long fingernails or something on his fingers if he wasn't careful.
Tell her to calm down and stop freaking out about her period, she's fine. If it doesn't come by the next time she's supposed to have it tell her to talk to her doctor. If she stresses out about it, it's not going to come any sooner. Tell her to relax and reassure her it will come.
She's way too young to be practicing for sex like that. Tell her to enjoy her boyfriends company, but there's no need to rush things. If she waits until she's older and they're both more ready, it will be much more enjoyable and she'll have a better understanding of what's going on.
2007-12-26 16:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by BrandonM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fingering doesn't do any damage. Because it was the first time(probably), she might be anxious more then anything. About periods, sometimes it get delayed but you don't need to worry. If you skip for couple of days more then check with a doc. As a friend you would want to advice her that having unprotected sex should be avoided. Hope this helps you.
2007-12-26 16:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by syehusin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain she felt on her vagina might be because she's not yet read for it. I mean she's too young to be practicing sex. Vagina should be lubricated (natural lubricant of vagina itself) first before inserting foreign object such as finger or penis.
Her hymen (vaginal membrane: a thin mucous membrane that completely or partially covers the opening of the vagina),
could be broken by inserting a hard object (such as his finger)
Now, if you mean "could she be pregnant" by this act, and assuming that your friend is telling the truth that only the finger of his boyfriend (not with his penis) was inserted on her vagina, she will not be pregnant by it.
If the pain continued for more than enough, she could consult a doctor for possible infection or possible lacerations.
2007-12-27 23:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by exo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they didn't have intercourse & he didn't ejaculate it's not likely she's pregnant.
Being 13 it's more likely that her periods are still a little irregular & it's simply a problem with her cycle.
Tell her not to worry but if they DID have sex she'd better get a pregnancy test to be sure one way or the other. Oh, and if she IS going to "practice sex" then she'd better get herself educated about birth control!
Good luck.
2007-12-26 16:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't worry. she can't get pregnant from a finger. as for the pain. She's to young to be doing any kind of sex so STOP IT!
2007-12-26 16:00:36 · answer #5 · answered by blj63 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get pregnant from a finger. If that's what she's worried about, she needs to never get near a boy in a sexual way again until she smartens up.
2007-12-26 15:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by jalvarez626 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all that he put was the finger, then nothing to worry about and tell the dude to relax and possibly cut his nails
2007-12-26 15:59:56 · answer #7 · answered by badabing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was just his finger she's fine.
when did she start getting her period?
it's probably just irregular if she recently started getting her period.
2007-12-26 16:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋