Is it biblical for men to spank their wives when they do bad things or are disobedient?

Question

My husband believes men are to be in charge and they have the right to spank their wives if they are bad. I was raised this way too and my mom got spanked by my dad but not much (I don't think). I only remember maybe 5 times but maybe there was more I don't know. Anyways, I want to know what other people's viewpoint is on this. If you aren't a bible believer please tell me your religion, thanks!

Answer 1

Tell him to show you from the Bible where it say that at. What cult religion are you in?

I can tell you right now that whatever he tries to show you will be taken out of contents.

Yes, the Bible say it's OK to give your children a spanking in Proverbs for being disobedient, but that's it.

I am a Independent Fundamental Baptist.

Answer 2

>Is it Biblical for men to spank their wives
>when they do bad things or are disobedient?

NO! NO WAY!!!

DON'T KNOW OF ANY text or pretext that justifies such.

Rather, if a person HONESTLY reads the Bible they will discover the love, attention, etc. between a husband and a wife.

>My husband believes men are to be in charge

Yes, for many centuries the Marriage Vows were that the Bride/Wife will "Love, Honour, and Obey the Husband.

And the husband is to be the "head" of the household ... that does not be exactly the same as being "in charge".

Usually the wife makes the plans and decisions, but ultimately the husband is responsible for the household.

>and they have the right to spank their wives

Don't know of any passage which says that!!!

>if they are bad. I was raised this way too


The Bible does seem to suggest that corporal punishment of the "children" is a method which can be used ... certainly in those times there was no cell phones, no computers, no i-pods, etc. which could be taken away from the children/teens. [And NOT ONLY children ... but judicial corporal punishment of adults [fools, etc.] also was practiced but NOT domestic violence!!!! ...

Not being a husband yet (nor a wife, never!!) I understand husbands and wives have other methods of persuading each other ... other than corporal punishment.

Theyu should talk things over as civilized responsible ADULTS.
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Answer 3

Well I am christian, and I never heard of that before in my life. I never seen that in the bible. The bible talks about loving your spouse, and obedience respect for each other. Children need direction and guidance but as an adult that absurd. The bible talks about being one in marriage. Spanking your spouse for disagreeing where is the unity in that? You have to be equal and you can't be if one person makes all of the decision.Besides God made Eve a to be companion and helpmate to Adam.Now if spanking is in a consensual sexual way that is between you and him because that is your sexual relationship with him and your business. I believe marriage is about love, honor, commitment,respect and sometimes compromising because no one knows all the answers but the creator. But to be fair I must admit I am young and have never been married but My parents have been married 31 years, and my grandparents, 50 years! So I am being taught by example. My father say all the time anytime you can't be civil or use violence you should not be together.

Answer 4

That is SO unfair! "Men are in charge" I OBJECT! Even if they're in charge, spanking is PUSHING IT WAY TO FAR!! My Dad says if your husband/boyfriend ever hits you,LEAVE HIM. Who ever oyur husband or father heard that from, he's a sexist. Woman shouldn't be treated like dirt. We should be equal. And spanking a grown woman and people knowing that the husband does that makes them look really bad! What if the husband is disobedient? Do the women just do nothing? That wouldn't be fair at all! No, it's not biblical. Just because women were created after men doesn't mean they're more superior then us! That's abuse! I say if my boyfriend/husband beilieved in that I would leave him. Where does it say that it's ok to hit a woman in the Bible or in life??? It's like saying, "Ok I get to spank you since I'm a MAN but you don't do it to me since your a WOMAN and not in charge!" That idea s so stupid. I can't beilieve him. I'm Christian. Spanknig is when Children are naughty. Not for FULL-GROWN WOMEN!

Answer 5

No. Spanking wives is not in there. Corporal punishment on children is. Men being the head of the household is in there. But there's also the bit about men being willing to give his life up for his wife, like Christ did (which INCLUDES everyday life, not just being willing to die for her). Women are to be submissive to his authority. Men are to LOVE their wives and wives are to RESPECT their husbands. Both are to see their own bodies as the others' in possession. Basically, servitude is a good thing. From both sides.

Weird about the spankings. Saw it on a Western Movie once and thought it was the weirdest thing ever. What religion are you?

Answer 6

The only reference I can think of related to this is Ephesians 5, it talks about women being submissive, but no spanking mentioned at all. The phrase saying: Love your wives as your own body, and later adding no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it sounds more like spaking wouldn't fit into the description of a loving husband.

I would be pissed if my husband spanked me. I am not a little girl. What are wives entitled to do to the husbands when they are bad? kick them?

I believe it is abusive. No adult should use physical phorce whatsoever on another adult. Unless is the police catching a criminal or in self defense.

Answer 7

WOW - that is a misinterpretation of scripture and taking it out of context. Really - read 1st and 2nd Corinthians again. It says that the husband is to love his wife as Christ loves the church and when it says wives submit to your husbands - it then says for husbands to love their wives. I don't think I remember Jesus ever giving a man advice to spank his wife and there is no biblical mandate for such behavior. The wife is not a child but part of the husband himself. The wife is to love and respect. The two become one flesh. The husband is to honor and cherish like the wife is part of his own body. Most certainly no man spanks himself! There is no place in the bible where there is an example of a person spanking his wife. The mandate is to feed her spiritually the word of God so that she will be full of love and grace and grow in the Lord. If there is something to spank a wife for - the man ought to spank himself for not following what the word of God says in how to grow your wife. It's not to treat her like a child.

Answer 8

I'm sure that some people would argue that it's biblical and expected, but I think that, like the Bible itself, is a lot of BS. Now, spanking, as part of a loving and consensual relationship, can certainly be beneficial if one member of the relationship needs help to stay on the straight and narrow. There is no reason for this to be limited to male spanking female, though, and just depends on the nature of the relationship.

Answer 9

Uh, no. Not at all. Spanking is a very embarassing and a very belittling form of punishment. And, if you read the same Bible I do, it specifically says in Ephesians 5 that husbands should "love thier wives as thier own bodies". So unless your husband is willing to punish himself , he has ABSOLUTELY no right what so ever to punish you in any way (especially by spanking you)! It's "spare the rod, spoil the CHILD", not spare the rod, spoil the wife!!!!!

Answer 10

NO!!! The Bible never says anything like that anywhere, and yes I've read it. He's using that as an excuse to abuse you. What it DOES say though? Men should honor their wives and not be harsh to them- or else their prayers will be hindered! I've never known ANY sane man- Christian or otherwise- to believe something like that. The best Christian men I've known who are highly spiritual treat their wives the best. Since you viewed your dad being abusive to your mom, it made it more likely that you would be abused in your relationship. (There is a really high relationship between how the daughter's father treats her mother and the daughter's future relationships.)

Answer 11

Your husband and your father are wrong, wrong, wrong. There is nowhere in the bible where it says that husbands can spank their wives. Read it for yourself so you will know how to combat your husband's psychological, spiritual, and physical abuse of you.

Do you believe that Jesus would condone your husband, who is supposed to love you as Christ loved the church, disrespecting and abusing you by spanking you??

You are being abused. Get some help. Call your local Department of Family Services or the police.