I am curious....is there anyone out there that gets in HUGE screaming matches with a sibling? NO bs answers of wtf is my problem or can't we all just get along!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-26 13:57:27 · 10 answers · asked by Halo 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am an adult and she is older than me and every single time I TRY to get along with her..she screws me over. I tend to just go for the gusto and scratch her eyes out. LOL. No--seriously--she is a pill popping alcoholic...and so when she starts her crap--I just bust her in the face---and she goes crying to dad--and he takes HER side every single time!
2007-12-26 14:22:47 · update #1
I've personally gotten into a few big fights with my siblings but at some point we reconcile. I wont say that it's normal that you don't get along. There has been siblings who have had a fight and didn't talk to each other for years, hey, it's even happened to twins. I'm not saying you should or should not get along but just let things be.
2007-12-26 14:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by Reverie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.. as adults you do not have to get along. If you are a minor living at home I would say yes, but if you are an adult you have a choice.
**You choose your friends not your family... however... you may choose not to deal with your family. Family drama sometimes is just best avoided. Our culture wants us to have the sunday dinner with all the family preset and talk about the day or thier sunday school lessons.. Come on.. we all know this just does not happen.
Your life is your own..not your family's. You have a choice.
** Honey hit up an alanon meeting in your area. I attend because I have a weed smoking alcoholic older sister who has been using since the 70's.. they can give you the tools in order to deal with the family.!! XX
2007-12-26 14:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by BeeBee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it's different in every family. I think that every sibling fights with each other a lot. Especially if their girls. My mom always told me that once we get older we will love each other more and actually be closer together. And that happened. As you get older, you relate to each other more, and then you get closer.
But in some families that doesn't always happen, sometimes you could get into very very big fights with a sibling and eventually never talk to them again. But you have to think about it, wouldn't you rather a close tight family ? As opposed to a hating hurtful family ?
Think about your siblings feelings also, not just your own, and when you fighting count to 10 to yourself, or just walk away to calm down. I know it sounds stupid to count to 10, but if you try it, it really works. I've done it before.
2007-12-26 14:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by brittany 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, siblings can get in huge screaming matches. My brother wouldn't have anything to do with me until we were in our forties. He always treated me like I was just a little pest he had to put up with. Now that we're both matured, he treats me with more respect. It doesn't always have to take that long, and usually it won't, but you have to be the best you that you know how to be and realize that nobody's perfect and your sibling is being the best "them" that they know how to be at this time.
I'm sure your sibling doesn't enjoy the screaming matches anymore than you do. Be forgiving of them AND of yourself.
2007-12-26 14:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sheila L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally dont have problems like that. but i have seen them first hand.....my dad has huge 'disagreements' i guess i'll call them, with my aunt. its over money issues and my aunt is sueing my dad for it. they saw each other last night over christmas and refused to speak and my aunt left as soon as my dad got there. .....it's not pretty!
if you dont think there is a way around it and there's no way you can get along, i would just try to steer clear. because there's no sense in worsening the relationship.
but keep in mind that they are your sibling. what would you do if you never had another chance to talk to them? would you feel differently about your relationship?
i mean i dont know the whole situation, but i would keep that in mind.
2007-12-26 14:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES I DO. It's ok to get into fights with your sibling just DON'T hate each other too much and don't hold a grudge against each other because if something happens to either one of you, the other one will wish you guys could of made up.
2007-12-26 14:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by DramaQueen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I use to have awful fights with my older sister, but know we are as tick as thieves. Sometimes you are going to disagree, but that happens, you can't agree on everything. And, sometimes it can be major issues. But don't let it completely hamper your relationship with your sibling. I mean sometimes you and a sibling may not get along at all; but, if you have gotten along well, don't let one or a couple minor things ruin your relationship. Just don't be petty. Good Luck.
2007-12-26 14:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by Smoove 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if your sister is an addict, that's the first problem... you can't change an addict, try to talk them out of using, or "take care of" their issues... you can't tell her she has a problem, because she is the one who has to admit it first.
don't try to take care of her, let her fend for herself.
try alanon. it's a great support group for people whose lives have been affected by an alcoholic. you will be surprised to see how many others are living with similar circumstances.
2007-12-26 14:35:57 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont think so..but u should get to know your siblings betta! just think about how u feel instead of yelling!
2007-12-26 14:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by Radhika L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes me and my borther, but we are still there for each other
when needed.
2007-12-28 15:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by rick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋