okay so im 16, and sadly never dated :/ ive been asked to a couple dances....but i dont really count that.
once people get to know me, i am a really funny and nice person, but its the getting to know me part i need help with.
i get nervous around guys whether i like them or not. idk why, but i m not completely myself and dont say much, like i would with my close friends, is there anything that you think could help me become more outgoing or less nervous around them?
thanks. i know its kinda weird....but im ready for a pretty serious relationship and need to get myself out there!
2007-12-26 13:57:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks everyone:) this really helped me alot....and i texted a guy! haha, it may not sound like much,but before i only texted him if he text me first because i had no clue what to say, or any idea of how he would react to it....so its a small step in the right direction
2007-12-26 15:09:10 · update #1
Why are you holding yourself back? What's causing your shyness. Guys have asked you to dances so you are obviously attractive so you shouldn't hold back. You really have nothing to lose in expressing your opinion. I wouldn't be in a hurry to find a boyfriend & it'll happen when you least expect it. Remember to be happy with yourself and be nice to others (interested or not). People who are nice to others are the most attractive in my opinion. One way you could start is to compliment someone on what they are doing, what they are wearing etc. It's just nice. Try striking up small talk with people as it makes them feel more important and you look more approachable, not to mention it will make you feel more at ease when you are talking to others or trying to initiate conversation.
2007-12-26 14:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting a make-over or going out and buying a new outfit would definitely bump up your chances of getting noticed. Be daring and say hi first or compliment there shirt or something. Just overall, be yourself, but be more daring.
You said you want a serious relationship right? Well, here's the thing: There's two types of guys in this world. The ones who commit and the one's who are just for the sex. Make sure when you looking for 'the one' or somewhere near it, look closely and carefully. Follow your heart and also your brain. Make sure they're in agreement when it comes to guys.
But yeah, just be yourself girl! If people can't accept that, then that's there problem to deal with, not yours.
Hope this helped.
2007-12-26 22:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by K. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird that your this way
alot of people are like this
wat you need to do is act like your around your friends
if it helps imagine your friends are with you
but talk more about your hobbies
your likes and dislikes
the basics
ti will help a little but letting them know more about you is up to you
since there is only one person that can cure your shyness and the is you
2007-12-26 22:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by J_man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how u feel. I am the exact same way. Well all I can say is forget about your shyness and be a daredevil hahaha and go talk to that special someone. Thats what I did. I hope this was helpful, Please put me as the best answer!!
2007-12-26 22:10:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As i read that, i felt you were describing me because that is me your describing. Except, i'm almost 21, and your 16...lol
The shy thing is soooo hard to get over. I'm very very very very slowly trying to get pass it. Its like it hinders you from experiencing things, like going out with guys. There was a guy that i like, not just like, but really really like, and we were flirted a couple of times. He had this way of making laugh, but i was always so shy, that i sort of didn't make the full move, and i so regret it. This is the reason, i'm really making steps to get over it. I felt like i could of had a good thing, i'll never know.
If there not part of my friends inner circle, its hard to let them get to know me. Its really hard, and i'm learning as i go along. There will be a out there, who's gonna understand your shyness, who's gonna try and get you out of your shell, and when he does, you'll know thats him.
2007-12-26 22:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by cherryblossoms 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to realize that nothing is going to happen if you just act like yourself. You only have one life to live. You never get another chance. So just think.....whats the worst that can happen. Nothing, except everyone like you a little more because your funny.
2007-12-26 22:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by Justin C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you're going to look back and realize the guys were just as embarassed around you! When you're talking to a guy, just look him square in the eyes. He'll be intimidated and you'll seem straigtforward. You gotta scare them before they scare you.
2007-12-26 22:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell yourself you can do it and you will be able to. Be positive. And if you need the help, talk with guys with a wing man a.k.a. one of your gal pals or your guy friends
2007-12-26 22:06:04 · answer #8 · answered by honest gdtmes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be confident.. pretend they're not around lol..
some people practice in front of a mirror... but i used to get
nervous whenever i'm next to a girl, i just mostly pretend that she isn't besides me, and i just joke around, and sometimes when she hear me joking around she smiles and laugh out of no where lol
2007-12-26 22:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by w3stcoast25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self-confidence is the key. You need to learn to love yourself first, then others will learn to love you as well.
2007-12-26 22:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋