I've veen dating this girl for 10 months Everything was going great until one of her exboyfriends (who is now her best friend guy) came back. HE still has feelings for her and I'm not sure if she does for him She tells me she love him like a brother but the guys is always in my face saying that she loves him and that she doesnt breack up with he because she feels sorry
What should i do? I've talked to my girlfriend but everytime we talk about this we end up fighting
2007-12-26 13:22:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i love her and have no intention of breaking up with her.As for her bestfriend should I kick his a**?
2007-12-26 13:34:43 · update #1
I say believe your girlfriend. You cant let this guy ruin you relationship. If the girl didnt like you she wouldnt be going out with you. But do talk to her she need to know that if she doent get her feeling straight she will end you loosing you. And dont wait to kiss that guys a**. All he wants is trouble so you 2 break up and he can have a clear path to the girl. Dont lisnten to him, and believe your girlfriend!
2007-12-27 08:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by ♫♥boycrazygirl♫♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you being accusatory when you guys talked about it. That'll definitely cause an argument.
Has she told you she loves you? If she really loves you, then it doesn't matter what her friend says or what their relationship is like bcuz she's with you bcuz she wants to b but again I say, does she love you?
If push comes to shove, 10 months is longer than 2 months but it's shorter than 10 years, so if you have to move on, move on & don't feel bad about the fact that you're giving up a 10-mon. long relationship bcuz not only could it have been worse, but you have so much better in the future.
It's hard for guys & girls to have platonic relationships, but it's possible.
Both you & your gf need to prioritze & if you are important to her, you guys should be able to communicate about this, and about anything, for that matter.
I disagree w/ da whole u hurting the guy thing bcuz that never fixes anything, and you could actually be causing more damage than goood. The responsible, mature thing would be to settle it w/out fighting lol
2007-12-26 13:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by ♥True love waits♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There seems to be some other issues here, not just with the ex. Does she spend a lot of time with him? Her ex seems to be controlling and possessive because he doesn't understand that their relationship is over. If you end up fighting with her when you talk to her about this, then that means it is also a big issue for her as well. Is it possible to get a third party involved? A friend who knows the three of you and can give imput? Even if they don't sit down with your girlfriend and you together, at least go see them on your own. It seems you need a little bit of backup if this is as big of a problem as it seems.
2007-12-26 13:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by csi_2_be 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe her. The guy just wants to start trouble which obviously he is succeeding. he wants to get you guys to break up so he can make his move. Dont let him. Dont ask her again how she feels for him. Instead tell her that you like her and she likes you and thats all that matters. As for his royal pain in the ***, tell him to back off and no matter what he says or tries, let him know you have no intention of leaving her. That should send a message. Ignore the moron. And if she likes him oh well, move on
2007-12-26 13:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by honest gdtmes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say confront her male Friend, if he doesn't want to respect you, than kick the living s**t out of him, and try to calmly talk to your girl, tell her she needs to be truthful with you about how she feels about him, i know you said you have no intentions of breaking up with her, but if she still has feelings for him, and continue to let him come between you two and ignores the fact that he is disrespectful to you, than you really should move on and find some one else.
2007-12-26 13:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by ARTY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To get clarity and finally put an end to the innuendo from her ex, you need to have one last talk with your girl friend. Restate the obvious about your feelings for her and ask her to honestly tell you how she feels about you.Assuming she loves you as much as you love her and her ex means nothing to her, then ask her to please ask him to leave you guys alone to enjoy their lives.She can do it in your presence to assure you that it is done. That should put an end to the fights you have with your girlfriend.and you can now spend that time making love.
2007-12-26 13:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say whoop her male Friends a** next time he disrespects you, and if she doesn't want to talk things out, then maybe you should move on and break up with her.
2007-12-26 13:27:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would start running until I couldn't run anymore. If she gets defensive about someone she says is just a friend...well you decide.
2007-12-26 13:28:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she ends up fighting with you, she probably does have feelings for him.
Usually feelings like that are mutual.
2007-12-26 13:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by Tony^^ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sry 2 say....but i think she has feelings for him cz if u end fighting about it wen it comes up....but yeah i say nxt time hes in ur face, tell him off or kick his ***!
2007-12-26 13:30:28 · answer #10 · answered by Nickoko, :} 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋