My so-called 'friend' hits me all the time and her parents dont care they can be sitting next to me and my friend hits they dont even yell at for that and I`m thinking,'Buttholes she just hit yell at her."No they dont she has left black and purple marks on me so one day i told my mom and she told me if she ever hits u again you hit her harder but i dont think i should beacause two wrongs dont make a right.Should i smack her ever time she hits me or should i tell and countine letting her hit please i need an answer.
2007-12-26 13:13:07 · 21 answers · asked by churchlandsoftball 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Well I would remind her that you don't want her to put her hands on you. You could do one of two things:
1) next time she hits you tell her she is no longer you friend and leave her alone, when she is ready to apologize and stop hitting you, you will start to hang out with her again.
OR
2) if you continuously tell her to stop hitting you, then just one day BAM right in the eye! And yell on the top of your lungs I told you stop hitting me. In fact warn your mom, and do it in front of her parents.
Yeah, two wrongs don't make a right, but sometimes people you can show them better then you can tell them. Sometimes violent people (that is what your friend is, violent) beat up on people because they can get away with it, but if you get her once real good, she will probably stop.
Personally I'd go with #1, but if you don't like her that much 2 will feel better.
2007-12-26 15:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by Miss 6 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to find a new friend. This girl is no friend of yours, friends don't hurt each other like that.
Your mother was wrong to tell you to hit back harder, if you do that she would just hit back even harder. The only right thing to do is to walk away and stay away. That's not always easy to do but you need to be strong. Remember you don't deserve to be hit by anyone.
You asked about this before a month ago, it's still going on. The only way to make it stop is to stay away from her. Don't ask her to your house, don't go to her house. If your parents ask her to your house and she hits you, tell your parents, if they don't protect you then you can call the police and report that you have been assaulted. That would make your parents do something. This girl is just a bully.
2007-12-26 16:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by freebird 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why on earth would you stay around her? She is trying to get attention and sure doesn't know how to do it. Some people who do that think they are funny. Let her know she isn't funny by dropping her as a friend. Do NOT hit her! No one needs to get hit. If she wonders why, just tell her you'd be glad to hang out with her when she gets over her hitting phase. If she says she'll stop, give her a chance. If she does it again, avoid her for a longer period of time. She has to know you're serious. I really mean this. Kids who hit each other will go on into adulthood. She will hit guys who will hit her back. She needs to break this habit.
2007-12-26 13:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by Snow Globe 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though two things are happening here: It probably is that you are being forced to associate with this so-called friend; so that doesn't leave you the option of avoiding her.
The other thing is that now you have three votes for hitting her back. She is a barbarian. Her parents are barbarians. And your mother has authorized you to be barbaric in return.
Given these factors, I'd say that to communicate effectively, it's clobberin' time. And if you happen to hit her too hard... well, you are just trying to communicate on her level.
I am advocating this action even though I myself do everything possible to avoid striking another person. Oddly enough, now that I think about it, when I have struck another person in retaliation, this has always satisfied them and they don't hit me again.
2007-12-26 13:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by Ultraviolet Oasis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all.....why would a "friend" be hitting you? Does she hit other people too? She definately has a problem and she needs to straighten herself out. Tell her that if she continues to hit.....you will hit her back or you may decide to not be her friend any longer. Another option would be to have a chat with her parents and explain that you will not tolerate her behavior anymore and if she continues to hit.....you cannot have contact with her. I can't believe her parents don;t say a thing about it. They seem to have issues too.
2007-12-26 13:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by lacrosselover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. Honey, tell her flat out with no nice tone that if she continues to hit you, you wont be her friend and you will refuse to invite her over or go to her house. is she even your friend? she may be nice, but friends hitting one another are not friends. as for her parents, just totally let it out on them. or one, if they are really good parents, they should teach their daughter not to use physical contact on people. second, if they see it, they shuld reprimand her. Do NOT let her keep hitting you. The next time she hits you, dont hit back. I agree, two wrongs dont make a right. tell her what i said. if she continues to hit you, walk out. im serious, walk out of that house.
--fleur
2007-12-26 14:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Notice the situations take take place just before she hits you and then you start hitting her in the same way. Beat her to the punch. See if she continues, if so then start hitting for no good reason and see if she gets the hint. If not start going to places where she might be without her and get there first.
2007-12-26 14:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by spicychips 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, hit her right back. It is important not to hit a young child for hitting, but your friend isnt a toddler. She knows right from wrong. I remember one of my friends hit me on a sore muscle that she knew was sore and hurting me. And I kicked her so hard in the shin that she fell on the ground. I was like "that`ll teach ya".
2007-12-26 16:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why is this person your friend? Do you like to be abused? Tell her to stop hitting you. If that doesn't work then knock the sh!t out of her. If it continues then find a new friend. Stop being a doormat. Stand up for yourself.
2007-12-26 13:22:26 · answer #9 · answered by SassyLeo 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well...if her parents aren't going to do anything about it, you might as well take matters into your own hands. Either stop hanging out with her or lay one on her and make sure it hurts bad, as bad as she hurt you. Tell her that if she hits you, you will hit her back and do it. Good Luck and be strong!!
2007-12-26 13:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by sandy t 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋