Recently i found hidden emails and hidden text messages of my wife and this so called brother like friend talking nasty to each other . I'll drag and drop some of the messages then can some buddy tell me why a wife of 10 years could be so cruel.
jeff hi beth is he home?---Beth yes he is sleep though---jeff oh good lets play do you miss me beth---beth oh yes i miss your every touch and moment together----jeff i know you do beth and thats why he will not let you live in washington--cause we could f--k---beth i know we would all the time---jeff yes we could and i could lick your little kitty---Beth oh your getting me all turned on---jeff i know i am unlike your husban----beth yeah i know you can to and have been for 8 yrs of my marige and he has no clue that every time me and you hung out we was f--king----jeff true cause he thinks we are just old best friends---beth yup and he will never know i truly love you---jeff yeah same here my wife will never know either . can any one relate?
2007-12-26 12:32:14 · 12 answers · asked by wayne s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The messages above i found today and my wife has been for most of our marige been telling me that this guy was just an old friend and like a brother to him and i trusted her enough to let them hang out and look what i let happen i should of never in a million years believed her lies.
How could she be so low and vindictive to me how could she pull this stuff on me and tell me i'm her only man and she is truly in love with me ?? what is thinking where is her brain how could she.
2007-12-26 12:35:37 · update #1
I confronted her on it all and she admited to have sex with this guy more than 100 times omfg ewwww this totaly violates me how could my wife be so evil it's not right i mean dam i don't get it this guy is some fat ugly slob who is old enough to be her dad ewww
it makes me sick to my stomach to think of what she has done .
2007-12-26 12:40:21 · update #2
I'm 32 yrs old and clean love to cook and love to adventure and take trips and don't mind house cleaning and working a good job and paying all the bills i'm kinda like a jack of all trades i'm an auto mechanic along with also carpenter and a plumber and also do electrical and also am a computer programer and tech and i restore older cars i love hiking and concerts and love long walks and cuddeling on the couch or the bed etc i'm also a romantic type along with a wild spark to and i just don't get it my wife has everything a women could want in a man when she talks i listen and i hear her and don't ignore her i wait my turn to talk etc and wow i give full body massages even wit lotions i let her to her 2 hour baths or take off any time she wants i let her talk to her friends i don't care for and my god she still pulled evil nasty lies behind my back .
I give her an inch of love she has taken the whole mile and not only mentaly broke my heart i now find it hard to believe in love
2007-12-26 12:59:45 · update #3
You should see an attorney who specializes in domestic relations before you do anything else. You need to focus less on your anger and sadness at being duped and betrayed by your wife, and focus more on how you exit this marriage as quickly and painlessly as possible. Run, do not walk, to an experienced divorce attorney and get sound legal advice that will help you regain control of your life.
Good luck.
2007-12-26 12:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by TK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but your wife makes women seem so cheap, dumb, and just plain mean. Your wife tells you she loves you because you give her something Jeff obviously doesn't. Maybe financial security. It won't take much thinking on your part to figure out what it is that you have and he doesn't. When someone cheats but stays with the spouse it's because the spouse has more to offer whereas, the lover has only 1 or 2 things that make them special. Sex and excitement are usually on the top of the list. The spouse has security, feeling of home, safety, knows you'll be there in sickness, etc. Can he give her any of those things? Probably not or he would have already.
You already know what you have to do. Children? Decide if you ever want to keep her. If not, don't waste your time. Plan ahead though. Keep your evidence and consult an attorney. Get your finances ready. Above all, DON"T TELL HER YOU KNOW!!! You will loose your advantage in this little game she's playing. She thinks there are only 2 players. Good Luck
2007-12-26 12:50:04 · answer #2 · answered by rabbit4041 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is a hard lesson indeed but,welcome to the world. Todays women are still stuck in a revenge kick that started back probably in the 70's. It started with guys having the women as house wives and the men going bar hopping with their chums. Then thanks too womens lib they got the hair brain idea to do a role reversal. Which might not have been too bad as far as waking up some hair brained guys but as usual they took it too far and they don't know when too stop so you might want too do the smart thing and never let yourself get suckered into loving another women so much that you couldn't just turn the other direction and walk away from her without thinking twice.
You set yourself up for devastation by investing too much in a being that is totally incapable of being faithful. If you put more trust in people than you do in GOD I guarantee you will wind up being devastated all of your life.
Take care and may God bless you spiritually.
2007-12-26 12:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just wondering why good husband got untrustful wife and good wife got bad husband. Why not, if there's good wife meet good husband too. Even both of them are really good husband and wife but still wanted to find someone better and perfectly for them and they don't ever even realize that they aren't perfect too.
In your case, you don't have to rush to take action. Communication between you and yours wife will take a best way to make solution for two of you. Then ask her whether she's still needed you or not.
if yes, she has to changed a lot, don't ever make a contact with her best friend again and give her a last chance.
if not, divorced her and let her live on her on life.
2007-12-26 13:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I went through some hard times with my wife and we talked it out. Communication is the key. Confront her on this.
2007-12-26 12:39:01 · answer #5 · answered by rydaldude 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry this happened to you. You wife definitely betrayed your trust and your marriage.
Please don't take her bad behavior to mean that all women are like this, or that women can't have truly platonic male friends.
2007-12-26 12:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by PurrfectPeach13232 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you manage to keep from laughing? This such a cute and funny story! Loved it.
2016-04-11 02:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kind of wife who is cheating on her husband and has no shame. (and is stupid because she let herself get caught)
Just keep such records for the divorce.....maybe SHE will have to pay alimony.
2007-12-26 12:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by blanquita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One that is using you.
2007-12-26 12:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by Shorty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask her about it
on the bright side, it could just be a silly game they play.
on the dark side, you might want to consider a divorce....
2007-12-26 12:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by neverland22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋