i was scared but fell in love and he was great....then he cheated on me. i forgave him because everyone makes mistakes....but it happened again. i'll always love him but i want to find someone that is in love with me and wants to be with me and spend time together. why is that so hard?
2007-12-26 12:24:41 · 20 answers · asked by Kaulana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
waiving my hands in air - decent guy over here lol
NZ rep hard
2007-12-26 12:28:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love this question and have an answer, ready?
Well, for a long time women have allowed me to get away with doing all sorts of stupid things that hurt them. So, women need to respect themselves more and trust men less. Take a long time to know someone, don't get emotionally involved until you have spent lots of time (at least a year) with this person. And certainly no hopping into bed with them unless you have a permanent comittment.
Next, we live in a culture where people seem to think it's ok to behave like irresponsible, immature little idiots. They haven't any accountability or self monitoring (conscience). It's a free for all with some.
It's hard and I do understand, but you have to protect yourself better from the large number of jerks out there and not be so needy for love. Desperation will get your heart broken.
2007-12-26 12:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. The same thing happened to me. It is really hard to find a decent guy in this world. I thought I found one, one day but then he cheated on me. There is always someone in this world made for all of us. And you have your whole life to find that guy. Sure you'll have some heartbreaks along the way but it should be worth it to find the one you love and the one that truly loves you.
2007-12-26 12:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by TuToRgUrL94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time to know a guy. Never invest your emotions into a relationship with a guy until you hv known him long enough and feel comfortable and confident. Time will enable you to look out for any red flag. Use your instinct and dont be in denial if your gut feelings tell you that he is not suitable for you. In this way, you wont make a mistake easily. There are good guys around... you will just have to look carefully and be patient. Honor yourself and dont ever get sexually involved. If he is a good man he will respect you and wait for you until you are ready. A man who loves you will wait and appreciate you.
Best wishes.
2007-12-27 03:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by Sal SR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look so hard.
Love happens when you least expect it.
If you're trying to find someone to fall in love with, you'll always notice the flaws, rather than what is special about the person. If you start out as friends with someone, things, if it is meant to happen, will eventually fall into place. As for guys, there are many "bad" guys out there, but there are also many good ones as well.
Good luck:)
2007-12-26 12:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by tylermiracled00d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound trite but this is the best answer I have ever heard given.
Because likable guys are not very lovable
and lovable guys are not very likable.
Guys that appeal to people who do not know them well are often not very appealing to those who know them well and Guys who are not appealing at first sight are often much better once you get to know them.
And If you can fall for a particular guy glance so can many other woman and many guys are not very strong on that front.
2007-12-26 12:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by Vultureman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am copying my same asnwer from a similar question I just answered...
you have no self worth... you do not value yourself.. not enough...
so you tolerate the bad behavior for the 'excitement' instead of making your own excitement with the one who treats you best...
If all females had more self worth, there would be less jerks in the world.. As our tolerance gives them permission to continue their behaviors... with us and others..
The what we tolerate as females has to change.
2007-12-26 12:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by astutewoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I would do is, get your mind off your ex. Then you would have more confidence, and not to mention opportunities. There isn't much advide other than that. Anyway, Good Luck!
2007-12-26 12:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There aren't that many decent guys out there, but there are some. You have to keep looking and you should never settle for less.
2007-12-26 12:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by bumblyjack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is not a mistake..it is selfish...we can forgive and move on....
He is using you in a way....
The things to look for are:
goals
respect
maturity
honesty
loyalty
2007-12-26 12:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this day and age loose women are easy to find, and guys are not required to behave, everyone forgives them and lets them get away with it, you will find someone and when you do lay down the law
2007-12-26 12:29:13 · answer #11 · answered by Ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋