I have only been with my boyfriend for two months and I want him to be the one. We do love eachother and I can truly see him as marriage material and it scares me because I don't want my feelings to be crushed. I feel like I have fallen way too fast. We live 2.5 hours away from eachother and the relationship is sometimes stressful. What can I do? I want to slow my feelings down just in case things don't work out and so I don't feel so stressed out to make things work.
2007-12-26 12:14:45 · 11 answers · asked by Tiffany H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Begin focusing less on the relationship and more taking care of your needs...its good that you're beginning to get a feel that he may be 'the one' but continue to cultivate yourself so if anything should happen you'll have on going interest and you won't be emotionally absorbed in the situation..
2007-12-26 12:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by blaque_strength21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have fallen to far too fast, bad news. I strongly suggest you slow down...it's all the stuff you are fantisizing about that is getting you in trouble. You should'nt be "in love" after two months or thinking about marriage at all at this point.
If you've slept with him, even bigger mistake. The problem here is you are emotionally attached without really knowing who this guy really is, could shock you when you really find out.
Besides that, you could scare him off with this serious level you are at right now.
2007-12-26 12:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem :) I think I am scaring him away with my feelings. We both should put our feelings on a diet: don't call him more than once a day, don't e-mail/text him all the time. Concentrate on your work/study/hobbies. Let him feel that he is not the single focus of your life. But at the times you are together, be present 100% - let him know that he makes you very happy and that you appreciate him.
Advise for both you and me!
2007-12-26 12:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by Darya J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend lives 4 hours from my house and 6 hours from my college and we got engaged and things have worked out. So dont think it can't happen.
But if you do think you're falling too fast you need to back off for a few days and calm down. Its not a break - just dont talk to him constantly and explain the situation to him.
2007-12-26 12:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by Virginia Chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't help what you feel. It just happens. Live life...go with the flow. Its all about taking chance, learning and discovery. No body wants to get hurt and it is natual to be cautious. But you have him, you're lucky and make the best of it for however long you guys will be together.
2007-12-26 12:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by Betsy Boop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start falling slowly for your boyfriend. Don't sleep with him until marriage. If you start have sex with your boyfriend right now,he will dump you like jerk men do that trust me(^_^).
And make sure this guy is the right person for you.(^_^)
2007-12-26 12:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by zackie006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put the brakes on!! It sounds so crazy and so much fun. Go with it! Live now worry later.
2007-12-26 12:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
take iot sloow you don;t want to push on to fast get to really know each others good and bad side cause every1 has them:)
2007-12-26 12:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant slow down your feeling just let it go go with it if you get hurt shake it off.
2007-12-26 12:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by sweety 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
cool your self! you guys should just send emials then chat and so on. taking it slow is the key
2007-12-26 12:18:12 · answer #10 · answered by roger patel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋