I think I have been a rather good boyfriend for the most part, and I love my girlfriend more then ANYTHING in this world. Well, on Christmas Eve I went to my girls house, only to found her with another guy in bed. After confronting her, she told me she loved me ( which I believe) and that if I really love her then I would make love to the guy she was with. ONLY in the name of love I did it ( which I wasn't happy about ) now I have to constantly make love to this guy which is by the request of my girlfriend. I'm only doing it because I love her, but in a way I feel like I'm being used and a little humiliated since I'm not a homosexual ! What should I do ?
2007-12-26 11:56:13 · 13 answers · asked by HELP ME ! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's not love.
2007-12-26 12:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by ♥True love waits♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, something is really wrong with this picture. I really don't believe it was out of love that you slept with this guy unless you are bisexual and have thought about doing it before and just said yes to her because you really wanted to try it out. There is no way in hell, I would have done that if i was you, There's no one in this world can make me sleep with another women except for god or unless someone had a gun up to my head. So, I hate to say because i know we are suppose to be giving positive advice but you should be humiliated because she really has made you a homosexual and a fool out of you, it's not that much love in the world. And please don't tell no one else this story, keep it to yourself.
2007-12-26 20:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by blessed is me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of things going on here.
1. Your girlfriend is controlling and manipulative and abusive. She is now so controlling your behavior that you are doing something that you may not particularly enjoy.
2. I am not trying to be at all inappropriate or rude here, but are you sure you did not enjoy it. Because if you did not really want to do it, than you could have walked away at any time. .
Like I said I am not trying to be rude.....but if you are allowing this girl to control your behavior so much that you are doing something you do not like....you need to dump her, because I can see you being hurt really hard (like Christmas Eve) from a mile away.
2007-12-26 20:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by blanquita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run away fast. If you are serious in your predicament you are an idiot for not leaving immediately when you walked in on her.
It would be different if you had talked about an open relationship and experimentation prior to discovering her...and then to demand that you participate. No Way!
Time to cast your net and find a new girl.
2007-12-26 20:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a freak and so is your girlfirend.
Get rid of her and get yourself some help.
She difinately doesn`t love you at all. And I think you know it but either do not want to admit it or like the way things are so you will not quit.
2007-12-26 20:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by Blessed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you obviously dont mind doing it, because if you did mind, i would imagine that you just WOULDNT DO IT. so if you arent a homosexual, then you would just STOP! i also imagine that you are bi?
i always answer the "if you loved me" questions or demands with.."if you loved me, you wouldnt ask me" especially to do things like that.
maybe you should tell your girlfriend how you feel, and if she doesnt like your answer, then leave her.
2007-12-26 20:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by Becky B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT THE HELL IS THE MATTER WITH YOU! Tell your girlfriend that you don't want to do that with a guy!!! If she really loved you she wouldn't make you do something so ******* wrong!
2007-12-26 20:01:38 · answer #7 · answered by inotstoopid224 is anti-Jonas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to bed kid. If you really f*cked a guy you wouldn't go on Yahoo! Answers of all places to talk about it.
2007-12-26 20:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her, hit the road, make tracks or quit moaning ya crybaby and let your mistress keep dominating you....she should be fittin you for a leash real soon...
2007-12-26 20:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by wrathofkahn03 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her if she loved you she wouldn't make you do something you didn't like.
you like that huh?
2007-12-26 20:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by NS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋