my friend is getting married and i'm giving her money as a gift...the only problem is i'm not sure how much to give her. i'm a college student on a budget. we were good friends in high school but don't really stay in touch anymore....
2007-12-26 11:39:30 · 17 answers · asked by lillejetaime 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It just depends on how you feel and what you can afford. If you are going by yourself $20-$25 should suffice. If you plan on bringing a date double it.
You cannot go off the answer above because how on earth would you know the cost of dinner plate at the reception? Unless the bride or groom tells the guests, in which case would be pretty tacky on their part. Besides, Emily Post or any other wedding advice expert has never said that as a rule! My dinner plates were a bit costly, for example, and I received monetary gifts from $20-$500, and I appreciated each gesture.
So, go and have fun, see your old high school friend because that would mean more that any gift!
2007-12-26 12:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by ohmygosh 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Give ONLY what you can AFFORD without being short of cash.
If that happens to be $50, then that'll be your present. If its $10, then its $10... etc etc.
If its someone you hardly talk to anymore, $20 would be fine. Or even a nice card, as gifts are never ever required for a wedding whether you can attend or not.
2007-12-27 06:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
$100-150 would be good for the newly-weds. If you bring a date or some other guest then I'd say give them $150-200, if you can give a little extra. They might use that money to buy new items for the kitchen in their new home. Another suggestion would be to give them some kitchen supplies for their house. Like blenders or an espresso machine from Starbucks. Maybe some bath towels or some soaps and bath beads.
2007-12-26 12:17:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
My Fiance and I always give at least 200...100 if going alone obviously, but weddings are expensive...depending on where you live they generally cost 100 a person to attend. Although you can't completely tell ahead of time how much it costs you can gauge depending on dinner/location. If it's fliet mignon in a nice country club you should give a bigger gift, if it's a smaller affair in a backyard ect somethin smaller...and so on.
2007-12-26 17:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think that you could come out cheaper if you bought her something, find out where she is register and get her something cheap from there that you can afford. Are you invited to the wedding, and if you are it could have cost more if you were in the wedding and I know from experience that you can get someone something for less than 25 dollars if that is alll you want to spend.
2007-12-27 03:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by Alisha Dover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You give the amount that you can afford. Your friend should understand that as a student you don't have a lot of money and be happy with whatever she receives.
2007-12-26 19:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by Julie R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
an engagement gift? - send her a card with a $50 gift card to bed bath and beyond (or whatever store she registered at)
if it's the bridal shower - I'd say $75-$100
if it's the wedding itself - you should cover the price of your plate plus a tad more - so about $150ish (that's if you don't bring a date) - if you do I would give $200 - $250
but considering you're still in college and on a budget - get her something else from her registry if you'd like or whatever you're able to afford
when i was in college I gave my friend $100 without a date/guest
2007-12-26 12:15:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
I would say around $50 to $100. I think that you could easily work that into your budget after all she is your friend and its her big day. I think that would be a nice gift.
2007-12-26 12:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by coolliz2444 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't base your amount on the 'level' of your friendship. She/He has invited you to the most important day of their lives.
The amount you give would depend. Are you going solo or bringing a date? Don't forget they are spending money on your meal so it would be nice if at minumum you cover this cost.
Personally I would go no lower than $100.
2007-12-26 20:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow! I think giving $25 - $50 is a little insulting to the couple. And no, a couple doesn't advertise what they are paying per plate for each guest but most are smart enough to guestimate.
As an unofficial rule of thumb, most guests give based on what they think the cost of the plate is...so ordinarily my husband and I give at least about $200 (we live in NY). Since you are a college student and it is understandable don't have the money to spend, give what you think you can afford...anything will be appreciated. When I was in college and my cousin got married, I gave her $100 without a date.
2007-12-26 12:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋