Most recently two. One i dated for five years and the other i dated for two years act like they can't live without me but they don't want me back and they dont want me with anyone else? i don;t discuss my current situations with them but they call about once a week and if i dont answer or call back for a while the call and leave messages asking why i dont talk to them or why am i mad at them because i didnt call back soon enough. the one i dated for two years also has caused problems with other dates. such as telling me lies about them and visa versa. what the hell can i do? i've had offers to move to another state because the situations are so bad. do i need too leave? whats wrong with these girls that dont want me but dont want me too have anyone else?
2007-12-26 11:31:14 · 14 answers · asked by dragonfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ex's are ex's for a reason change your number and cut them off. They think just because you were with them that they have an unlimited access to you regardless of your situation. You do not want them getting in the way of current and future relationships. They need to realize that you guys broke up for a reason. Stay strong you sound like a decent guy do not let them get to you. Good Luck
2007-12-26 11:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you responding at all to them? Do you have any contact, even if it is just to respond to one of their inquiries? Don't.
Moving may be an answer provided you leave absolutely no forwarding information.
If nothing else works and moving is not reasonable for you, change your phone # and make it an unlisted number. be particular about who you give it to and do so only with instructions that they do not give it to anyone for any reason.
Change your email. Don't use an email address that identifies you. And/Or set up your email so that messages from your ex is not accepted.
The next best thing is just don't even open an email from them. Delete it right away.
You can rent a mail box so that they can not reach you by mail. If they come to your home or work and harass you get a restraining order.
Now look at yourself. what is it about you that you continue to attract these types of women? Perhaps you need to sit down with a counselor or a good friend or someone who knows you well to help explore this.
You mentioned "If I don't answer or call back for a while." This seems to suggest that you do answer and do eventually call back some times. Stop it now.
2007-12-26 11:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be cool. No need to leave. When you meet the right girl tell her about the 2 bozos and that way when they try to talk you down should be no effect. But be honest with Miss Right
2007-12-26 11:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by Andrew B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. The problem is. . . they don't want you but they don't want you to have anyone else. Just ignore them and move on with your life. Don't look back. . . they're your ex's for a reason. Good Luck!
2007-12-26 11:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u dont need to leave. u need to let them know that its over and since there is no rekindling ur moving on. And if they cannot accept that then u are cutting them out of there lives. simple just like that
2007-12-26 11:35:18 · answer #5 · answered by yayohelpme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhh....we all want what we can't have. They don't want you dating someone else, they want u to pine over them forever, but they don't want to be with u for some reason or another. That's human nature I guess. Good luck with that one. Mabye you should stop talking to them both.
2007-12-26 11:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems controlling, and that 2-year-girl seems psycho. Tell them straight up, "Look, you don't want me, so if you're just going to be a tease, I'm going to find my lovin' elsewhere. Bye." And then find girls who are less controlling. Good luck!
2007-12-26 11:34:47 · answer #7 · answered by GSConsulting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your number first off.
Dont ever contact them again.
Nothing.
You shouldnt have to move out of state because of all of this.
2007-12-26 11:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by Virginia Chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur going to have to find out what it was/is that you gave them(emotional ? or physical ?) that no other guy has been able to give them.
Until you find this out Ur a relationship freshman :-)
2007-12-26 11:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by susmind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They want u back, they just want you to chase them. Or they like the attention.
2007-12-26 11:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋