My friend is almost 17 and she lost her mom to cancer just over 3 weeks ago now...since it's Christmas time, would it be better to keep her busy and try to help her forget (she says she likes my house better and she doesn't really want to be at home with her family) or let her deal with it at home? please help!
2007-12-26 11:31:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She should probably be with family during this time. She needs to handle her emotions and grieve with those closest to her. Just let her know if she needs you that you are there for her, but let her decide what she wants to do.
2007-12-26 11:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by TG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas time will probably be a sad time for your friend but it is probably also a hard time for the rest of her family. This is the time where all of them should be helping eachother to grieve for what is lost. Be a great friend and make your home a refuge several times over the next several weeks. But don't let her stay all the time as she needs to work all of those feelings of loss out, with the family that is going to be left .
2007-12-26 19:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage her to do what she feels like doing. She's working through things in her own way and home/family probably has a lot of (painful) memories of her mom right now. If being at your place helps her be more comfortable and less blue, then allow that if you can. Support her in any way you can...it's got to be so tough for her.
Sorry to hear of her loss...
2007-12-26 19:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she would rather be at your house, then let her. She has all the time she needs to deal with it at home. Let her be where she wants during the holidays bc it will be so much harder on her at home than it will somewhere else.
2007-12-26 19:47:57 · answer #4 · answered by Angelic Valentine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you,
I would first, ask my parents if they would mind.
If they didnt mind then i would also make sure your friends parents dont mind. Then if everything is ok, i would let her stay at my house, i would think she would prefer to be with you at a time like that. Do whatever you can to help her feel better.
hope this helped and good luck!
2007-12-26 19:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is very kind of you to give her so much support, a true friend.
she will have to face reality and get on with her life sooner or later. keeping her busy is great but, don't feel that you cannot talk about her mother,talking helps. she needs to be with the people that feel the same loss.
2007-12-26 19:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by Mary S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep her busy and let her stay at your house if you don't mind. Your house has no memories of her mom thats why she likes your place.
2007-12-26 19:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by zoey1176 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋