cut-off date is Dec. 2nd his birthday on Dec. 3rd should I fight for him to go to kindergarten or let him go to preschool again. He's been in childcare and preschool since he was 6 weeks. He's participated in sports very talkative not shy at all.any advice?
2007-12-26 11:18:58 · 21 answers · asked by Debbie M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
No you should not fight. I am a preschool teacher. Children with late birthdays that make it in the cut-off, do not always do so well. They are usually not socially or academically ready. I think that you should wait until he is older and send him. He will do better then. I have heard that sometimes children who were sent too early do not always show signs of not being ready immediately, but then they get held back in 3rd grade. Please keep your child back. It will be better for him socially and academically. Do you want to risk him being held back in the 3rd grade, and then being cut off from his friends. It would be best to wait. Even if he is talkative, just wait, and he will be one of the oldest in his class, and will be on top of his class too...
2007-12-26 11:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that children who have late birthdays but make the cutoff date should be automatically held back. After all, there has to be a youngest kid in the class at some point. If they make it and are ready, they should get the chance.
However, that's not the case for your son. He missed the cutoff date, even if it's not by much. Most districts are very strict about the dates; if your child misses it by a few hours, he has to wait until next year. And really, what's so wrong with that? Would you rather have him be a big fish in a small pond, or a small fish in a big pond? It's better to start him late than have him go and then have to repeat kindergarten. Think of it this way - if he goes by the rules, he'll be at the top of his class. I say stick with the district's guidelines, put him in pre - K for an extra year, and send him to kindergarten the next year.
2007-12-26 20:21:01 · answer #2 · answered by SoBox 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a Dec 9th baby and we moved to CA when i was 4 and had already started kindergarten in VA... we moved in november. I know my parents had to fight REALLY hard to keep me in kindergarten, even though i had already started in another state. What helped them was to get letter from my teachers stating how well develpped i was... so maybe get some letters from his preschool teachers if you want to pursue...
But, also as a dec baby- i know there were lots of times when it was difficult for me being the youngest. i never really fit in in highschool- i was late developing AND about one year younger than all the other kids! sports teams are also something else to consider. also just overall academic knowledge. luckily i had very supportive parents and theypushed me academically, but some just arent ready- especially when it comes to non concrete tasks- if your brain isnt ready, then your brain isnt ready... math and reading could be difficult areas. Also there was the issue that i was 17 in college for one full semester- still under parental "guidance" and not legally responsible for myself. not a big deal- but sometimes a pain! And then theres the whole turnign 21 thing... that was a pain in college... always being the last!!!!
just my insight as a grown-up "one of those cut-off date kids"
2007-12-27 01:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by Meeeeegan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go through testing to get him in if he passes.
Honestly, I would fight it.
Now, I am 24, so this is almost 20 years old, but...
I was 2 months past the date for my state at that time. My mom didnt or couldnt fight it. I was one of the oldest kids in my class.
It didnt make too much of a difference in early grade school. But honestly, it did start effecting me at about 5th grade. I was physcially developing and going through puberty before the rest of my class. I was emotionally more mature than the people in my class. And about 6-7th grade, I started becoming bored with the class work. It wasnt until about 9th grade I wasnt completly bored. I was able to take higher level electives.
I was 18 in the first month of my senior year. But because I still lived at home and was dependant on them, I was never able to feel like an adult. It wasnt until about 19 the next year that I was able to move out.
Honestly, that close, I would fight to get him in. If he takes and passes those tests, he will probably be put on a higher edu track, and honors classes later on. If he cant do the work, you can pull him out of those later, but he may be able to do it and suceed very well.
2007-12-26 21:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have a cut off day for a reason. They make no exceptions. My son was like that also. Nothing you can do except keep him in preschool. When he gets in Kindergarten he will be more advanced and might possibly be able to skip a grade if you work with him alot.
2007-12-26 20:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by Bilinda G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They have the cut off date for a reason. If they allow you to get in based on Dec. 3rd then the next person is going to say why can't my son/daughter get in with a Dec. 4th. They can reasonably say "it's only a matter of a couple hours from the Dec. 3rd!!" It would snowball from there. I know it is frustrating but fair is fair. Maybe you can enroll him in an extra-curricular activity to keep him learning.
2007-12-26 20:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him wait. I'm a teacher, and my son has a Dec birthday, but our cutoff date is October. He's pretty smart and is reading, but he went through Kindergarten when he was 5 1/2 - 6, and I'm glad we waited. The more mature your child is, the better he will do
2007-12-26 22:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by Librarylady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your paying for his current placement and would have to again yes I'd fight, but honestly I left my son back and he was just a few days shy of the cut off meaning he made it but I chose to retain him in preschool. I wasn't really sure he was ready and I ahve another son and want to retain him but probably won't. He has a late birthday. I have a daughter and wouldn't think of reatining ehr. It depends on the child too sometimes - my boys were early talkers but immature.
2007-12-26 20:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by mamato3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't put him in school yet! You will be sorry for the rest of his school years. Although he may be academically ready, and social with other kids, his maturity will be a problem if he starts school in the fall. It may not show up until second grade or so, but about that age children mature rapidly and his age will be evident to the other children. As time goes on he won't develop physically as early as his classmates (which is particularly traumatic for boys), and he will hit milestones later than the others. For your child's own good, hold off until next year.
2007-12-26 19:28:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My sister was the same way and my parents pushed for her to attend Kindergarten the year they wanted, and they allowed her to attend. You just need to make sure that its what you really want, my sister is now only 17 and was a senior in high school (She tested out of school early) it made it difficult for her later because she couldnt work at the same time as her friends and she couldnt drive until her senior yr and she was the youngest of her friends. But she turned out fine and will be a Freshmen in College on Jan 19th!!!!
2007-12-26 19:29:46 · answer #10 · answered by jessikacarnes 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋