i recently met a nice guy through some mutual friends. he just moved to my area and he's a real southern gentleman! i think i could potentially really like this guy. the thing is, i have a girl friend who he met first and went on a date or so with her. he kissed her one time and may have feelings for her. normally, i would stand down and be happy for a friend to have met a nice guy. but i do think he has interest in me... he calls and texts me and asks me to hang with him. if i really put in the effort, i think i could snatch him!
so what should i do? the other girl is really a friend of my friends, so i dont feel any real loyalty to her. and there isnt much going on between the two anyway. who thinks i should back down or should i go for it?! i recently became single again after a nasty breakup and have been searching for a guy to really like! yes or no!?
2007-12-26 11:17:24 · 16 answers · asked by mrs. miller 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GO FOR IT, if they don't really have nothing serious between them. Take the initiative and ask him out. show him that you have interest in him. if you show him more interest than her, he might just start coming your way. just don't over do it and look desperate. like you said, she is a friend of a friend, not actually your friend, so there is no line that your crossing or anything. "ALL IS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR" good luck
2007-12-26 11:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by tapatia_30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with him at least! This way, you make sure he isn't just a rebound and find out if you really like him or just the idea of having a boyfriend. Understand, he could have feelings for the other girl as well, and you might be able to decide if he's playing you or not, as well. Good luck!
2007-12-26 19:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by GSConsulting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take it slow. After all you just got out of a nasty breakup and than when you've had enough time to know what you want, maybe go for it. However, while she may not be YOUR friend per se, you might offend one of your friends if you try to snatch her friends man.
Good luck though, I hope it all works out.
2007-12-26 19:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by prinsisss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, you have to know where the line that separates "innocent girlfriend" from "man-stealer" is. This girl probably has feelings for him too, so don't go too overboard, as far as "OMG, we kissed and dated and he is so my man" around her. There's nothing wrong with responding to his flirtatious moves, nothing at all. The other chick won't like it a bit, but when you get right down to it, whose fault is it that she couldn't hold on to him? I mean, if she were doing her job right, would he be with you right now? I say go for it. Have fun, be safe, but try not to be a ***** and rub it in the other girl's face, even though the urge will be nearly overwhelming.
2007-12-26 19:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on the rebound. So be prepared for this relationship to be superficial. From the sounds of it, you could use some fun in your life. This person sounds just like the ticket.
Go for it!!!
2007-12-26 19:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by drd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should totally go for it...but don't put yourself so far out there only to be hurt...let him know you are interested in him...but you aren't going to share him with some other girl...then, if the interest is mutual-he will choose you!
2007-12-26 19:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same dilemma...I like this guy..only he has a gf..and he calls and txts me all the time wanting me to come hang with him...I would just wait and see what happens..thats what I'm doin..
2007-12-26 19:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by LiL Miss Lady Bear #15! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your last sentence 'to really like you want ' or to really love. Pick up. If to get to know him and forsake then it's not interesting but to love him with all your heart then give it a try.
2007-12-26 19:24:22 · answer #8 · answered by me_always 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to do anything but be yourself!!! If he is interested it will work out, if not you are better off. Good Luck
2007-12-26 19:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by Andrew B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think he likes you. I think hes just trying to make new friends and be extra nice since he is new.
2007-12-26 19:20:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋