We are having our second child in June. Our last pregnancy was really hard on her yet she wanted another baby so we are having one. Already she is having some minor problems (doctor said nothing serious is going on). I was just wondering what are some things I can do to keep her relaxed and make sure everything is easy on her. So I thought I would see what other women suggest...
2007-12-26 11:16:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You don't need to tell me I'm a good husband or anything like that. I feel that I owe her this because with out me she would be pregnant right now.
2007-12-27 06:35:16 · update #1
**would not be pregnant! Sorry that up there is a typo!
2007-12-27 06:35:51 · update #2
Number one: YOU ARE A WONDERFUL HUSBAND for asking this. It shows how much you care for her that you are reaching out and trying to ask other women what might be helpful for her, so KUDOS to you on that!
The best things you can do for her is to ask her how she feels. Don't ask her constantly, but if she seems distant or looks blank, sad or concerned, put your arms around her or hold her hand, look into her eyes and ask her what she is feeling. Truly listen to her response and speak from your heart. If you don't know how to respond to something she says, be honest and tell her that. Say, "I don't know exactly how you could possibly feel, but I am here for you and will do anything that you need me to do to ease the situation for you." Tell her you love her. Tell her how beautiful her pregnant body is. Rub her feet and back. Stroke her hair. Let her lay her head in your lap and massage her face while you watch tv. Run her a warm bath. Cook dinner sometimes and / or do the grocery shopping. Even bringing home a present (like a nice outfit for the baby) or something sweet for herself.
Just be there for her mentally and physically. Talk to her. Always communicate, and soft touches are always sweet to us women. We love that.
Congratulations to you and your wife! I hope she has a smoother pregnancy this time.
2007-12-26 11:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by S.D. B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all...your wife is very lucky to have a man like you!!
I wish my husband was even INTO my pregnancy! He goes with me to all doctor appointments (which is nice) but he doesn't ask me how Im feeling or how much the baby's been moving, he's gotten "tired" of me getting excited over movements and no longer enjoys placing his hand on my belly to feel his son moving around.
What can YOU do to help her?? Hmmmm
Help out with household "chores" as much as possible: dishes, laundry, running the sweeper, dusting, if it snowed outside (dont know where you live) then clean off her car or clean out the garage so she can keep her car in there in the winter time.....offer to rub her arms, legs, feet, back, etc....whatever body part you feel like rubbing for her.
If you're asking this question then you must already be a great husband ..... doing these things will just make you all the better....and me even more jealous of her!!
Good Luck!!!
2007-12-26 21:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by mikki080 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww you are so sweet. You remind me of my husband. The best thing he did for me during my pregnancy is pay attention to me. For some reason, when a woman feels sick, attention really helps us feel loved.
Other things my husband did were: making dinner, cleaning the house, shopping for foods that I craved. Bringing water to my bedside, rubbing my back while I was throwing up. Being in charge of all my dr appointments - remembering the dates/times and driving me to them. Taking me to the diner after the appointments for little "dates".
Congrats and good job!
2007-12-26 19:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, I wish my ex hubyb would have asked this when I was pregnant... what a thoughtful husband!
Pay attention to her, ask her what she needs... let her rest a lot... hire a part time helper to help with the kids if she is at home resting while you work... foot massage... back massage... and let her pick what you both watch on tv... LOL that last one is a big one...
tell her over and over how beautiful she is and how much you love and respect her...
be sincere... and take your cues from her..
2007-12-26 19:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by astutewoman 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are a blessing to her already! Just help out around the house and with your older child as much as you can. Let her go to bed early, sleep in, and relax. Take her out if she feels up to it, and be a good ear when she wants to complain! Congratulations!
2007-12-26 19:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by lisa_nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her little pastries or snacks that you have heard her craving and bring them on your way home from work.
Give her lots of attention, tell her how beautiful she is and caress her hair.
Sing her your wedding song even if you voice is horrible.
Watch some cute baby movie with her (look who's talking or father of the bride) or some romantic movie that is funny for you at the same time.
wear a tong and give her a funny strip show
Hope that helps
2007-12-26 19:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by Social Media Sass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to help her out and keep her stress down. Let her rest and don't let her do too much. Try to be considerate of the fact that she can't do everything the same way she was before she got pregnant and try to keep arguments from getting out of hand.
2007-12-26 19:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by Valerie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 18 weeks pregnant myself for the 1st time and am having bad morning sickness and right now I am sick. My boyfriend always offers if I need anything. Food, water, a tummy rub (I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THEM NOW!) or my heating pad etc. It has made me fall in love with him even more seeing how nice and doting he's been to me for this pregnancy. You sound like a good man. Good luck.
2007-12-26 19:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do the cooking and the heavy cleaning...give her back massages and draw her warm bubble baths. Sometimes if she can't sleep rub her back lighting in circles...it is VERY soothing. Most of all just be available to her when she asks for help and do it without complaints.
2007-12-26 19:22:12 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
helping out with your oldest child without having to be asked would be a wonderful treat for her :) Give her as many chances as you can to put those feet (swollen i'm sure) up and relax.
2007-12-26 19:21:21 · answer #10 · answered by whispurrr_on_a_scream 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋