no, no,no.
2007-12-26 11:07:17 · 11 answers · asked by apple 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Never force a child to hug and kiss someone if they don't want to. I would encourage her to be polite with her words.
2007-12-26 11:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
NEVER force a child to hug, kiss, or otherwise touch a person when she doesn't want to. This will just make her an easy target for molestation. If she is forced to hug or kiss people against her will, she will never learn that her body is her own and nobody should touch her or make her touch them in a way that makes her feel uncomfortable. She may be young, but you need to have respect for her feelings. She's a person, too.
2007-12-26 19:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by SoBox 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should make her give hugs or kiss's what if down the road a stranger wants to [kiss] her but she really needs to run the other way from the bad person but she is going to think she needs to give [kiss'] because she always had too. So no do not make her.
2007-12-26 19:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by ashley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The germ factor would make me not even worry about this issue. Toddler's systems are much more vulnerable to picking up viruses and germs. And honestly, do you know if these people have washed their hands after using the bathroom? I didn't think so. Whatever custom you are talking about (religous, social, I can't really tell from your question), think of a couple of words she could say instead. Then make a verbal cue you will say to prompt her to say the words that are replacing the action.
2007-12-26 21:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't make her do that. It's disgusting and it's the fastest way to spread colds and infections. How do you know they wash their hands as often as they should? Or that they didn't just have the flu?
There's nothing wrong with teaching her to say hello politely.
I'm an adult, and I try not to kiss people or touch them unless I really have to, and I carry a bottle of Purel in my purse to discreetly clean my hands afterwards.
2007-12-27 14:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never force a young child to kiss or hug anyone she doesn't want to. Even though she is young, her own boundaries should be respected, and she should have the right to say no.
2007-12-26 19:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by daa 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't and you shouldn't. Its an invasion of her personal space and you will make the situation far worse for her if you try to insist. Let her come to it in her own time, if indeed she wants to.
Everyone is entitled to personal space, even small children. Let her have hers until she feels ready to share her space with others. It may take a while for her to trust her elders, but if they deserve her trust it will come eventually.
2007-12-26 19:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by elizabeth v 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
dont 'make' her do that. if that isnt comfortable for her at this age it isnt right to pressure her to do it. when she gets to an age that she can understand 'why' to do this for the elders, then she may do this of her own accord. pressuring her may make her lose trust in you or worse...make her suseptable to harrassment from boys when she's older. good luck ...be a kind mommy.
2007-12-26 19:17:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think kids learn from parents. How about try to show her first and she can take the cue from you. If she refuse to, let her be for now. In time when she grow up, she will learn that and probably do also.
2007-12-26 19:12:22 · answer #9 · answered by Baby Girl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why force her to express an emotion that she does not feel?
2007-12-26 19:10:03 · answer #10 · answered by PickleMe 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋