I am thinking if I hang out with my boyfriend tonight I'm going to give oral. I haven't done anything with him yet...but I'm just wondering if this makes them more 'whipped' or whatever? (that's not the reason I'm doing it) I'm just wondering what the guys point of view is because it's usually the girls that get more attatched from what it seems..but I'm not sure because I haven't really done this before..I also don't want the opposite effect and have him pull away..so I just want your thoughts on that! thanks
2007-12-26 10:52:21 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if you are both not ready in your relationship to be moving to 3rd base, then it will freak him out and he will move away. On the other hand, he might just stick to you like glue because he knows you are willing to give him oral. Just keep in mind, once you give him oral, he will want it all the time. You can't just do it once. Be ready to service him every date, and every time you are alone. Is this what you want? Don't do it just because you want to keep him "whipped". Just being a good girlfriend will do that.
Don't do anything you are not ready for. Good luck sweetie
2007-12-26 11:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you think about it, one of the reasons so many guys enjoy getting oral is because they feel like they're in control. They've got a girl on their knees in front of them and they're feeling good. Most guys (not all) honestly, if they could have it their way, would have a girl kneeling in front of them, watching football, and drinking a beer all the time.
honestly though, it shouldn't make you feel like you're whipped if you're doing something because you want him to feel good. But if he refuses to do the same for you because he feels like that makes him whipped, then he's a hypocrite. Keep that in mind...
most importantly keep in mind that
1. Some guys won't feel obligated to return the favor just because you make them feel good,
nor will they feel obligated to treat you as more than a sex toy.
2. Many guys don't have to have feelings for you to screw around with you.
2007-12-26 10:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by pieninja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You BOTH have to be secure and comfortable in the relationship. While sex does not necessarily make the man get "whipped" it may have them more attached to you. Not just for the physical activity but if they already have genuine feelings for you (and I mean real feelings ... not just the lines to get a girl in the sack ones) than the sex is a way of you two getting closer!
If you are ready to take that leap (it is sex!) than go for it. Just remember that doing adult things comes with adult responsibilities and adult problems!
2007-12-26 11:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by Stephmeister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys bond by having sex with a girl, it makes them feel closer to someone they already have feelings for. Of course, they can also look at sex purely from a physical standpoint if they don't care about the person. You should be in a relationship of some duration, and should have an idea of how your friend feels about having sex before you do anything.
2007-12-26 10:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a girl surprise me by giving me oral and loved her for it. I thought it was such a selfless act. But she knew what she was doing because I was amazed at how well she did it.
If you want to give him the ultimate gift, prepare yourself for it.
I wasn't whipped, but I was swayed.
2007-12-26 11:04:50 · answer #5 · answered by drd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it makes me less whipped. I mean I would crave the sex but by the same token feel in control.
2007-12-26 10:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by scandal917 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should wait. You dont sound like you are too sure about what you are going to do. And it sounds like you are going to do it so you can make hi whipped. Dont do it.
2007-12-26 11:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by luvcaramel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, men are whipped if you put out, and good at it, if you give him head, he is just feeling like the man, not you feeling in charge, so basically your whipped!!!
2007-12-26 11:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by Niccole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no they don't. He will get attached to you for the right reasons, not cuz you do special sexual things to him, that's just a perk.
2007-12-26 10:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by tapatia_30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is already attracted to you, sexual activities are just an added bonus.
2007-12-26 10:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋