okay feel kind of weird asking this ? but i don't know to do cause i can't tell my sisters or freinds this cause it to personal feel like their look down on me & such please help me =/
well alwayz i been dating this guy for about 2 months now i really like him & we done lets say a lot of stuff but not (sex) u know new years is coming up and u know he wants me to have sex with him i told him i not ready for that and i kind of want to safe that for marriage & stuff or yea we are both virgins he says he wants to me to be his first he like come on but i am scared he is like no one will ever know but i will u know sex changes everything right i feel like we are moving to fast we like not even a couple yet did & oh yea he never had girlfriend before but his longest relationship was 10 months & if i do choose to have sex i want to be in love with the person idk if wants to get inside my pants or what? or is he really into me?
2007-12-26 10:38:34 · 52 answers · asked by anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yea i not young i am 21 just u know
2007-12-26 11:35:57 · update #1
2 months?!? dont do it
2007-12-26 10:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Corey T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never mentioned how old you are, nowadays I guess it doesn't matter. It sounds like you are young though. I'm not saying "wait till marriage" the chances of that happening are slim to none.
If he's REALLY into to you then he'll wait till you are ready. The simple fact that you have to ask us about whether or not you should means that you have your doubts. LISTEN to your own inner voice. Wait until it tells you that you are ready. That you are sure and that YOU can't wait any longer. Guys will say ANYTHING to get you to sleep with them, doesn't matter what age. Listen to your inner voice and you'll know.
2007-12-26 10:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by SARAH W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay:
1. how old r u?
2. 2 months and u want to have sex!!!!!
OMG r u serious!? u may love him but sex is not what makes a relationship... If you do have sex ( I don't want to be mean but... this is what happened to someone i knew that this happened too) Okay my friend had sex they went out for 3 months. after that he kept asking 4 more. They broke up. Every one called her a slut she lost all her friends, and had to get an abortion.
So the answer to ur question plz wait!
2007-12-26 10:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT. My husband did 'give in' a total of twice (both times when he was 18) and he didn't really enjoy either, so he made a vow to NEVER HAVE SEX until it was with his 'one and only one woman for the rest of his life' ... He was 39 and I was 46 when we MET ... and when we got together as a 'couple' a few weeks later, our 'first time' meant more to BOTH OF US because of his 'vow' ... there's a story that goes with it, but I think you are both too young for that story ... so I think you need to 'take my word for it' and WAIT ... I was RAPED when I was 17, or I would have 'waited' too ... but not until I met my husband now, of course, because I didn't know then what I do now ... and I had to 'do everything' just as I did so we could meet at the 'right' time ... but by WAIITNG you'll have time to grow, learn, and mature, and that way when you do 'give in' it will be at a time and a place you ARE READY FOR in your heart. Right now, you are NOT READY ... so don't 'give in' to his asking. Tell him that you have too much respect for yourself and for HIM to give in now ... and then suggest you go outside and watch the fireworks, or perhaps you could babysit everyone's kids so the older people can enjoy the holiday in style and know their little ones will be safe.
2007-12-26 10:48:24 · answer #4 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is just trying to have sex. If he loved you he would respect you and let you wait, not pressure you to hurry. I say, Save yourself for marriage, like you said you want to do. If he won't accept that, then maybe you should get rid of him and find you a good man who will love and respect you. People may not say they are out there, but there are good virgin men out there. They just don't advertise that they are. Hang on and keep looking. You will find him! And, to be honest, I do not think he is a virgin! I think he is saying it to get close to you so you will give him what he wants. I hope you won't do it, but will instead stand your ground, and protect yourself and wait for the right time and person.
2007-12-26 10:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by busymomkaren 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey this is an easy answer but a difficult but important descion for you.
Please if you do not feel ready to have sex, don't if this guy is the one, and does really love you, he will wait, I promise.
You should never be forced into doing anything you dont want to, you will not feel right through it (trust me, Iv been there)
YOU should feel ready,look deep into his eyes and if a smile grows on your face and your heart says go for it, do it! But if there is any doubt (not nerves, doubt) dont there will always be another time if he truely loves you. Dont let yourself go to just any one, its not worth the heart ache.
Good Luck xx
2007-12-26 10:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by Rodeo Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't ready (and you've already stated that you're not), then wait. If he's the guy for you, he'll wait also and not pressure you. If you want to wait for marriage, or for true love (which is an excellent idea), then stick to that...and explain that to him.
It can be scary, and besides that...there can be consequences. Like pregnancy.
If he's really into you, then he'll wait with you until you're ready. Don't let him pressure...you'll only end up regretting it later and wishing you had waited.
2007-12-26 10:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by amieretto 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No the QUESTION is are you responsible enough to handle the outcome. What if you get pregnant, get Aids get VD . Can you support a baby , get medical help , find a place to live. Any stupid person can have sex . A smart WOMEN had sex when she is RESPONSIBLE . I promise you the person you have sex with will tell all his Friends and they will tell their friends and the next thing you will here is how YOU had sex with 5-10 guys. Now the first thing you need to do is TALK TO YOUR MOM .
2007-12-26 10:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you have said YOU are not ready. Period. Don't do something you will regret. When you are ready, you will have no doubts about it. Trust your feelings on this and if he keeps pressuring you dump him. I have 5 daughters that could talk to me about anything, because they knew that I am not the judgemental type and I am giving you the same advice I gave them. Do NOT have sex until you KNOW you are ready because you risk feeling guilty for the rest of your life. Besides the other dangers that every one harps on.
2007-12-26 10:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by James E Lewis AKA choteau 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kinda pretty much answer ur own question. And yeah sex does change everything.trust me! and it seems like he wants to have sex more than u do.dont let a guy push u to do something u think u might not be ready yet.and it's even more wonderful when u love that person when u have sex. b/c say things dont work out with u guys and u lost ur virginity. it's going to be something painful to go through.i've gone through it and it sucks.but me and my ex fiance are working things out.relationship arent easy to beginning with u kno.well just go with ur gut feeling and he should respect ur decision u chose.well take care=]
2007-12-26 10:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let him pressure you into doing something you do not want to do. It sounds like that is what he's after. If he really cared about you he would wait until YOU are ready and that could in fact be the day you get married. He needs to understand and respect that. If he doesn't, its time to get a new boyfriend.
2007-12-26 10:42:26 · answer #11 · answered by *Cara* 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋