My boyfriend is getting a bit sexless. I have talked to him but he keeps saying he does love me but doesn't want sex as often as we used to. Once every two/three months is enough for him. Told him I couldn't put up with that. We don't sit and cuddle up together and we are just like brothers and sisters. Any advice on how can I put a spark back into the relationship??
2007-12-26 10:18:36 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There has to be some reason for this. Maybe he is under stress about something else that has affected him. Or, if you have been dating for a long time, you may just now be finding out what happens as the lust diminishes and turns into a more committed love during a relationship. If so, it seems you have very different sex drives. Be honest and tell him you are no longer satisfied and you have to work on a compromise. He could satisfy you in other ways, even if he doesn't want sex himself. If he refuses to try, that tells you a lot about his real feelings.
2007-12-26 10:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can try all the usual techniques, and they may work. Some men are just not as into sex as other men are. It's a myth that all men want it 24/7. Every man is different.
If he used to like sex a lot and it's a sudden change, he could be stressed or run-down. Unless of course you've been together for less than 2 years, in which case this is just a normal case of the honeymoon period ending.
Try not to pressure him or make a big deal of it, or he will feel that there is so much importance on sex that he can't be bothered with the hassle.
You need to make an important decision about what sex means to you in a relationship. I know it is very hard when your libidos do not match. You have to examine what the two of you have as a couple and whether you are a strong enough couple to carry on together one way or another. You really need to talk to him again and if you feel that this is a deal breaker, then so be it.
xx Emmie
2007-12-26 19:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how much sex do you need, i'll bet my house that once every 2/3 months is not enough for any self respecting woman. You can be as polite as you want, but the trueth is you need sex at least 2/3 times a week just to function normaly. If you are only getting it 2/3 times a month it will not be long before you are getting it els were, either that or you like your toys & a lot of DIY
2007-12-27 13:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not right for you. Find someone with a similar level of interest in sex as your own. You'll never be happy otherwise.
2007-12-26 18:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff A 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe the spark has gone...
it does happen..maybe not for you but for him he might still love you but that spark isnt their..their might be other reasons such as stress and stuff why he dosnt want sex so much.
ask him
2007-12-26 18:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont have to just come with me and u will be the richest girl in the world, but instead of having alot of money u will have alot of sex.
2007-12-26 18:24:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you used to do. Dress sexeh! Be a little naughty with him. Be a little sexually adventurous. If he doesn't respond to that, he might be truely broken. Thank God you didn't marry him.
2007-12-26 18:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by Phienyxx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately mine is the opposite. Perhaps if we get the two to meet, they will change each other. You can have more, and I can have less...
2007-12-26 18:21:45 · answer #8 · answered by Linds 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
chances are the sex isnt that great, Spice it up a bit and try new things, and another thing might be is that HES GAY! ..
2007-12-26 18:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Slip him half a viagra (grind it up in his fav drink).
2007-12-26 18:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋