i have started dating this girl for 3 days but i just found out the she has a kid at the age 16 buy her ex my question should i date her even tho she has a kid
2007-12-26 09:57:44 · 33 answers · asked by Joseph G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is a matter of you trying to predict a future you don't know if it matters yet or not.
You have just dated for only 3 days. Instead of allowing a kid to be a focal point of your relationship so early on, I would first enjoy her company, find out her current moral ethics, and things you may have in common.
Even if it never develops into more, at least you got out, enjoyed some company, and perhaps gained a new platonic friend. If it develops more, you may find the "kid factor" a non issue because you love her and everything about her which would be the child too.
I would recommend not being involved with the child's life until you know you want to be a bit more serious about the relationship. I am not talking marriage. I mean, you realize it may be worth investing emotional time and elevate to a steady relationship. So stop sweating the major stuff until you have conquered the smaller ones
Remember, it is our past choices and mistakes who make us of what we are today. So even past mistakes sometimes make us a strong person today with some good character.
Good luck and much prayers
2007-12-26 10:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Spicy Song Yung 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i can tell you is this. Be very careful . It depends on what your looking for. If you don't date her one day you may look back and feel like you made a mistake by passing her up just because she had a kid. I made that mistake and to this day it has been almost 20 years ago and i still think of her sometimes and wonder if i passed up what was right for me. She may be a wonderful girl and the right one for you. The only way you will ever know is to date her. Just don't get her pregnant to soon.
2007-12-26 10:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if she has a kid? It shouldn't make a difference in you really care about her. My only concern would be that you're just now finding out. She should have been up front from the begining. Parenthood is something to be proud of! Even if it isn't ideal timing.
2007-12-26 10:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by michelle ma belle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean DATE, or do you mean have SEX WITH? If this girl is not pushing sex with you, then she is a good gal, despite the fact that she has a child. Having a baby doesn't make her a BAD girl. But, if she is not using protection now, and puts going out above taking care of her child, then she is not the kind of girl you would want to end up having YOUR child, now, is she?
2007-12-26 10:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should. Shes either a good person or not. Maybe she is and maybe she isnt. Her having a kid at 16 is something you should find out about and discuss but it could be shes a great person.
2007-12-26 10:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by soren 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its totaly up 2 u and even though she has a child that still shount mean anything.. she probably has a great personality... here is a ? 4 u.. Did u really like this girl be4 u knew she had a child? if its yes then continue 2 talk 2 her but if not then leave but i say its shount matta if she has a child or not... its ur choice
2007-12-26 10:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by mz.Un4gettable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should that stop you? the way the world is today if everyone didnt date someone jus cos they had a kid by someone else then there would be alot of lonely people out there. if you like her go for it
2007-12-26 10:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by kaye j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOw wait. Does she have a kid who is sixteen or she is a daughter and she is sixteen. If she is the one who is sixteen and she is the kid then its okay. Most of the girls I have dated are daughters. If she has a kid and she lied to you and she is really sixteen then she is a liar.
2007-12-26 10:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol i love the title to your question
youre on Y!A, we understand the reason you might be here is that you have a question!! = D
anyways i think you should think carefully about what you might be getting into.
make sure that you are ready to commit to someone who has a child, and how serious it gets if you are ready to be a father.
whatever you choose, make sur eyou are confident in your decision.
how will it affect the child, and be a good roll model.
2007-12-26 10:01:39 · answer #9 · answered by boooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's only if your sincerely comfortable with dating a woman who has a child by someone else. if your not comfortable then either just leave it at a friendship and move on from there. if your are comfortable with it then handle the whole relationship with her and the relationship with her child like a responsible adult and things on your end should go smoothly.
2007-12-26 10:02:23 · answer #10 · answered by onewithoneself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋