I hav a boyfriend I hav been dating for a year now. He thinks I work as a bar tender in a club but really, I'm a stripper. I' ve done a good job of hiding it. Should I tell him?
2007-12-26 09:55:23 · 27 answers · asked by questionable 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lmao wow....thanks guys
just so you all know none of this is actually true. Just wanted to see wat u wud all say...
thanks
2007-12-26 10:16:00 · update #1
No i would not tell him that is your business! Does he take care of you and pay your bills??? If not then you are your own boss! If he was so great of a provider you would not be stripping I assum? which there is nothing wrong with what you are doing because you are holding your own! And yes he would definitely lose respect for you if he was to find out and that's the reason you have not told him in the first place because you already know the answer right? so my darling save up so money and change your career soon! so that he does not find out or you having to tell him. I am 44yrs old been there and done that! Good Luck!
2007-12-26 10:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by aliece 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he dumps you then he wasn't worth your time in the first place. If he cares and is secure enough with your relationship then he'll accept what you do for a living. Explain your a stripper not a prostitute, what you do for a living should not have any real barring on your relationship as a whole. Unless he's a totally insecure freak about it. Then in that case he's soooo not worth it.
Good luck girl! If your secure enough to strip for a living then there is no need to be ashamed about it!
2007-12-26 18:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by lady in black 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how you kept this from him for that long, maybe he knows. Even so, you should have some idea of what he would feel if he knew the truth. If he is progressive and liberal he may not care, but if he is a jealous guy he may be very upset. You need to tell him the truth if you think the relationship is going anywhere at all. Be honest and don't apologize for the job, but apologize for not telling him the truth. It really is your only choice, if you want a committed relationship.
2007-12-26 18:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why have you not told him before now. Are you ashamed of what you do for a living. To be honest you really only have 2 ways of dealing with this one. Yes you may have gotten away with t ths long. But sooner or later someone going to see you and tell him. Save your self alot of pain .2. Go out and find another job before your time run out. You no him better then anyone. How would he react. Me I would have a really big problem if it was me. That you been hiding stuff. He wonder what eles you been hidind
2007-12-26 18:01:30 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch... It even hurts me. You must tell him, otherwise you'd be a liar, eventually he will know. "A lie has speed, but the truth has endurance." If he dumps you, then I wouldn't blame him, but have the courage to tell him the truth, otherwise in reality, your relationship is built upon a small lie, as the relationship goes on, that lie grows. This is what is likely to happen, you tell him the truth, if he has respect for your body, he will think, "shi*, what she shares with me, she shares with everyone else." On the other hand, he'd might like to see a show hehe. But really, find it in your heart if you really care. If the guys worth it, do it. You don't like secrets do you??? Then don't do it, karma is a biotch when she has her period. Good luck.
2007-12-26 18:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by RomeoXplicit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, get ready for a break up or he's going to ask you to leave the job. No man wants a real relationship with a stripper.
2007-12-26 17:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by Frankie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation is doomed to fail from the start. If you've been lying for a year, how can he ever trust you? Do you want to be with someone you feel you need to lie to? Are you going to keep the lie up forever? Either you will, or the truth has to come out. He will feel very deceived.
2007-12-26 18:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him. If he dumps you because of something you do then its not real if you hide it and why would you want to be with someone knowing that if they knew the truth about you they wouldnt want to be with you? or maybe hell be ok with it ( I wouldnt) and then you can have an honest and open relationship.
2007-12-26 17:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by soren 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why did you hide it in the first place?your off to a very bad start with this relationship.he might break it off but mainly because of your lie about your line of work,not what you actually do.
2007-12-26 18:01:39 · answer #9 · answered by mr. y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Brendan ...
don't be surprised if he dumps you that is a pretty HUGE secret to keep from someone for over a year.
2007-12-26 17:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by morbidlybeautiful 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋