I've been dating this boy for about 9 months. Last week everything was great like any normal day when he asks me to go to his house, i say ok. I go and we are just sitting there watching a movie when he starts kissing me ( which is normal for us). All of a sudden he puts his hand up my shirt! I tell him to stop! Then he says fine if you won't have any fun then leave. I really like him but that day i don't know what got in to him, should i dump him? I haven't talked to him that much ever since that happened. I NEED YOUR ADVICE!
2007-12-26 09:37:53 · 13 answers · asked by Mrs. Cullen Black [{♥}] 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way we're both only 14.
2007-12-26 10:03:59 · update #1
He snapped at you and acted like a jerk because you wouldn't let him touch your goodies? Heads up, let me tell you, hon, a guy who's first reaction to that situation is to snap is no one I would ever be with. More than likely, he will respond that way whenever you have to turn him down. He will try to make you feel guilty and by the way, that works on some of us. (Me, for instance). Don't let him do that to you! You are 14, you shouldn't have to deal with this.
My advice? Break it off. If it is meant to be, then it will be, and if he wants you back, he'll apologize (after a good amount of time, I wouldn't accept it for at least 2 weeks) and behave like a gentleman. If he does it again, it's done.
I hope this helps! Never let anyone talk you into something you're not ready for!
2007-12-26 14:34:09 · answer #1 · answered by greengirlmissy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, here's what happened:
He likes you, and he wants to progress further sexually than just kissing.
When he made the move, you rebuffed him and probably made him feel a little embarrassed.
Since he didn't know how to respond, he responded by snapping that you never want to have any fun.
Here's what you do: talk about the situation and whether you guys are ready to move forward sexually, what you are willing to do and how you can come to agreement about what will work for both of you. By the way, this needs to be a two-sided conversation, meaning you need to figure out what works for you, not just him. You may decide he's moving too fast for you, but it sounds like you need to have the conversation.
2007-12-26 17:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by alleywag 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's called hormones! I suspect you are early teens? Boys (and girls) sometimes do some very silly things when hormones take over. Explain to him that you are not ready for him to touch you in that way and that if he wants to remain your boyfriend he will have to respect your boundaries. If he won't then you are better off without him. Good on you for taking a stand and not being pressured into anything you do not want.
2007-12-26 17:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are the type of girl that doesnt move to fast in a relationship. Because if you have been with him for 9 months and you wont let him feel you up still thats a stretch. He might be getting fed up with not getting any. I mean sure if you not comfortable with it, find someone who will put up with you. It was wrong of him to tell you to leave because he couldnt feel you up, and he should respect it. but whatever.
2007-12-26 17:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica Ann. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
l would consider letting him go simple because he told u to leave if he couldn't have sexy with u . I may have consider staying friends with him if he would have said lets talk about why Ur not ready but to kick me out is saying that's all he wants
I applaud u for standing up for Ur self and Ur believes if u are not ready
best wishes
2007-12-26 17:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by me y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats sad
and thats just plain evil
if you like him enough to let him touch you and up to the next level then thats your choice
if your uncomfortable iwth it and he still tells you to leave then dumphim cause hes not worth it!
telling a girl to leave just caues she wont let him stick his hand up her shirt is gay = =
2007-12-26 17:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Confuzzled 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sassygra, No , Don"t feel bad for doing the right thing ! Stay pure until you are married.
2007-12-26 17:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't give him another chance! He made you leave because you weren't comfortable with him. He is a jerk. Just dump him.
2007-12-26 17:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by Joel J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dump him. It's obvious he only wants to have sex with you and doesn't care about your feelings, or you as a person.
2007-12-26 17:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's alright he'll come around!!! It is just that most guys including like to try to get to the next step.
2007-12-26 17:43:32 · answer #10 · answered by Hanad 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋