alright, a little about me first. im bisexual, im 16, and i was sexually abused when i was little. ok.. so my mom, and some of my other friends seems to think that since i was sexually abused by my grandfather for many years when i was younger ( it lasted for about 5/6 years and it finally ended last year ) that its the reason why i am not bisexual.. is this true? I feel like it has NOTHING to do with it, and yet she insists thats is the reason for it. I forgave my grandpa for doing this to me and still see him once in a while, and even though it still hurts sometimes to see him because it reminds me of it it does not affect my life at all. umm.. if you need more information you can e-mail me and id be glat to provide you with any other needed information! lol but yea i was just wondering if they are right.. if it is possable for this abuse to lead me to become bisexual. thanks! <3
by the way im not afriad of guys because of this. i have a boyfriend currently and love him to death.
2007-12-26 09:26:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I believe sexuality has mostly to do with how we are wired when we are born. I'm not gay. My parents were the most loving people on Earth. I do not walk around in dresses. Still I feel like I am a woman trapped in a mans body. Go figure...
2007-12-26 10:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by Chic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a gay man. I can not remember not being gay, as I was always attracted to boys. When I learned the meaning of the word homo at 10, all I thought was: "ohhhh ... so that's what I am." So for me personally I am born a gay man. But Im not saying this is true for everybody. The hard thing about your question is proving causation. Are you a born bisexual who was sexually abused, or are you a bisexual because you were abused? A good research question would be: "Are people who were sexually abused in their (early) childhood more likely to be homosexual/bisexual?" Causation can be hard to prove. For example, homosexual boys could assert certain features which make it more probable for them to be abused. Femminity, behavior that deviates from the norm, resulting in seclusion/depression, etc. These features, while linked to being gay, could result in being abused and thus diffuse the answer if you were gay before/after being sexually abused.
2016-05-26 10:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Wounded Heart by Dan Allender, both book and workbook deal with what happens to the inner thoughts and feelings and reactions that happen within the person who was "touched" inappropriately at a young age or by a person who acted in such a way that the child felt the situation was beyond their control, feeling "violated". It is to adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse, (which includes teenagers)(and for adults), you can also glean from the principles and insights that apply universally .
As you read and ponder through this book, you will identify the parts of you that were altered from the innocence of a child.
You will notice the wounding of your heart has touched numerous aspects of your life and how you live it.
Yes, the choices and reactions of the young person will be altered from the person who is allowed to wait until the proper age and situation and relationship.
Sadly, the person who has been violated will not walk away untouched by it. Their wounded heart has been set in a different direction, causing unnatural reactions. (Some people run toward sex, others run away, some turn to a different type of sexual experiences........etc.)
2007-12-26 10:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by Hope 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It probably is not the only cause, but the fact that a male abused you may have opened your mind to the possibility of a sexual relationship with a female.
After I broke up with my first BF when he turned into a bragging jerk, i started getting interested in girls - at first because they weren't boys, but later because they were very attractive themselves.
I am not down on guys either, i am married with three lovely children. But I think having a bad relationship can make you think about alternatives.
2007-12-30 02:43:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There have been all kinds of studies over the years trying to link adult sexual orientation with childhood abuse, most if it by bigots with an agenda to show non-straight people as "damaged."
The only time there's a link is when people with an agenda distort the numbers. There IS NO LINK.
Your mom, I'm afraid, is looking for an excuse for your being bi, an explanation and the most generous thing I can say about that is that she may not reolize she's seeing your sexuality as "caused by damage".
She IS right the abuse effected you. It didn't make you who you are, though--'who you are' is inspite of it.
2007-12-26 10:41:09 · answer #5 · answered by Jane 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I believe if someone has been sexually abused as a child, he/she may feel more comfortable, (safer) being around the gender of those who have not been abusive. This can make it very confusing for him/her to figure out his/her own sexuality.
2007-12-26 09:47:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
it can be the reason sometimes not im bisexual as well but i didnt have any sexual abuse it can be that you just attracted to girls and guys
2007-12-26 09:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by andrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the past is dead!!! let the dead bury the dead, and live in the now!!!
no matter what has happened in the past, all we have is now! i am grateful that you are okay with your sexuality,...its a tough thing at your age to come to terms with.
most of the research on this topic is biased, so i truly do not trust any of it.
let mom believe whatever she wants,...and just be a good human...
2007-12-26 10:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by parkermbg 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
not sure, but if u forgave him i don't think it would have any affect. u might want to ask a proffesional first. Good luck.
2007-12-26 09:35:38 · answer #9 · answered by J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋