I asked the question on crystal meth earlier..?

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I got another one..

We only have known each other 3 months.. he started telling me he loves me in the second month of dating.. 3 days ago he brought up marriage "one day" and having a family with me..


Is this how meth addicts (drug addicts) act? they move fast like that?

is it because he wants me (someone) always around for him/on his side if he gets into bigg trouble?

I asked the dude he lives with (alan.. his father figure) if he is so easy/quick to tell his past girlfriends that he loved them.. and he told me "no.. actually he hasent ever told a girl that.. that is must be true"

any ideas?

like i previously stated.. I myself have NEVER done a drug in my 22 years.. so I am VERY naive to the whole "drug world" I don't even know the difference between what drug is what (from lookin at it).. this is a whole new world/problem for me.

any advice/help is apprectiated.

I apprectiate all of the answers on my previous question. thanks a bunch!
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Its just so so so hard to just "dump him" and don't look back.. because when he is not using the drug.. he is an awesome guy!.. a completely different person.. The person I met 3 months ago.. He treats me like a queen.. so loving and warm towards me. I know it should be so easy to walk away and "forget about him" but.. there are feeling established even after 3 months..

aghhh.. I am so upset.. so hurt. I am crying as I type this.
16 minutes ago

Also.. when he tells me he hasen't been using and I am suspicious.. what can I look for to prove to me that he is indeed using and trying to hide it from me/lying to me.. Like i said.. I am clueless on this topic.

thanks again so so so much all of you. I am so sorry I have typed a book on both of my questions.

Answer 1

RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN! People who are on drugs are very charismatic, persuasive , and extremely like-able when they are not using, The sad fact is that the "not using" time gets less and less frequent as time goes by, Addicts will suck the life right out of you while telling you that they love you and begging you to stand by them while they try to get clean. Rarely do they ever succeed at getting clean. They end up as old addicts while you will have wasted your life waiting for them to clean up their act. PLEASE DO NOT WASTE YOUR LIFE WAITING FOR SOMEONE WHOSE "REAL" LOVE IS THEIR DRUG OF CHOICE.

Answer 2

I did not see your earlier post. However, it sounds to me as though you posted, and didn't get the answer you WANTED, so you are trying again. The bottom line is that the truth is often something that folks don't want to hear, but that doesn't change the nature of what is true. The world is not going to adjust itself to your liking - you can either be crushed by the steamroller, or realize that it is a steamroller and move the heck out of the way.

You sound very young and in love with the idea of instant romance. (Yes, I know you said that you are 22, but you sound like a very inexperienced or "young" 22, and since you have no experience in the world of drug users, you really have no clue whatsoever what you are getting into. It's not pretty. Watch "the Wall" and see what you feel about drug users then) Sad to inform you, people who are controlling and abusive often leap very quickly into intense relationships - this seems pretty intense, and yes, anyone with an addictive personality - whether they are addicted to meth, coke, or other substances, is more likely to glom onto someone really intensely. And while I am sure you find it very meaningful that he glommed onto you, the question is, what will this to TO YOU? You are already crying - you already don't really trust him, understandably - is this what you want to have to look forward to? Mmm, imagine bringing a kid into this relationship. Think he is going to handle that stress very well? Think YOU can handle the kid and everything else, all on your own?

Of course it is not easy for you to think in terms of dumping him. If you remember the good stuff, then of course you will see that there is a good person inside. Yeah, love can hurt. Big whoop! A relationship that is a living hell also hurts. Think of it as being like ripping off a band-aid. Which hurts worse, ripping it off quickly, or slowly?

The question is, not CAN he be good, but is he truly done with the drugs? If the answer is no, you have a rough ride ahead. In answer to your question, you are intelligent enough to find websites that will give you info on symptoms of meth uses. Use Ask.com. You had best read all that you can, clearly nothing we say is going to make a difference to you. But how good a relationship can it be that you need to wonder if he is still using? Pretty pathetic. Lots of drug users can be very charismatic. Just remember that; I am sure that will keep you really warm and comfortable at night.

Answer 3

ok this has happened to me....my now husband was very very addicted to crystal meth....he would spend his whole paycheck on it and then we would have no money for food or anything.....not trying to scare you but you should really think about this cause yours may do this to you......my man was such a sweetheart when he was off it......we have been together for 3 years now he has been clean for 2 that first year was the worst thing that has ever happened to me.....I got him 2 go clean I am the only person ever that has ever been able to do that for him......I had to leave and shut off my phone for 3 days.....went and stayed with a friend cause I had no other place to go......but I shut off my phone and didnt talk 2 him and had to give him a chance 2 miss me.....it worked I had 2 show him and he has to think he wants you more then the drug.......its a very very hard thing you will probably cry a lot of tears over him.....if you want 2 put yourself through that then you can I will not tell you what 2 do I am just telling you my struggle and my success story.....they CAN break the addiction they CAN they just need a reason 2....a good reason something they want way more then the drug

Answer 4

Yes they move fast as they need the drug. He is looking for someone to take care of him and his addiction. Tell him to piss off as he is using you. That is all they know how to do to survive by sucking the life out of others. You want to be going through this off and on the rest of your life?? Because meth users very rarely ever get clean of the addiction.

Well gee to the person who is alarmed by me: I have seen far too much of what I am writing about. How about you??? Been stolen from including money, jewelry, and my truck, beat up, lied to, and suck dry by a charmer who was addicted. Has also had friends who experienced the same thing from guys or girls who had drug and or alcohol addictions. All I know is it is best to not go into a situation knowing this person is a meth or drug user.

Answer 5

Meth is bad. But you know that. It's not like smoking some pot. You need to educate yourself QUICK on the subject and decide how you want to proceed. If I were you, I'd tell him you really care about him but can't make a committment until he cleans himself up. And that's putting it in the nicest terms I can. I want to tell you to DTMFA, but I'm holding back because I can tell you care about him and people can change their ways.

I would look for lethargy, hyperactivity, mood swings, poor hygeine/physical appearance, abnormal sleep patterns, no money etc. as signs of meth use. I wish you and him the best.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Methamphetamine
http://www.drugfree.org/Portal/DrugIssue/Meth/index.html
http://www.crystalrecovery.com/

Answer 6

Im rather alarmed at the previous answerer's conclusion that all drug addicts are complete leechers and users. Crystal meth information can be foudn in general at FRANK
http://www.talktofrank.com/drugs.aspx?id=178
I know of most side effects of taking Crystal meth, and as far as i am aware, rushing into relationships is not one of them. Though some side effects do affect sexual behaviour, causing them to run into, for lack of a better word "risky" sexual situations. also, they tend to develop lacerations aroudn the face and upper body after heavy use. im no expert, but i reckon that hes talking about this because he really likes you, not because of any drug effect that i know about. saying that, i don't condone any drug use of any harmful kind. the way i see it, you are supporting him. and he respects you for that. hope i may haev helped a little.