I mean, they are not wearing t-shirts that say "hey I am a jerk" or "hey I am a nice guy"...
So, how do you decipher in the early stagws of meeting someone... questions you ask, etc to get a feel if someone is just playing nice or actually is nice?
2007-12-26 09:22:40 · 27 answers · asked by astutewoman 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I watch how he acts around other people and how he reacts to certain situations and comments he makes. Does he have many friends? Is he close with his family? Also, find out how he treats his mother. . . that's very important. However, he treats his mother is a good indication of how he's going to treat you. I found this to be true.
2007-12-26 09:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A jerk thinks he's just wonderful. He'll not want to hear anything about you, but will talk about himself all day. He is usually only after sex or whatever he needs at the moment. A jerk usually thinks that women are a little inferior to men. Even if they don't say it, they are usually feeling that.
A nice guy on the other hand is probably a little shy. He is looking for a good time with a girl, however not necessarily involving sex. He respects women. He might be a little old fashioned. The nice guy is usually the one who is overlooked due to his shyness and introverted nature. Usually, nice guys are right under our noses and women far too often fail to notice them. They are the ones who will remember your birthday and bring you chicken soup when you are sick. They will ask you how your mom is and ask you about and actually remember things you have going on in your life.
2007-12-26 09:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by zimmiesgrl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can tell by the way a guy acts whether he is a nice guy or not, just pay close attention to him. The ones that can play the role as a nice guy will slip up and show his true self after you get to know him. To be honest, a lot of nice guys are turned into jerks, the ones that approach you like a gentleman but you are already mad at someone else so you snap bc its a stranger approaching you. yeah i a sure women think awww what the hell be a man and chalk it up, but after you have approached a lot of women trying to be the "nice guy" and you notice the jerks with that have them, you start to wonder and then poof!!!!! before you know it you are a jerk........
2007-12-26 09:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by kl2parker 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a nice guy usually opens the door for you, pays for everything, and thinks of you, and does what he says he will do, such as call you if he tells you he will talk to you the next day. And these acts doesn't stop after a few dates. He will genuinely be interested in everything that you say and do. But then again, everyone can be a jerk once in a while -- it's human nature. The real jerks are the ones who only thinks about themselves.
2007-12-26 09:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by mlvue 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are no shortcuts.
Unless you have some of those glasses that the chicks are wearing in the "Here's to finding a good man" video, you need to go through the motions. Just talk alot and ask questions, see if you feel comfortable with his actions and words, and go from there.
Try to listen objectively and see if things seem straight or if he seems like he is lying or changing his mind to try to impress you and/or stay on your good side. Let your head listen in, but go with your heart. Your heart (should you decide to listen to what it is telling you, instead of what you want to hear) will not lead you astray (or at least present less a chance of it than listening to your head does).
2007-12-26 09:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by tallcowboy0614 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a jerk will usually have predominant features that show he is a jerk like laughing at you or being rude, disagreeing with everything you say and making a point to explain why you were exactly wrong, or he could agree with everything you say. Nice guys are usually kind and care about your opinions and explain their opinions kindly and don't criticize you. They listen to what you have to say and consider it, unlike jerks that immediately toss what you say out the window.
oh yeah and most jerks won't admit that there is anything wrong with them..they do everything right, etc....
hope this helps!
2007-12-26 09:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by Lou 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A nice guy would help someone because it's the right thing to do. A jerk would have a perfect opportunity and knowingly be able to help someone but doesn't because they just don't want to and are being selfish.
2007-12-26 21:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by Brian 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The jerk will be boastful and tell you what he did in his last bar fight (Stay away from him) Nice guy calls you Ma"am and Miss and treats you good. Jerk calls you babe or woman or My woman and tells you how tough he is. How much he drank, what he snorts, stay away from those that booz or do drugs. Look at the eyes when they talk If they can hold eye contact you can pretty well believe what they say but remember, all boys are after sex it is the nature of boys. but your ideal situation is that they become your husband before they get sex. That is the carrot and they are the rabbit.
2007-12-26 09:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all by their actions. and then just getting to know them. But some guys have at least the brains to know how to be polite and all but can still be major jerks.... but you want the ones who at least have that much. Brains... and know how to be nice and treat a lady.
2007-12-26 09:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by soren 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jerks will make a move on the first date. Nice guys atleast wait til the 3rd.
2007-12-26 09:25:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋