opinions on smacking????

Question

i was just reading a post about smacking ...what does everybody think about smacking..just out of curiosity?i personally dont smack as i find even a slap on the back of the hand has no effect i find taking privilages away and a stern voice is working for my 3... how do ye disciplin(sp)?

if i was looking for smart comments then i'd of emailed ye direct!
i am asking what peoples views are ...i dont expect to be judged on the way i raise MY kids so if ye are gonna be a **** about it then dont bother answering but thank ye to those who are genuine!

LOTTIE W...did ye read the post properly???? if someone posts a stupid comment they cant expect not to get one back....HELLO!nowhere in my post am i preaching....i asked peoples opinions on discipline not the word Tw@t as ye put it!

Answer 1

What do I think about smacking? Well sometimes I just wish I could reach right out and smack people while I drive. You know when they cut me off or refuse to use blinkers until after they stopped dead right in front of me with no warning. Or when someone is rude to me or to someone I love. Or even when I'm waiting on a long long line and someone cuts in front of me. I would love to just reach over and smack them for being bad. But that could possibly land my butt in jail for assault so I hold back and channel my anger in a more effective legal way.

If I wouldn't treat an adult that I don't even have a relationship with such brutality why would I do that to a child that I love.

For discipline I teach, I talk, I refocus, older children I talk, teach, and if that doesn't do it take away privileges. I have sent my kids to their rooms and have at times gone to my own just so we can all calm down first. I have done time outs, calm down time, punch your pillow times (to try to get the kids to get their anger out as well)

I surely am not perfect but I think smacking, hitting, popping, spanking or whatever else you want to call it is just teaching fear and violence. I think my children deserve much better then that.

Answer 2

I only smack their butts if they really are not listening. I don't believe in using objects or smacking above the waist. Make sure you let them know what they did wrong. You can try time out depending on their age. A fair warning is necessary before a smack on the rear and yelling should not be a part of discipline. Try to get down to eye level when explaining why they are being disciplined. I've also heard that smacking a child's hand can cause them to be afraid to shake hands in the future, I don't know how true that is, but I won't take any chances.

Answer 3

Some of these people obviously do not have kids of their own. The naughty corner isnt going to do much, neither is taking away their toys. When my daughter was young i gave her three warnings then the next one was a little smack. Now that she's older its "1, 2, 3 smack", and she usually gives up after 1. Kids dont want to be smacked so obviously they're going to stop after a couple of warnings. It is not violence. It is a productive way to stop children being naughty.

Answer 4

Are we talking about smacking as in slapping in the face? That isn't okay.

A light slap on the hand is okay....a swat or two on the butt is okay (openhanded).

I don't agree with using any object to spank a child.

Physical punishment is always a last resort in our house, unless my son does something dangerous (jumping off of a table, running into the street).

There's my discipline in a nutshell!

Answer 5

We found that smacking depended on the child. It doesn't always work. Sometimes it pays to take away what they enjoy to do most. That then makes them listen & pay attention, & take away privileges. It worked for our kids. A smack on the hand didn't work either

Answer 6

I say smack the little buggers. BUT, don't go over board, because then they may be scarred physically, mentally and emotionally. Personally, I was smacked when I was young, and I'd say I turned out fine. Taking away priveleges DOESN't work, it just makes the kids rebel, and when a kid rebels, hell breaks loose.

Answer 7

if you can take things away as disciplining and it works more power to you. keep it up! some though need what is called a good ole fashion spanking! we as parents dont care to go that route but sometimes grounding or taking things away just dont work. especially when they get older!! so if you can keep yours in line by taking privalages from them then keep up the good work!! i was able to do it also for the most part and was sure happy as i dont like spanking unless it the only alternative!!

Answer 8

Wonder why tw@t was an ok word. It is disgusting.
Don't call names, either. Very childish.
Don't hit people and then turn around and say hitting isn't nice--hello?
Either it is an acceptable way to get what you want or it's not.
Live what you preach.

Answer 9

I agree with it if it works, doesnt seem to work on my son though, and of course smacking within reason, but your not really permitted to smack your kids anymore because of abuse, and i think sometimes words work better.

Answer 10

The only thing "smacking" teaches is that it's OK to hit someone to get your own way. I have raised 4 children who are now successful members of society and I never felt it was necessary to hit them. I, too, took away priviledges, explained why something shouldn't be done or spoke sternly.