I am sooooo mad at my boyfriend. Help?

Question

During the begining of this winter break, I got bitten by a possibly rabid pitbull on my leg. I called my boyfriend that night to tell him the news, and thought I should get some emotional support... He didn't give me crap. Like he never cared. So, I didn't call/texted him back for a day and a half. On Christmas night, he texted me asking me "Are you mad at me?" and like always, I lied and said no. He was all "I miss you and I want you to call me" so I did. I told him all the **** that's happening, how I'm scared for my life... and yeah. He said he's going to find out if we can hang out because he "misses me so much." Well, I called him today and guess what? He's at the mall with friends. The nerve! So he said he'll call me back, but I didn't heard from him in an hour. Then later he texted me saying "I'm sorry I didn't texted I love you". I stared at the phone in shock and screamed in my pillow, lol. There's a party friday at my friend's and I don't know what to do. He'll be there. =(

The reason why I lied to him about the whole mad thing is cause... well, I have issues with letting people into my emotions and stuff. I know, silly, but I had other bad experiences... so yeah. =( I know I have responsibility for that.

Answer 1

Dump him!!!

Geez

Answer 2

Drama drama drama. Look, he's a teenager, and probably not very experienced at relationships. He's going to screw up now and then. You need to teach him exactly what you expect of him, otherwise he has no idea. Guys are clueless like that.
But also, cut him some slack. Maybe he didn't know how to react, or how serious the situation was. People often get nervous in medical situations and don't know what to say to make the sick person feel better. Also, you LIED to him and pretended you weren't mad - how should he know how you feel if you don't TELL him? How can you expect sympathy from him if he can't expect honesty from you??

Call him the day before the party and explain why what he did upset you, and how he should have acted, and what signals from you he should pick up on in the future. Remind him that his words "I miss you, I wanna see you" do not speak as loud as his actions (hanging out with other people instead of you).

Answer 3

There are two issues here that need to be dealt with. The first one is that of the possibly rabid dog bite. I f you haven't done that already, I urge you to go double quick to the hospital for treatment. Rabies is a very serious but treatable disease that is only effective the sooner you start getting the required and necessary shots.My prayers go with you . As to the second issue, your boyfriend was clearly uncaring and insensitive to your need for comfort and support after the dog bite. His subsequent actions also seem to show a lack of understanding and maybe a desire not to want to be with you .Your own lies did not help matters any. Hence what I suggest before you do anything drastic is that you 1) talk to him about how his behavior have hurt you after you got bitten 2)talk to him about his lies to you and his lack of support ,care, or love3) discuss whether he still loves you and if you still love him.You guys have to be honest, open and truthful even if it hurts.4) try to talk to him before the party Friday, this way you will know where you guys stand in your relationship by the time party time rolls around.I know this is a painful period for you but you need to find out now.

Answer 4

While most the girls who answered all jump on the "dump him!" idea. You should probably hear it from a guy point of view.

A few things you should know:

1) guys are idiots. If your going to dump every guy who doesn't understand everything you want and knows everything your thinking. Then you will never be in a good relationship. Honestly sometimes girls seem like ancient chinese puzzles to guys. So mind games and not being honest will probably not end good.

2) guys are not mind readers. I know your not comfortable spilling your emotions out to everyone, but this is your boyfriend. If he has no other purpose its to make you feel better, so if your upset tell him your upset and Im sure he would do whatever he could to help. Also if your mad, tell him. Its better that he knows, its a load off your mind and a new lesson learned for him.

3) He obviously feels bad. He asks if your mad and then he texts you saying he misses you. I know guys. and hes defenatly worried about your relationship. It seems like he really does care about you. He just doesn't understand everything and he doesn't know everything hes supposed to do. Hes trying to do whatever he can, he just doesn't know what to do. Trust me

4) If you expect too much out of guys, you will get disapointed. They aren't going to get everything right all the time. Everytime you get a cut they are not going to sprint to you with bandaids and kisses. And its not like he ditched you to hang with his friends at the mall. They probably just made plans first so he can't change everyones plans JUST for you. He does have other priorities then just you.

Overall I recomend you don't dump him over this, that would just be overreacting. I would bet $100 almost all of the girls who answered for you to dump him are probably "moody" (Im cencoring myself there) 14 year olds who have never been in a real realationship but think they know everything because they have every season of the OC. Truth is he probably does care about you a lot. You just have to be honest and straight-forward with him. If you are mad at something he did. Tell him. If you want his emotional support. Ask for it. Its simple as that, guys are more than willing to be there for you. They are just sometimes clueless as to when they need to be there, and when they are crowding you

Answer 5

I wish this thing gave ages, because you sound like you're 14.

1) When bit by a potentially rabid dog, call animal control, then seek medical attention.
2) When your b/f makes you angry, tell him.
3) When communicating things that are important, texting sucks. There is no emotion in a text message, it is simply words.
4) If you didn't plan a date/time to meet up, how can you get angry with him for hanging out with friends?
5) He's not telephathic and clearly you are having a problem communicating your needs to him, try talking, it works.

Answer 6

It sounds like you are overreacting and he's being a little non-emotional. Are you in middle school? I mean, it's not the end of the world. Go to the party and have a good time. Leave all of the immature stuff at home.

Answer 7

Text him back right now and break up with him.

And stop lying to other people about your feelings. If they don't know you're hurting and that it's their behaviour that caused you to hurt, how are they going to know to stop doing that? They won't. They will go right along thinking everything is fine, and it's YOUR fault in that case, you're only making yourself miserable and that's stupid to do.

Grow a backbone and learn how to stick up for yourself or resign yourself to the fact that you will be a doormat that everyone walks all over for the rest of your life.

Answer 8

You dont have rabies because your still alive and i dont think youve been passing out alot! especially if you can scream into pillows!! lolbut your b/f sounds like an asshole, he didnt even TRY to take time out of his friend time for you, if he missed you he would have written you back WAY earlier! tell him your busy for the next couple of days and dont have time to talk. or you can do my favorite thing and play up on making him jealous! hope this helps!

Answer 9

You have equal responsibility in this lack of communication. Why, "like always", did you lie and tell him that you weren't angry when you were? He's acting this way, going about his business because he thinks everything is fine, and he thinks that because you told him so when he asked you.

Fix it quickly. He needs to know how you actually feel, not how you WANT to feel.

Answer 10

I think you need to find a boy who will actually give a crap about you! I also think you should go to the hosipital and get your "possibly rabid" dog bite taken care of.

Answer 11

You should break up with him.That's not right. He should be more kind. You should go to the party though. There are many more guys out there probobly alot like him, so be careful. Some will be like him, but will care alot more. Just break up with him.