please help me. i dont know why i feel this way?

Question

okay so i messaged this guy i like on face book and we have class together, and we talk, and we share the same group of friends in that class. but the thing is the class we have together is coming to an end. so i am on break now, so i decided to message him on facebook. we talked for a while. and i left a message. he hadn't answered yet, though he has been online. now i feel very anxious and very sad that he hasn't messaged me back and i feel guilty like i did something wrong....please someone advise em what to do. the last time i messaged him was like 2 days ago. i don't wanna be clingy and message him again. but should i at least poke him or something??or would that come off as being annoying?

please answer seriously. i am very uncertain what i should do =\

i seriously cant stop thinking about it. and its really bothering me SO much...help?!?!

i also forgot to mention that he has been on facebook becuase it said he was doing some stuff in the minifeed.....idk what to do

Answer 1

tell him you've found another bloke and moved on -- see what happens then

Answer 2

At some point you will need to learn this concept.

It ain't yours until it stays of its own free will. And if you cater to it, it will stay because of greed (or lust), not any good reasons.

So I would wait at least a couple of more days before (as you say) "poking" him. I sincerely doubt that you did ANYTHING wrong - except read more into the relationship than he did. The saddest thing about early relationships is the ease with which communications between two people can take a sudden "left turn" and be all bollixed up in no time.

That feeling of uncertainty is a hard fact of life and I seriously do understand why you are feeling this way. I hope I can put it in perspective for you: If you and the guy had really good communication, you would KNOW whether you had done something wrong (And so would he!)

One of the nastiest parts of romance is trying to find (and for a while, failing to find) the right partner. Sometimes you feel so very sad you don't know what to do. But the answer is to realize that if you have a good partner, you will not feel sad and will not feel afraid of a communications mistake.

So far as I know from the guy's side of the house, we feel the same sorts of things when looking. I knew when I met the woman I married (starting on 14th year now), it only took a few dates to know she was a "keeper." We took our time and made the effort to be sure.

In the end, slow and steady won the race. Stated another way, you want to give ALL romantic relationships time to fall apart easily. If you rush or push too hard, it will still fall apart but only after your emotional investment is far too much to be comfortable. I know there is that aching feeling that somehow you aren't good enough, that you are doing something wrong, that you are chasing the guys away. But trust me, guys who are serious often feel the same way. And you don't want the guys who aren't serious.

I wish you well, and hope you don't take as long as I did to find my soul mate.

Answer 3

Give him a little time. Maybe he's busy, you never know! And if you really like this guy, you definately don't want to seem pushy, smothering, or clingy and you're not even dating yet. Give it another day or two, then 'poke' him, or send him another message. But don't say 'hey, why didn't you msg me back?' Say something like 'you'll never belive what happened to me yesterday (or today)!' Then tell him about something that went on in the last couple of days. Also say something like 'hey, why don't you give me a call.' or 'why don't we get together with some friends'.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

i know what you mean. The same thing is happening to me right now (only i am a guy and she is a girl) I think you are putting to much thought in to it. (it sounds like you have a crush on him) I would just wait a day or so and message him again or poke him or what ever.
Good Luck.
Hope i could help.

Answer 5

um i wouldnt message him right now because hes maybe going through something right now, or just needs space if he doesnt im or facebook message you in a few days, message him back on facebook, text him, im him and say maybe we need to talk, or want to talk and than he will have to tell you whats going on. Maybe hes upset about something..but if he doesnt come to you , call him or message gim

Answer 6

I really think that you should give at least one more day to answer your message, don't worry about it. If you keep letting it get to you, it's not going to be a good thing. Just wait one more day, and if he don't answer, call him. See what's going on with him.

Answer 7

Don't invest so much of your emotion in this. Back off a bit inside yourself from that, and don't let this count for so much, ok? Take a deep breath and relax about it.

Message him again, give him a poke, see if he responds. If he does, great. If not, forget him and move on.

Answer 8

i dont think u should poke him cuz tht would be kinda clingy
but
i have a facebook and sometimes it doesnt tell u when u get a message - maybe he hasnt seen it yet......i guess u should just wait a while longer

Answer 9

i think that you should message him and just like ask if he had a nice xmas ect.. change the subject. then after say like ' oh did you get that message i sent u the other day it's just you didnt answer thats all.' try to act casual

Answer 10

It's only been 2 days. And everyone is celebrating the holidays. I'd give him some time. Maybe he's actually busy.

Answer 11

He may just be really busy, don't poke him it gets annoying. Try throwing a snowball or inviting him to another application, that should get his attention =]