Is he into me or is he just playing games?

Question

I've been talking to this dude who i've know from around the way but really didn't start talking until last summer. We lost touch for a year and just got back in touch for a minute. We really missed each other like crazy and we couldn't get in touch. When we first started talking he told me he was looking for a relationship. Cool i can respect that but i know he want to be intimate with me. He;s tried. i told him at the time i was practicing abstinence. And he was respecting that. Now, a year later we've got back in touch and he still talks about wanting to be single and how we are friends. Of course he still wants some booty! He thinks that it is inevitable since we are both insanely attracted to one another and that day will soon come. But thats not my issue. i like him so much that i am willing to get in a relationship with him which i have been avoiding for a few years. i even let him spend time with my 3 yr old son and i let no dude around my so unless i really like him. He says..

We are friends which I can respect but he doesn't act like we are. He treats me like we are dating or I'm his girlfriends. Gestures that I don't really engage in with someone i am not dating. like everytime i leave him he kisses me. When i get off the phone with him its like " okay Baby, gimme kiss!" When i don't call its where have you been? He even refers to me as wifey sometimes and if we past a mirror he has to comment on how good we look together Note: i haven't given him any so he ain't sprung on that. It just seems like He tries to act like he doesn't care about me more than he says. i'm not used to all the lovey dovey stuff with someone who is not my man and if we're just friends, why aren't you acting like it. Is he acting this way to get in my pants or does he really like me like i like him? i really like this guy and I'm tryna show him I'll be good to him and until now, i had too much pride to even care if a dude wants me or not. i would just move on. what do you think?

Answer 1

Honestly unless your talking about your past, present, or future feelings, emotions, experiences, or dreams. ITs just a light-happy relationship with this guy flirtin with you in atempts of getting that booty. Understand, males can play GAMES for years! The pay-off comes when you finally DO sleep with him, and a desperate male could wait for a long, long time, and just get off on the flirtin. That aside, unless you guys are doing something DEEPER then the lovey, dovey crap, like communicating honestly like I said before, be pretty sure that something else is motivating him OTHER then your wonderful personality, no offense. But only by the deepth of a relatioship can you really know, and romantic crap like that isn't deepth, its fantasy. Tell me more about the TRUTH he has laid on you other then this, just be friends, flirty-flirt we look great together, your so hot, we should screw, crap, whats his purpose in life? Whats his life history? Whats his motivations in life? Really to be honest, if the relationship was going great, to the point were sex and sexuality should be shared, you wouldn't be in debt like this, you'd know because you guys would of DEEPLY discussed the matter, somewhere between laughter and tears, such is the nature of the human heart.....

I have an e-mail, truth be told, I'd rather be wrong, and you be on your way to the deepest, most meaningful relationship in your life, but on the same hand, if I'm right, I'd feel better if I warned you frist..... theres something much, much deeper then lovey-dovey crap, its call honest communication, done right, it can be damn romantic in its own accord, without trying, this guy, seems to be trying a little to hard for me....