My son planned his wedding 1 yr. in advance. now my sisters daughter has announced she is getting married 2 weeks before my son's big day. if thats not bad enough...they are hosting the reception out of town. Can anyone located the etiqette invoved with this mess.
2007-12-26 08:55:14 · 12 answers · asked by Kenneth L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Wow! It sounds like you got some not-so-nice answers here.... I guess the old saying holds true... don't judge until you have walked a mile in that person's shoes! But, to get to your question..... being a future bride....I think it is pretty rude that they did that, especially since I am sure they are well aware of your son's wedding plans....he's been planning for a year, right? If you can't make your niece's wedding, at least send a gift. I mean, they aren't going to change all of their plans because of one person's disapproval. If they wanted to plan it that close to another wedding, then the fault is their own! Goodluck to your son! Enjoy his day!
2007-12-26 11:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by jessiekarma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and that i began our relationship understanding that neither persons needed to commence a relationship if we could no longer see marriage as area of our destiny, so we deliberate to get married from day one. We did, notwithstanding, wait 2 years plus some months to actual get married. i do no longer think of anybody could desire to enforce how long a pair could desire to be at the same time before getting married, yet I do think of it quite is a sturdy thought to attend a minimum of a 365 days. Edit: As for the way long we've been at the same time, it rather is been 2 years and 3 months... in basic terms have been given married a month in the past.
2016-10-02 09:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by kovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not etiquette involved in this. This is a little inconvenient for you and your side of the family. However, you have to realize that your niece might have scheduled her wedding for a time that's good for her Fi's family, not yours.
You can't be upset. You should be happy for your niece. If the wedding is that big of a hassle for you, then don't attend. But, don't criticize her decisions.
Your family aren't the only people involved in her wedding. She has in-laws whom she also has to work with now.
2007-12-26 09:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by J'adore 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It makes it tough for out of town relatives to make both doesn't it. But, it IS their wedding, after all, and summer dates fill up so quickly. They want a wedding ceremony with their family and friends (and with different families and different schedules, it makes it tricky), and even though they didn't want to wait a year to do it, their ceremony is just as important. Both your son and your neice will appreciate all the love and support from you and other family members in this big new step in their lives.
Be happy for them and give lots of hugs!
As far as planning on your son's wedding, that end time gets very harried anyway, whether you plan perfectly, go out of town...whatever. Take the short weekend to try to escape the craziness and get a vacation in for yourself. Also, you can learn what to do and not to do and make your son's even better!
My sister planned her wedding months in advance and then my brother went and had his a month before hers. No big deal. All the closest family went to both and more distant family chose just one. We took family photos at both, so it was fine.
The year before that, my sister planned her wedding for August, but my cousin got married in June. I was only able to make the August one, so I missed seeing my grandparents, who only went to my cousin's.
2007-12-26 09:06:12 · answer #4 · answered by crave knowledge 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Neither wedding is yours, so what is the big deal-It is about the bride and groom and they can choose to have their wedding when and where they want-I spent the planning of my wedding choosing everything based on what other peoples schedules and trying not to offend and I ended up being the one who missed out-
2007-12-26 09:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by mof2 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Attend the wedding of your niece! Have fun! Help out with whatever you can!
2007-12-27 00:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what's the big mess about? go to her wedding have fun and then enjoy your son's are you worried about expenses? then that's a different story, if you can't afford it send a gift wish her well and have fun. her wedding and your son's have nothing to do with each other, things happen, why worry and fuss. HAVE FUN!!!
2007-12-26 09:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by phantom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as it's not the same day, I don't know what the problem is. It's two weeks, after all. How long would you expect her to wait to have her wedding? A month? Two? What's the difference?
2007-12-26 09:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
No etiquette. Continue with the wedding plans as you were. It's not like it was planned on the same day, so who cares?
2007-12-26 09:06:51 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I doubt your son and your niece have the same friends.....your son's wedding has nothing to do with your niece's wedding; your son and his bride and her family will plan their wedding as normal......
2007-12-26 08:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋