My boyfriend and I have only been dating for about a month. He didn't get me anything for my birthday or christmas...not even a little token. However, he bought himself several new items (digital camera, etc). He also blew me off on Christmas eve after promising to spend it with me, but changed his plans to spend christmas day with me. My family thinks this is very rude of him and wants me to break up with him...is that a bit extreme? Should I give him a chance?
2007-12-26 08:52:47 · 39 answers · asked by mrswood397 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't stay with him. It isn't so much about the gift but he doesn't seem to place a very high priority on you after only a month. It is only going to get worse. If he is taking you for granted now, he is going to continue to take you for granted. To the curb and find another guy who appreciates you.
2007-12-26 09:00:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you should break up with him, but it is definitely very selfish and rude of him not to get you anything. I mean, cmon, Christmas and your birthday are very important occassions, and if he can't see that then he doesn't deserve you. It would be understandable if he had no money or was in some type of economic situation, but he bought himself stuff like a digital camera! It was very incosiderate of him not to get his girlfriend something.
Talk to him about it, and if not, just break up because hes not a good boyfriend (no offense).
Anywayz I hope evrything turns out ok for you.
2007-12-26 08:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by tulipeliza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't break up with him this soon, it was really inconsiderate not to get you something for your birthday and christmas, but if you've only been dating a month he may not have thought he had to.
I would speak to him and let him know your not happy with what hes done.
And even though he blew you off on christmas eve, he did arrange to see you, hes got some heart. Give him a chance, he may get better =]
2007-12-26 08:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your self what kind of boyfriend would not give someone a birthday or Christmas gift? You'll have your answer.
Even if he apologizes and gets you a gift, the fact remains that he was uncaring enough and uncouth enough to show up with nothing. Can't change that!
Even after dating so short of a time he should have gotten you something. It didn't have to be something major just something.
2007-12-26 08:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by Karrose 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think u should give him a chance. Noones perfect. You need 2 explain 2 him that its the thought that counts and that if cares about you he should have at least brought you something or even tried 2 spend christmas with you.
2007-12-26 08:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by `Beautiful inside and out~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend sounds very insensitive and self-centered. I guess everyone deserves a second chance but, in this case, I would give it a lot of serious thought. What could he possibly say to you that would make what he did acceptable? You really don't need someone in your life who will more than likely cause you more disappointment and heartache. I am hoping that you have more self-esteem than that! You sound like someone who wants to put their whole heart into a relationship. You deserve someone who will give you exactly the same in return.......and nothing less!
2007-12-26 09:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by Dogchic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give your boyfriend another chance and if things don't start changing for the better then find someone else who will think more of you than he does himself. It has only been a month so maybe things will start changing for the better.
2007-12-26 09:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is very rude also. The least he could do is get you something small and meaningful. You shouldnt break up with him, learn to forgive and work things out. Yes give him a chance, but make him learn his lesson.
2007-12-26 08:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica Ann. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i could desire to be so formidable, i'm going to offer a guideline. it form of feels to me that the two you and your boyfriend are present-giving impaired in an all or no longer something form of way. I advise which you sit down him down and are available up with present giving plan it quite is acceptable to the two considered one of you. One technique you need to use could be to tell him that with the present financial difficulty you think of it can be a reliable thought for the two considered one of you to comply with spend approximately $25 (or $50) on your presents to a minimum of one yet another this Christmas and that present taking part in cards, money, and exams are actually not appropriate presents, and that presents could desire to be wrapped and contain a advantageous card. this could outline your expectancies for him. If he's truthfully present impaired, the two considered one of you may additionally make Christmas desire lists for one yet another. some adult males desire coaching. Now i'm no longer announcing that his present to you would be a winner, yet a minimum of you have a tremendously reliable danger of having a ask your self for Christmas and he would be attentive to which you're actually not anticipating him to circulate out and spend a equipment deal. Repeat this technique till now each and each present-giving social gathering. i be attentive to that it form of feels somewhat unromantic, although if it gets him familiar with present-giving and perhaps save you some rigidity interior the long-term.
2016-10-09 05:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very rude of him to not get you anything and you knowing that he got himself things.. It would be a good idea to talk it over with him, gently. If he seems to be fine that he didn't get you a thing, you have the right to be ad at him and break up with him; since it doesn't look as if he doesn't have much money.. Talk to him about it and maybe things will get better. : )
2007-12-26 08:58:50 · answer #10 · answered by Towi ♥ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋