I don't feel you have to come right out and tell a person, "Hey, I think we should date" or "I want this physical relationship to be monogomous". I feel it possible to be in a relationship without ever having to say out loud, "This is a relationship we are in". Perhaps I am wrong...
2007-12-26 08:30:50 · 6 answers · asked by MsLaLa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This situation has to do with a question I asked earlier the same day, "What did I do wrong???" If you find it, you'll see more info on what happened. Basically, I told this guy that I was dating, but NOT having sex with other people. This was when we first started seeing each other. As time went on, I liked him more and more and I ended the relationships with the other people. Just before I was able to tell him, I found out he was with someone (sexually)... BEFORE he and I were seeing each other. He said he's known her longer than me, like that's supposed to make it ok. I just wanted to know why it's ok for someone to assume that having sex with multiple people at once is ok to do (even though I dated him w/out sex) for 7 months.
2007-12-26 23:37:43 · update #1
While it's not completely necessary that everything be spelled out, any time you don't, you risk misunderstanding. A gesture that means friendship to one person might mean love to another. What one person sees as casula might be considered commitment by another. The way I look at it, anything worth feeling is worth expressing in words, anyway!
2007-12-26 08:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by Rich 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to say it out loud, but you risk a lot of heartache if you don't (at some point). To some people, dating means not being involved with someone exclusively. So imagine your surprise if you're dating a guy and see him kissing another girl ... you two obviously had a different definition.
It's safer to say it, but I don't think it's necessary. The more time you spend together, the more likely it is that you're on the same page, but don't take it for granted.
2007-12-26 08:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna agree with Andrew. I believe speaking about it sort of allow both of you to know where you stand. So one is not overly in love and the other just sees you as a "dear friend that they can tell everything".
2007-12-26 08:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, it doesn't have to be established.
Because if you think about it...how many crappy relationships have existed that were verbally established, and how many amazing relationships have existed that weren't verbally established? Just because it wasn't established doesn't mean that it's not real. Just because it has been established doesn't mean that it is real. Get it? Got it? Good.
2007-12-26 08:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by LaissezFaire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started out with an implied relationship. Then one day, he asked me you're my woman, right. I then said you're my man right, then go get me a beer. Enjoy!
2007-12-26 08:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by Sunday's Best 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever works for you is fine. However, actually having the conversation eliminates any confusion.
2007-12-26 08:35:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋