2007-12-26 08:15:56 · 24 answers · asked by kH 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I personally think its a requirement for many to mess up a few relationships before you are wise enough to get one right. Its not easy to get over the past, but a requirement for moving forward. Face the reality, take responsibility, and face the results for what you have done openly and straight-up.
2007-12-26 08:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Accept the fact that you're now facing the consequences of your actions. This has happened to me and I became a lot better person for having lost someone as a result of my poor choices. I am much more cautious when I am making decisions now. Also no matter how much I believed I would never hurt that person again, I probably would have if they had taken me back. Since they did not I understand the risk's involved in my decisions.
2007-12-26 16:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by Vikingsron2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I did this was to talk about it with people I cared about, trusted, and respected. I also wrote poetry about it to get my feelings out and somewhere I could revisit them. This thing takes time, but you can't let it change the way you live your life, and you can't dwell on it too much, or else it will drag you down for a good long time. You have to rediscover what brings a smile to your face and explore that often, at the same time find something new that you genuinely enjoy and explore it with regularity as well.
2007-12-26 16:22:49 · answer #3 · answered by Dan in Real Life 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell that person you're sorry for screwing it up, and give that person a hug, and walk away. It's gonna take a LONG time to get over that, I'm sorry to tell you, but you WILL get over it eventually. It depends on your personality. If you are the flirtacious type, it'll only take about 2 weeks. If you are the sensitive type it'l,l take you longer.
2007-12-26 16:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So many memories contantly going through your mind. As time goes by they dont enter your mind as much. Go and hang out with friends. Time heals but being alone makes it 10x worst. Have fun and don't be trapped by your memories. That was a mistake I made, but I don;t stay home all the time now and it doesn't hurt anymore. God bless.
2007-12-26 16:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That would be the type of question I might ask. haha. Well anyways, I'm here to help.
You think,would life be good with this person, and sort through the options, then move onto, would life be bad?
Then, what would they think of me if I gained weight, lost weight, got a surgery and was all messed up? Would they be there for me through my bad times, and good?
Also, just think of your life when it was before met this person, if you life was good, or bad, and maybe you might have dinner or something with them, and explain what happened, or, if it was a TOTAL disaster, you might just have to move on, and live in the present, instead of the past.
Good Luck!
2007-12-26 16:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by Uh Oh its izzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes the one that screwed up dont listen to any of there bullshit.. because he will try throwing everything he can think of at you just to when you back. Be strong try to keep yourself occupied doing things with friends and other things to keep him off your mind. But i got to tell you the first two weeks will be rough.. good luck hun! i hope everything works out!
2007-12-26 16:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by justwondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in this situation,
and every one asks how u get over it but u simply crnt switch off your feelings. the only thing is you can weight, it takes time it really does. but my advise is to try not to think about it, do things that make u smile, live your life a bit different such as listen to dance music, wear slutty clothes, go out have a one night stand but dont go for any thing serious this will only bring the feelings back to this person
2007-12-26 16:20:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats a tough one i did this just recently and the best thing you can do is take it as a learning experience. its easier said than dont but that's all i could pull from it because I'm even happily with someone else now but still sometimes think about that other someone and about what could have been.... but i finally stopped kicking myself for it and just learned from it.
2007-12-26 16:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about the screw ups he made that were worth leaving for. Keep thinking about how rotten he is.
2007-12-26 16:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋