Having a girlfriend/boyfriend is alot of fun, but do you think its worth the trouble of disagreements, drama, BREAK UPS! and all the other things that could of been avoided if you never got into a relationship. Being alone is .... lonely, but you don't have to deal with the drama that comes along with a relationship. Its freedom at the cost of being alone. Is falling in love worth it?
2007-12-26 08:08:17 · 12 answers · asked by JOE DIRT 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Falling in love is not a choice - it just happens.
Dating is a choice, deciding how much to open up to the other person is a choice, deciding when to compromise is a choice, etc.
Dating and being with someone is worth the compromises, occasional arguments and risk of break-up, imho. If it is 'the right one', the break up never happens!
2007-12-26 08:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in love with the one you are meant to be with--if only for a season--is worth it. All the drama, disagreements, break ups, etc. are just a part of the process of learning to be together and growing together.
It is also fine not be in a romantic relationship. This is your choice. There is free will. Romantic love is not for everyone. It is a path, with all it's ups and downs, for those of us who are courageous enough to open our hearts to another person, communicate, open up, learn to set healthy boundaries, fight fairly, let go of the ego or self-centeredness, etc.
Some forego the joy and the work that goes along with having a romantic love partner in favor of a life of apparent freedom or independence. They may not have romance in their lives, but unless they become hermits, they too will have love in their lives and have people in their lives to help them to grow, and vice versa.
Romance is avoidable. Love is a given. And love, in whatever form it takes, is worth the trouble. Think of the joy.
The question is what do you want? What is the right path for you at this point in your life?
2007-12-26 16:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by Indi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely think it's worth it. Over a seven year span, I had two long term boyfriends; both of them cheated on me. Sure, it hurt, but when I look back, it was worth it. I learned a lot about myself, about what I want out of life, about how to better make my wants clear. Then I found the right guy and fell for him, and it's so worth it. You have to experience the bad before you can experience the good; everything we do is something we can learn from. Relationships are the same way. You can look back and say, "That's not what I want" and be better prepared to recognize what you do want when it comes your way.
There's no shame in being single for a while, of course, but don't look at it as being lonely. Consider it a chance for you to learn more about yourself, take up a new hobby, make new friends ... all of which could lead you to the right girl for you.
2007-12-26 16:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your personal preference. Some guys stay single and only date females until they have sex with them. They obvious can't commit to a relationship. Others want to date non-stop as they can't be alone. Me, I can't be without a woman. I've been in the military and spend lots of time in the field. All the time I used to tell myself, when I get out of this BS I make sure I will never, ever be alone again. Yes, in the field you have your buddies from your platoon. But hey, I am not gay! I NEED A WOMAN!!
2007-12-26 16:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by Hazel Eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all your bf/gf's cause drama and arguments, you aren't dating the right people. And dating is a way to find someone who doesn't conflict with you in such a way, for the potential of marriage.
If you fall in love with someone who isn't compatible with you, yeah, you'll suffer heart break, but that only serves to remind you that you're alive. If you go through life never having felt much, it is a boring life indeed that affords you no opportunity to grow as a person.
2007-12-26 16:13:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is always, yes always worth what ever problems it comes with. Think of it this way you are going to have problems regardless, i know plenty of single people with many problems. But it sure is nice to have some one to go through these problems with. And with out struggle there is no progress, so i choose love, it's worth the Ups and the Downs.
2007-12-26 16:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by Sha T 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think this is littered with misconceptions. If you aren't dramatic and don't select dramatic partners, then relationships should be relatively painless. Avoid "falling in love" blindly, be aware of your emotional states, and remain aware of what's going on. Incompatibility hurts, but love - no way!
2007-12-26 16:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by zombietriphop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it because I have been by my self all my life and I might the one for when I was 17 I knew he was the one I am in love i have Ben seining and Ben around him snits that time i am 23 now
2007-12-26 16:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by you fine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...it's worth it Brandon........it's worth it every time honestly!
A world without love would be an entire disaster seriously!
Hope and courage to love is what keeps us all from flicking the dirt napp switch otherwise....cool?
2007-12-26 16:13:34 · answer #9 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Idk. I mean i thinkn it really is worth it, but only if you are really in love. I think that once you ARE really in love, you don't even need to ask that question, because you already know the answer.
2007-12-26 16:14:53 · answer #10 · answered by miss cutie 4 eva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋