i was really upset yesturday because i rang my boyfriend to wish him a merry christmas and i got upset because i missed him so much and how i wished i was with him, all he did was go nd talk to his dad while i was on the phone sobbing to him and i dont know what to do about it now because he said his family were very important to him as if he didnt have time for me yesturday
help
2007-12-26 07:47:09 · 26 answers · asked by jojopink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Christmas is a time for family too and for some its very important and you should try to be more understanding.
2007-12-26 07:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by Terence L 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Obviously you & him aren't on the same relationship page. I think that the whole Christmas thing should have been worked out before you even got to yesterday. If you knew he was going to be with his family then you shouldn't have expected him to even answer the phone. And who wants to hear there g/f sobbing on the phone while surrounded by loved ones. He had to act as if everything was fine so then family members wouldn't be all like what's wrong honey is everything ok. You should have asked him to call you when he had a chance. If he wouldn't have called you back then you could feel as if he didn't make time for you but, he was in the middle of something and it shouldn't hurt your feelings.
2007-12-26 07:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well...Just catch him when he is free. And Stay Strong with your argument about wanting to talk to him. I think calling him today and saying sorry for calling him but that You wanted to wish him a Merry Christmas. Also, tell him that (if this is true) you love your family just as much but that you each need to make time for each other because balancing everything is always good in a relationship.
Just relax when you talk to him and don't let him sense like a crackle in your voice because that puts your defenses down. When you talk to him be confident about what your saying and where the conversation is going. And dont point out the faults in him or in the relationship. Talk about fixing it instead and only talk about the BALANCING only because talking about everything can go too far into something not worth going into.
Hope this helped. Good Luck <333 !!!
2007-12-26 07:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry the guy ignored you, but honestly honey, you need some maturity help. Guys do things like that, don't put so much into it, and I should tell you that telling him and crying to him about how much you miss him is smothering him and if you don't stop now you can start counting your days to the breakup beginning with that day. Don't smother and don't obsess over a guy it is not something they like. Just keep it simple and it's okay to tell him you miss him, but hold back the sobs.
2007-12-26 07:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Christmas is a time for family. You are not family yet. When you get married then you are part of the family. Bring friends over is fine but new people are not that big a part of the holidays
2007-12-26 07:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by rixparx 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can understand that you miss him. But he has more people than just you that he loves. He wants to be with his family for Christmas and you should give him that much. So stop crying over your bf talking with his dad! He has a life too. Stop craving attention 24/7 from him
2007-12-26 07:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by Alisha 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well sorry to be a bit harsh, but it's really annoying when you're with a girl who cries, fusses, and gets upset over everything, especially when it's not your fault and there's nothing you can do about it. There's only so much of it a guy can take. I'm sure he'll be perfectly happy talking to you if you call and are willing to talk, instead of just crying at him. What are you supposed to do when a girl calls you just so you can hear her cry? idk
2007-12-26 07:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by pieninja 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
His family being important to him is a good thing! Why would you want a man who disregards his family at x-mas. If you were his wife and kids and he was spending time with you would you want a phone call to be more important?
2007-12-26 07:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by babyandmom1 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i did the same thing and he said the same thing but i mean you possibly would do the same thing. i no that i would have but you should of been like well merry christmas an can i call you later or you call me when your not busy
2007-12-26 07:51:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he couldn't take the emotion of it and decided to just avoid getting in to it. Guys have a hard time communicating feelings so I wouldn't necessarily think he doesn't care about you. Just wait to see how things go the next time you are with him..
2007-12-26 07:51:24 · answer #10 · answered by mimbecky 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋