I went to a party and got invited to a new year's party. When the husband saw the wife was inviting me, he eye-brows got frown and he immediately kept on walking from the place. I am not at all close to the wife. I got a very cold reception from the last new year's party at his place. That one was a pot-luck [and the organizer invited us]. Normally he himself talks with me if he sees me elsewhere. But he ignored me last couple of times when I went to his house. I missed one of his parties and I did not let him know. He was not happy. What should I do this time? I know I will see some of my other friends there. But it is just insulting to go to someone's place and get a cold reception.
2007-12-26 07:38:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
From an etiquette perspective, if you get an invitation from the wife, it's OK to go.
From your personal perspective, you have to decide if the benefit (talking with your friends) outweighs the drawbacks (dealing with the husband's snub) and I can't help you there- this is something for you to decide. It's possible he felt insulted when you were a no-show and can't let his ruffled feathers settle down.
Might be you could fix this by apologizing for that gaffe. I think it's worth a try. If he's still snarky, that's his problem. Remember, you can only control your behavior. Should you have called to let them know you weren't going to be there? Yes. Is this such a social gaffe that he's justified in snubbing you for the rest of his life? No way. So try to make amends, but don't let this be a huge tragedy for you.
Put on one of those silly paper hats, have a glass of champagne at midnight and enjoy your New Year!! And make sure you give the hostess a warm hug in appreciation for asking you to their party.
2007-12-26 07:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by going_for_baroque 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess that if the husband is being cold I wouldn't feel comfortable attending the party, even if the wife invited me. It'd have been different if the wife (only) had called you over the phone to invite you.... you didn't need confirmation of the invite from the husband. But if you saw that he DISLIKED the fact that his wife invited you, I wouldn't really look forward to attending their party, especially if you have ALREADY been given a cold reception in the past. You're just in for a 2nd one. You can see your other friends at another time & place.... but as someone else said, it's up to you to decide what is more important to you: to be warmly welcomed or to see your other friends even if the hosts ignore you.
2007-12-26 16:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lprod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that your attendance will cause friction of some sort, why would you even consider going? Find another party or just go to a bar and get wasted on your own.
2007-12-26 15:50:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have your own party on teh same night and invite the same people and that way you can see who is more important
2007-12-26 19:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go, Find people there that you could get along with.
2007-12-26 15:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by grumpyfiend 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I wouldn't go.
2007-12-27 05:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋