okay, my ex is now a really close friends. we've known each other for YEARS and he asked me if I wanted to go to the movies with him to make out with him, b/c he says he wants to be friends with benefits. Should I do this? would it be slutty for me to make out with a guy I'm not dating? I haven't made out with anyone yet, and I'm really confused... help??
2007-12-26 07:23:30 · 30 answers · asked by cheer_volleyball_rox 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if it's your first time making out with some one, you want to remember it in a good way!!!
don't do it with ur horny ex bf...
wait for a guy you rlly like
tell him that friends w benefits is just him using you, and you guys should each find a bf/gf for yourselves!
good luck
<3
2007-12-26 07:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to do what you think is best for you. How do you feel about it? How will you feel about it if you do make out with him and you find out next week at school that he has a new girlfriend? Would you be hurt--or can you handle the no strings attached? It seems to me that you would want to remember you first make-out session in a good way, and not look back on it and regret that it was just some guy that wanted to get some. You don't want to be used by him. And what if he spreads the rumors that you did it and everyone found out? Would you be okay with that or would that kind of drama upset you?
It's your decision, so you just have to think about all of the possible outcomes and scenarios and do what you are most comfortable doing. Do you have a mom or aunt or close friend that's older and has been through it, that you could maybe talk to and see what they think? See what some other people that you trust think, if you feel comfortable talking to them about it. Whatever you decide, decide it for yourself, not because you feel pressured to do it! :o) Good Luck! <3
2007-12-26 15:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by Ang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes people would say you are a SLUT with capital letters.
AIDS is transmitted through body fluids such as saliva. The symptoms stay dormant for 11 years so it can be transmitted to you today while kissing and it will come up 11 years from now.
If you're an EX haven't you learned what made you an "ex"? I would say there's a telling story there is you care to check it out. Making out is not an option until commitment is made. Period. Otherwise you're a SLUT by giving out the milk for free without asking to be purchased. Grow up.
2007-12-26 15:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No girl ever deserves a guy who wants a relationship without the title. If he just wants to mess around with you, hes gonna do a lot of messing around with your head too. Friends with benefits never work out in the end. Not only will you lose self respect for yourself, but you will lose a "friend" too. I say friends loosely because he doesnt seem like a friend if he wants to put you in a position that might put your feelings in jeopardy. Dont forget, that friends with benefits means that if he wants to mess with some other girl, you would have no say in it and I promise you it will bother you! Im sure you are a great girl. There might be a guy out there who respects you enough to not (like I said) put you in that position and wouldnt want to share you !;)! Think bout it girl and good luck! :)
2007-12-26 15:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by carmelcj86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, I can't stand it when self-righteous a$$ hats come on here and tell people to "save it for someone special"... Don't do it, you want to enjoy having sex for the first time with the person you love so to do this you need practice... why this isn't common sense for people is beyond me.
Look if you're not gonna sleep with the guy just promise me it won't be "because you wanna save it for mister right"
Other than that its up to you, but just so you know, he may be doing this just to use you, but there's no rule that says you can't use him at the same time. In fact thats what friends with benefits is... its two people using each other.
Food for thought.
2007-12-26 15:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think, however tempted you are, you should leave his offer. you two broke up for a reason, i have no idea what that was, but you dont want to get back into that relationship ebcaues it will end again (sadly ! =[ )
also, "friends with benefits" NEVER works!! because it always leads on! also, its kinda using u, and noone wants tht!
thats all just my opinion, but if when u and the guy broke up, if u were really gutted and upset, and wanted him back., then go for it and give it another go. just ask yourself, what would happen if this lead on? cause it wont just be the one kiss in the cinema.
hope i helped..good luck!! xx =] =]
2007-12-26 15:28:14 · answer #6 · answered by b1234 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not slutty, but this will eventually keep you from seeing other people, and you broke up with your ex. So being friends with benefits, might bring up some old habbits. And, that might not make you happy, especially if you have broken up.
2007-12-26 15:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by brittany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the benefits.
Your ex is a guy that fathers would like to get a hold of!
2007-12-26 15:32:03 · answer #8 · answered by Fred F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about this? That is all that is important for you. If you feel like making out fine if you have any inhibitions then do not. Simple. You are thinking too much.
I suspect your bf might be manipulating the situation like most men try and do. It is fun but only when you are in control and comfortable with yourself. Do not let yourself be used for someone elses pleasure..
2007-12-26 15:31:08 · answer #9 · answered by jimmiv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex sounds like an average horny teenager. I don't think you should, I think you should wait and have your first kiss with someone meaningful that doesn't want to just be friends with benefits. You deserve a real relationship!
2007-12-26 15:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by fexii 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋