whenever i tell people about my dad they always say oh i'm so sorry and i'm here if you need me, which is very nice and i appreciate it but when u get guys chatting you up it really anoys me. They think i'm helpless and that i'm a perfect target.
I'm blonde, pathetic, anorexic and simple.
Am i stupid for telling people about my dad?
2007-12-26 07:12:06 · 19 answers · asked by Tinkerbell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, you're not stupid for that, but you're also not giving yourself enough credit by calling yourself, "Blonde, pathetic, and simple".
Your friends are responding in the only way they know how...to tell you they're there for you if you want to talk about it. If not, then don't worry about it. In the meantime, be happy you have several friends who care and are concerned for your well-being. d:)
2007-12-26 07:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by Gary D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to tell anyone unless you want to. If it is not relevent to the current conversation, don't even bring it up. The only people who will really care anyway are those that are your good close friends. All others will simply be caught in the "I don't know the right way to respond" mode and that could be why you get the reactions you do. Maybe it is in the way you see the response and not the way the response was delivered.
2007-12-26 15:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by just me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry to hear about your dad, your not pathetic the people who try to take advantage are pathetic... however i dont think should tell people you hardly know ,that your dad has passes away.. i think they should talk to you for who you are and when you get to know each other properly them you can tell them... you seem quite low at the moment.. just remember that if you think positive you will not always feel low and the only way you will find happiness is searching for it.. it may be hard now but i hope you have all the happiness in the world and make your dad proud... these guys are just idiots.. just ignore them you are bettter then them! keep your head up :D xx
2007-12-26 15:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by freefaller 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, any guy that tries to use your grief over your dad's passing to get an "in" with you is being a scumbag. But it's not stupid to bring it up ... I know that after my dad passed on, it was tough to talk to people that I didn't know well because small talk (like "what have you been up to lately?" or "what do your parents do for a living?") always led to discussing his passing, which was uncomfortable sometimes.
I don't know how long ago your dad passed, but if it was recent, my advice would be not to get involved with anyone (especially if you've got a bad feeling about them) until you're feeling a little more emotionally strong.
2007-12-26 15:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by MikeTX 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unless it was recent, let it be part of your life and not a controlling entity. We all have lost loved ones or will, it shouldn't play the part it does in your life. Are you using it for sympathy? Sounds like you need to get your act together though, you sound depressed. Get off you BUTT and start living again..you have to, nothing you do is bringing back your dad. Hope you're okay though...
2007-12-26 15:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are grieving and I am sorry to read about it. Be careful not to share your sorrow with others, if you don't want them to express their feelings to you. Everyone grieves differently, which means you are bound to get a response to your grief that you might not want to hear and read. Don't feel stupid about telling people about your dad, just be careful to tell the right people about your dad. Don't cast pearls to people that don't deserve them.
2007-12-26 15:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by LEHI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what your intentions are..there is a difference if you just want someone to talk to or you want someones pity. Chances are you want the first of the two....but there really isnt anything to say to someone who has lost their parent. Its a hard subject to tackle for people.
2007-12-26 15:16:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it makes you sound like you want the attention and unfortunately for you, these guys are hitting you up. Let them know that you can handle it and that you aren't helpless. [even my boyfriend needs blunt reminders.]
2007-12-26 15:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it makes you feel better, no .
but if it helps when you hold it in and not talk to someone about it, then do that
my grandmother and aunt died in the same month, people dad they were sorry and i could talk to them anytime, but i didnt cause then it would make it worse, rembering the times and stuff.
2007-12-26 15:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No of course not. People just don't repect you. If the people you told were true friends, they would't gossip. If you need help, you can always turn to God. Pray to him and you will realize that you have another father, your creator.
2007-12-26 15:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by Vincent 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋