I called and left a msg of holiday greetings to the guy I've been seeing for 4 months as I never heard from him since Friday. It makes me sad that he didn't include me in his holiday plans. Should I tell him I don't want to keep seeing him or just don't return the call (in case he calls) and move on. I don't owe him an explanation, right?
2007-12-26 06:56:16 · 29 answers · asked by Belle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Holidays are time for family and loved ones and tho you have been seeing eachother for 4 months, he may have been really busy with family and didn't have time to call. Did you really expect him to invite you over to his family's gathering after only 4 months?
2007-12-26 07:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by Whammy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the holidays are a family thing maybe he just wanted his family with him. You're not quite married yet after 4 months... Just maybe ask him be like hey I tried to call you to see what was up and wish you a Merry Christmas I guess you were busy. But then again did you even talk to him about having a holiday with him before the holiday happen? You can't expect somebody to read your mind...Maybe he doesn't like the holiday I'm sure there is a good reason obviously you two have a communication problem.
2007-12-26 07:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by Brooks B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this guy is married. Have you been over to his house? Have you been introduced to anyone in his family? Can you call him in the evenings, or do you always have to leave a message? If the answer to these questions is NO, he's married (or living with someone). Most likely, you'll hear from him in a few days. You would, however, be wise to move on, because something is definitely wrong. If he had a problem with Christmas, he could have told you that months ago; so that's not it.
He could also be cheap. That is, some guys don't want to spend money on a girl, so they disappear until after Christmas. They don't mind using her body, but they don't want to give anything in return. Either way, I'd dump this clown.
2007-12-26 07:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's the one who owe's you an explination. You've been seeing each other for 4 months now, and he hasn't talked to you since Friday, and it's now Wednesday.
Considering the holidays are all this week and next week, I think that's pretty selfish. But I think that you shouldn't just let go, you should try to keep calling him, and if you ever talk to him, tell him how your feeling. After all, communication is the most important thing in a relationship.
2007-12-26 07:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by brittany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you two seeing each other exclusively? Have you discussed that explicitly with him? Did you two discuss any plans together?
As a guy, I have to say that one of the things that drives us CRAZY is when women expect us 'to just know'. We don't assume anything. If we aren't told something, in plain English, we don't know what it is that you want.
We don't do hints. We don't do subtlety. Look at the way that men talk to each other - it's right out in the open and in each others' face. Call us dense if you want, but unless you tell us directly, we don't pick up on it - whatever it is.
If you are so needy that you feel like you "don't owe him an explanation" for why you are mad when you didn't bother to tell him that you expected something from him and he didn't deliver it because his psychic powers faiiled him, them PLEASE move on and leave that poor guy alone.
2007-12-26 07:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by Torin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only being seeing him 4 months. Give the guy a break. Lots of people have all sort of emotions dealing with holidays and families. Being a good friend is a great thing in a relationship. Happy New Year with your friend.
2007-12-26 07:00:32 · answer #6 · answered by j m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I'd try to realize that I don't mean as much to him as I presumed and begin to move on...if he reveals a pressing explanation...then i'd listen to it and try to weigh all the factors involved. i probably wouldn't initiate a call. (For example, personally, I was 1/2 way to the airport Friday afternoon to catch my flight home for the holidays, when I realized my phone was at the office...didn't have time to go back, so i was without my phone and phone numbers during the whole trip and didn't have my friends numbers memorized. I did email and call those I could...but others were just left hanging...)
2007-12-26 07:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by angieblossom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be important to you or you wouldn't be asking about it. If you have been in a relationship for 4 months with this guy, why didn't you have a conversation about your holiday plans...seem very strange to me that you wouldn't. I think you take this as a learning experience and sharpen up your communication skills, because it's obvious neither of you use them!! Sorry for your loss in not getting to share time with each other on Christmas...hopefully you can figure it out and spend New Year's with one another. Good Luck!
2007-12-26 07:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by Tina T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Peace to you Belle,
hear your hurt over this. It sounds like you were looking for him to spend some time with you. I do not kinow if you made it clear to him that you were looking for this. I also do not know if this is something he often does. Before all sorts of answers come pouring in, I just want you to consider that there is a great deal of information missing from your question and that no credible answer can be given without more information.
One thing is clear, you sound hurt.
If you often are hurt by this person then perhaps you are not communicating with one another. If the communication is clear, then you might want to ask yourself how much hurt you want in your life.
2007-12-26 07:04:46 · answer #9 · answered by Ogou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four months is enough to have established deep feelings and deff plans for the holidays. No, I dont think you owe him anything. Could he possibly seeing someone else too? I think you need to move on, dont answer any calls, as hard as that may be.
2007-12-26 07:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by Dani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋