I want an honest answer...Guys do you date fat women...please reply why or why not?

Question

I want an honest answer. I want to know if a man will not ask a woman out because she is over weight. My girlfriends and I have been having an ongoing debate about this topic and I want honest answers from men....do you descriminate about having lasting relationships with big woman...only straight men reply!

Answer 1

Some guys avoid fat gals, and others don't. The more 'boy-like' guys shun fat chicks, being afraid that other people will think they are not macho if they date 'losers'. The more 'man-like' guys date whom they want, with no worry about what others think. Fat gals can be: fun to cuddle, warm to embrace, fun in bed, intelligent, funny, etc...or depressed, whiney, etc. A fat gal with a great pesonality is better than a skinny chick with a lousy personality. I am straight, and have had lasting relationships with fat women. I nearly married one, and would have if her family had not pressured her to get back together with her ex for the sake of their kids.

Answer 2

Do you make comments about an obese person at McDonald's? No Have you ever told a fat person they should go on a diet or exercise? No i haven't, i think that would be mean and i would never want to be the cause for someone developing an eating disorder Do you believe fat people would have better self esteem if they "just lost some weight"? Perhaps, i know i would have better self esteem if i lost some weight and i am not even overweight (i used to be 95lbs though at 5'5'' before antipsychotic meds and i have to admit that i did have better self esteem back then) I don't think making fun of anyone can ever be justified...unless you are just joking around with a friend (that you have that type of relationship with) and i would date someone who was overweight, i actually get crushes on overweight people more often than on skinny people.

Answer 3

I personally do not date fat women....but I am shallow and looks are important to me. I don't find them attractive for the most part. I do see some large women who are good looking but I wouldn't be attracted enough to date them. However many men prefer big girls and date nothing but fat ones.

Answer 4

im sorry- I am a woman but I have to answer this because I just ran into this.

My co-worker was in the office with me and we were looking at an xmas card from one of our vendors. It had a picture of all of them on it. He then tells me that he thinks this girl is beautiful (she was big) and I said no, and I pointed to the girl I thought was beautiful. (she was thin) and he says "no, I dont like skinny woman"
So every man is different! I know guys that wont date a fat chic. You will prob never get a true answer to that question. I think most men prefer skinny though.

Answer 5

Honestly no I wouldn't date them. I mean yeah it sounds nice how we always say "Its personality that matters not looks" but deep down we all know that's horse shiit and that we will always look with our eyes and not our hearts.

Trust me I have tried and really its not fun since well they are conscious about their weight in general for them everything that has to do with food,clothes or a physical activity means their weight.

Answer 6

I love women who are size 8(also for other qualities, but size matters) or less-never dated women larger,nor had any desire to. The fat, not the woman, is a turn-off for me-I dated a woman whom I had known when she was 100 lbs. over weight(unattractive to me and other males), but lost it(very attractive to me and other males)., then we dated. Believe it or not, SHE dumped ME.I might add, I don't find underweight women with extemely flat and /or corrugated tummies attractive(i.e.- Tyra Banks is more attractive 30 lbs. heavier(160 lbs. now) than when she was modeling(130 lbs. then)).Personality can play a big(no pun intended) part in it.I have dated some very beautiful women that I could get horny over on sight alone, but when I saw their cruel, cold-hearted, self-centered, gold-digger personality , the effect was lost. I have dated some women that were maybe 10 lbs. over weight and many considered homely, but they were warm, intelligent and fun to be with, which made them more attctive. A well-built woman, even if large is attactive, but if her boobs sag below her belly button,you can not see her waist line, and she literally has rolls of fat on her sides, this is a major TURN-OFF-yes-I am no catch myself, but women love to bed ME because as many say, I have a warm personality, nice eyes, and most of all, treat them with respect and describe me as a bear of a man( I am 20 lbs overweight, but much of it it is muscle-very large and powerful in that respect).

Answer 7

No, I'm not attracted to fat women. I don't date bulimic women either, for the same reason. While this may sound shallow, no one should be expected to enter a relationship when they're not attracted to their would-be partner.

Answer 8

Fat is a subjective term so my answer can only be "It depends."

My more serious relationships have all been with women who you certainly wouldn't refer to as skinny. I tend to like curvier girls.

But I have never and would never date someone who was "obese" or who's life is physically more difficult due to how much weight they carry(Altered walking pattern due to size of legs, breathing irregularities, high blood pressure at young age, etc.). That's the point at which I find their level of girth genuinely unattractive.

Answer 9

I like a lot of big women but never date big women, Like them slim and trim.

Yes I have tried, just don't work for me.

Answer 10

If a women was obese then i would be her friend and help her loose some weight. I date overweight women as long as they dress neat and have a good personality and a good heart.