but she is not helping me and says she would prefer the wedding when it is more convientent for her and when i talk to her about looking for dresses she doesnt say much and I feel its like pulling teeth to get to do her part.I have a friend who is excited and more than willing to help me. My mother however says I have to have the family member or it will cause problems. what do I do??
2007-12-26 06:51:39 · 13 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your mother isn't the one who's getting married. This is YOUR wedding. The BRIDE is the person who should choose the bridesmaids. Are they called "mothers"maids? NO! The Maid of Honor should be someone you love dearly and trust wholeheartedly; the woman you feel closest to. I suggest having your friend take the position. It sounds to me like the family member doesn't care for the occasion in the least. Perhaps this family member would be better off as a bridesmaid?
2007-12-26 07:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
The bridal party on the bride's side consists of: maid/matron of honor, bridesmaid(s), sometimes a junior bridesmaid (usually a sister too young to be a bridesmaid), flower girl, ring bearer. You may also consider having someone act as hostess to have everyone sign your guestbook at the reception. This is usually someone a little older than the bridesmaids, and the position is considered a honor since it requires someone who is gracious, personable, reliable and responsible to ensure everyone signs. This person does not precede the bride up the aisle like bridesmaids, and needs to go straight to the reception after the ceremony. If you do not have a formal receiving line at the reception or after the receiving line is finished, the hostess greets people as they enter the reception. The hostess is also "back-up" for the mother-of-the-bride if she needs any assistance.
2016-04-11 01:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding, not your mother's. Do what you feel good doing. If that means choosing the other person as your maid of honor, then so be it. However, it would be good etiquette for you to talk to the other maid of honor first. You could tell her that you see that this seems to be a daunting task for her and that you would completely understand if she declined being your maid of honor.
Or, you can have more than one maid of honor...weddings don't have to be purely traditional and it's not unusual to have more than one nowadays. I would have the more helpful one standing closest to you to show her importance to you on the day of your wedding and let the less helpful one stand in 2nd place.
Good luck!
2007-12-26 08:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have tow MOH. Your friend can help you with the wedding, and your sister can still be part of it to keep peace in the family. Sorry I can't come up with a better solution, but I'm an only child, so I don't know how to deal with siblings.
2007-12-26 07:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by Cute Mom of 2 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ask your family member if she really wants to participate or sit this one out. Obviously she doesn't care if it is causing a problem in the family. Another option would be to not have any bridesmaids or groomsmen, only ushers at the ceremony. That gets you off the hook entirely!
2007-12-26 06:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by Florida Fun in the Sun 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell your mother that you can have whoever you want to be your Maid of Honor. It does not HAVE to be a relative!
If your friend is the one you want, then she will be MOH!
2007-12-26 07:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although your family member has that title let your friend be a brides maid and explain to them they will have role reversal, tell your girlfriend she is your maid of honor, in your heart and you will work her as such tell the "real" maid of honor, that she will be treated as the brides maid in front of family and friends and keep everyone happy
2007-12-26 07:26:50 · answer #7 · answered by MrsMagee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I got married, I didn't ask my MOH or BMs to do any 'work', I simply asked them because I wanted them to stand up for us.
So keep the family member, since you already asked, ....
2007-12-27 00:10:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you really dont have to have a family member to your maid of honor its who you choose its your specail day not no one elses and as for that famiy member it looks like she dont want any part of your wedding
2007-12-26 06:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by twet19_000 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2007-12-26 07:08:55 · answer #10 · answered by Woods 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋