I am bullied at my school because I'm not the pretiest or skinniest girl. any advice?

Question

thanks and guys plz don't tell me to lose weigh or get pretty I just let my natural beauty show I don't cover up with make up like a doll.

Trust m I have kicked so many @sses but only cuz they talk bad to my friends. I am not fat or skinny I'm average and I only wear lip gloss. I tell parents they just tell me there sorry.

Answer 1

I say BE YOUR SELF. DONT EVER let people judge you by the way you look. Don't bully them back, it just proves how weak you are, your giving in. NO karate, hows that going to help? you going to kick there a$$? That isn't going to solve anything. If you transfer or get home schooled, then they will assume that you left because your scared.

You look beautiful. Having friends who really care is your main weapon against the bullies. You can talk to them about anything, and they wont laugh or make fun of you, they'll under stand.

Stick up for your self. If you don't, they ll just come back for more. Don't be like a 5 yr old and tell on them. That's just plain stupid.

make up or loosing weight or making your self pretty..i don't know how in the world that can boost your self-confidence.

I hope this helps in the long run.

Answer 2

You don't say what the bullying adds up to, but if you are being prevented from getting your education, threated with bodily harm, getting actually physically harmed then you need to talk to your school's principal. Youd deserve just as much education as they get.

I have found, that the only way to get abuse to stop is to stop tolerating it. So, you are going to have to figure out how to do that. there are all kinds of solutions - from leaving to go to another area, to being physically aggressive back. This isn't recommended by the pundits of the modern age, but it does generally work. Try to use it as a last resort. Don't put anybody in the hospital.

When I was younger, I put a lot of faith into what other people said about me. Now that I am older, I choose more wisely whose opinion I decide to care about. This started when I became a school bus driver, and I was driving a route that had a bunch of Emotional/Behavior Disorder kids on it. They would say terrible things to me. It didn't take long before I said to myself "Why do I care about the opinion of a punk 14 year old kid whose social skills are nil, grades are awful and can't manage to stay out of jail?"

I've given this a lot of thought over the years, and here is what I mean.

If Hitler said he didn't like you, would you be upset or happy? Isn't Hitler the type of person it would be good to be hated by? He perpetrated evil upon the human race - I'd be worried if that guy liked me. Insulted.

So, too, you have to decide whose opinion you care about. Choose wisely.

Answer 3

While this may sound odd, take the bullying as a compliment. You're daring to be different from the Barbie and Ken herd at school. Your classmates are just as insecure about their appearances as you are--therefore, they pick on you to deflect negative attention from themselves. You are being yourself, and that makes them uncomfortable.

Also, as long as your weight doesn't become a health issue, don't worry about it. Who says that a slender physique is the most attractive? Just wear clothes that reflect your personal style and complement your body type. Once you're confident in yourself, you'll find that dealing with your peers is easier. I would just ignore their mean comments. If you respond, you give them the satisfaction of knowing that they hurt you. You will make a greater impression if you appear unruffled. If staying calm is difficult for you, model yourself after an actor/actress or a friend who's shown grace under pressure.

Above all, remember that you'll be out of there in a few years! As a girl who was bullied for the same reasons in HS, I can assure you that high school will seem inconsequential after you've been to college and worked for a few years.

Answer 4

There is no quick answer to your problem. Ignore all the jerks here who tell you to lose weight, transfer, etc. Unless there is physical harm, don't transfer, it'll just be different environment and different people who will be bullying you!

Think of this as a test from the almighty one. When you grow up and go to the real world and work and meet other people, you'll STILL be bullied by other people-- your peers (pressure), your boss (harrasement), etc etc. No matter where you go, there will ALWAYS be people around you who will be in a position to abuse you, and many will do so just because they can!

My advice is to not react and over-react to people bullying you. The more emotions you show, the more they're encouraged to bully you because that is what gives them the power trip. TOUGH IT OUT. This will not be the first, and will not be the last. It is a life lesson, and you'll have to deal with TOUGH people throughout your life.

Good luck.

Answer 5

It is all about confidence. If you show that it bothers you then it will get worse. You have to show them that it does not bother you and that it is going to be difficult for them to make fun of you. What I mean is when something is said do not cower down and walk away. Have a comeback ready. After a few times of getting something thrown back at them the bullying will slow down and they will move to an easier target. Don't try to embarrass them because then they will feel like getting you back. Say something like I try really hard to look nice and I would appreciate it if you would not make fun of me just to make yourself feel better. I picked on guys and girls in high school just to make myself feel better. I did not get a wake up call until I became a teacher and saw how it made the kids being picked on feel. Unfortunately kids do not know how much it hurts when they put down others. Live your life and stop caring what others think. They are seriously doing it to make themselves feel better which is sad. On the other side if they are making fun of you they must feel threatened by you somewhat, so there must be something that you are doing that they wish they were able to do.

Answer 6

Usually the beautiful ones get WOW nasty in about fifteen years, they are all hot and flaunt it then they find a sugar daddy and start producing kids and pretty soon... Well you will see it progress after a couple of high school reunions, I did and I got my revenge hahaha it is fun to turn the tables. Let it slide they are probably jealous of something that you have that they do not, like voice you sing right. Face your problems and in a short time you will be on top, take their criticism and ignore it blatantly they will shut up. If they do not stop in about a month or two they will do something that will 'bruise their ego' and it will be funny just watch. Good luck and keep smiling. (hope this cheers u up a little) :)

Answer 7

dont worry about those people. Thats whats wrong with the world today...its too focused on the physical being. You dont have to be skinny or the prettiest girl to be beautiful. Beauty is not only based on the physical, but mental and spiritual also. I think its a load of **** to be treated differently because of that. I know exactly what you're saying...in school i was bullied for being "too pretty and skinny." So everyone gets bullied for something.

Answer 8

If you already told them to stop, then ignore them. They might give up when they ain't getting any reaction out of you because they just want to hurt you and get you angry. Just remember to your self that they don't know how beautiful you are on the inside and by insulting you there are missing out on getting to know what a great person your are. Stick close to your friends and enjoy life and don't let what they say get to you.

If you really want (I also suggest this as well.) tell an adult like a parent, teacher, guidance counselor, or anyone else you trust to make the bullying stop.

Answer 9

I got teased alot as a kid and a teen. It's hard to ignore them but you really must try. Just be yourself and remember that the problem lies within them. They are probably not happy with themselves and feel the need to tease someone else. Then there are those who do it just for the heck of it. Try not to react to them and hopefully they will see that they can't get to you and give up. Rather then let the teasing bring you down let it make you stronger. Hope I was able to help you even a little. Good luck.

Answer 10

From what I can tell in your tiny profile pic, you are absolutely gorgeous! Wow, I can't believe there are kids who are picking on you!

First, be confident about yourself, just be yourself. The only thing you should change about yourself is if:
1) you are mean to others for no reason,
2) you look down upon others and think you are superior/smarter than other people
3) you look down upon yourself and think you're not good enough.

People will not like you if you aren't caring, and if you don't respect them. You have to listen to people when they speak, don't cut them off, and as a general rule of thumb you should be listening more than you are talking.

Just because someone has a different opinion than you doesn't mean they are dumb, they are just different. When you don't agree with someone, be respectful, just smile and say, "Okay, that's great! Here is what I think..."

Everybody in this world is beautiful and amazing. The next time you see someone being a jerk, just think to yourself that he had a bad day...you know you've had your share of bad days too! Every person in the world has a life story to tell that can bring tears to your eyes...EVERYONE. Keep that in mind, and it will be very hard to critisize others. Nobody has a perfect life, you just have to make the most out of it. And remember, you are just as beautiful and amazing as everybody else!

By the way you don't look fat or ugly to me (in the little picture I see,) and TRUST ME, there are people out there who think you look perfect (I do, I am being very serious.) There are guys out there who want to date you, girls who want to be your friend, just be confident and always remember to smile just in case you meet the person who wants to get to know you!