to make this short and simple: my bf scares the hell out of me when he is on his motorcycle. i think he drives way too fast for conditions and is not always responsible on it. he assures me that he knows what he is doing. knowing what you are doing does not always prevent accidents from happening. how do i explain my fears to him without seeming like i am "nagging" or being lame?
2007-12-26 06:36:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Does he have any tickets for unsafe driving or any accident history? Does he drink before he rides? Does he always use a helmet - regardless of what your loca law might be? If any of these are true, you are right to put your foot down.
If not, even unsafe or reckless operation of the bike can have disastrous results, and he already knows this.
Guys seek thrills, and he's not the first guy in the history of the world to do this, and he won't be the last.
As far as nagging, I don't know. He knows how you feel, and your continued bringing it up can certainly seem to him like nagging, even though your are approaching the subject out of love and caring for him.
Nagging someone usually connotes that the "******" is complaining our of selfishness, and this isn't the case with you. You're concerned for him, and by extension, for yourself as well. You don't want to see him hurt.
Some kind of compromise seems to be in order.
You don't say how long you've been together, or how old you two are. This has a lot to do with it.
Would it make youi happier, give you more peace of mind, if he took and completed a motorcycle safety course? They're readily available. Usually these courses include a little "shock
therapy" - discussion of head injuries and other serious things that can happen to riders in a split second and change their lives together. It might be an eye-opener for him, and give you some comfort.
Good luck!
2007-12-26 07:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by jasper addleton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he knows your fears, he's already addressed your fears, he's telling you to trust him, he's saying to you he's a big boy and will do what he wants no matter what you want. Know that no matter what you say, if you repeat it then you're nagging and it's no longer just you showing your concern, it's your trying to control him. Men either ignore females who try to control them or they lash out. Expect either. It's up to you to get used to him driving his motorcycle and doing it his way. If he gets hurt well then it's his life. I would suspect you would want to make sure he wears a helmet and protects himself when on his motorcycle.
2007-12-26 14:43:30 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like Dennis Miller once said, "You can't save everyone. Just try not to be living next door to them when they go off."
He'll continue to ride his MC like a kid, because thats what they do. Just don't get on it with him and pray. Thats about all you can do.
2007-12-26 14:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by DeFreeze 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the sort of thing that you can't explain to a guy. He will not see eye to eye with you ever. You should not even bother to say anything.
2007-12-26 14:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont say a word, show it to him. When he goes on his motorcycle refuse to get on. Just look blanky at him when he is by it. if he asks tell him he is too immature on his motorcycle.
2007-12-26 14:45:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...darlin?....when you're on the motorcycle with him?....and he's driving way to fast for your britches sweetie?.....tell him to stop right now!.....and when and if he does?....get off the motorcycle and walk down the road a little bit,.... and then call a taxi....cause he doesn't respect your safety enough to wanna listen to you sweetie.......and that's simply crap!
2007-12-26 14:49:10 · answer #6 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be like i am a kind of person who just doesnt like speed or like you have some kind of phobia and that i cant sit with a person who is going fast.
2007-12-26 14:42:14 · answer #7 · answered by Parth S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain it to him like you just did on here.
2007-12-26 14:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your a ******, go ahead,hes exspecting it.
2007-12-26 14:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by vintagemale1951 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋