BOYFRIEND HAS BEEN CAUGHT MESSEN AROUND. What do I do? Any advice?

Question

My boyfriend was caught this last Saturday reading an email, he deleted as soon as I walked in. I told him to put it up on the screen and he denied there was anything there. For a half an hour I insisted that he put it back up for me to read, while at the same time he was giving bullshit stories about what it was. He finally put it up for me to view, only to find out it is an ex he was dating before me. Then he confessess that they have emailed and talked on the phone around 20 times in the past year of our dating. He recently took her home from her work to her home, because he says she was distressed and he was the 1st person she thought of to call. In the mean time he has sworn there was no intimacy, and I talked to the girl and she said the same. I feel made a fool of. How can I get the trust I had for him? He has given me full access to his computer Id's, and cell records, he has professed his love for me and that he will never betray me again. Is he full of ****? What to do?

Answer 1

sorry about your situation but hes lying to you. Just let go.

Answer 2

Bless your heart. Please be careful because I found out 3 weeks ago that mine was up to talking to ladies and seeing one while out of town on a business trip.I called her up after finding her number several times on his cell phone records.She told me the truth, he lied at first then admitted to seeing her. I feel the same way that you do. Trust is so hard to get back. I'm trying to get it back right now.It depends on if you think he is worth forgiving.He very well may be full of crap, but could be telling the truth. Go with your gut, and it will tell you if something is wrong because I knew it was with me. It would not stop tugging at me inside, it just took some time to figure it out.Tell him he has no business talking to her at all since this has happened with her. That is what I told mine, and I forgave mine,told him if he does it again, it's over for good, no exceptions at all. See, I wondered if he and she talked and told each other what needs to be said in BOTH mine and your cases. People told me that could have happened, so I don't know. It's tough.Make sure he means all of this that he is saying, and just does not feel guilty because he got caught. Mine was angry when he got caught, even said he was angry at the lady for telling me the truth about how often they talked and her having saw him too. Best of luck, remember go with what you feel is the right thing to do, and it will be.

Answer 3

He is full of it. If he had nothing to hide, why would he deny it in the first place. You don't deserve the way he treated you. You are a woman. Of course the other girl denied it too. They were probably having an affair and tlaked it over because he knew he was going to get caught. I have had alot of guys that have cheated on me and I broke it off. I told him that if he did not tell the truth, I would break it off. He told me he was going out with another girl while still going out with me, and so I broke it off anyway. No man is worth that kind of heart break.
She's a whore and he's the same- man version. Tell him to beat it. It will be easier than living a life through hell. He probably deleted her from contact list and all evidence of their relationship and chats. Then gave you acess to clear his butt.

Answer 4

First of all grow up. Sometimes men hide stuff like that to avoid conflict or being accused of things. I have been in contact with three of my ex girlfriends for years. My current girlfriend is now friends with them and we hang out all the time. She even lets me go do things with them( golf, shopping, bars) and she is fine with it. If you two can't trust each other just find someone else and get over it.

Answer 5

DUMP HIM, if he is hiding things from you now it will only get worse. find someone you can trust, and he can trust you. That is the only way a relationship will last.
I have been married for over 20 years. I trust my best friend (husband) with my heart, and my life. And this started with being open and honest in every aspect of our lives.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

OH WOW! Well that is stupid why would he do that. But that's good he gave you access to all his stuff so you know what he has been doing. But i would keep an close eye on him just to make sure he doesn't do that kind of stuff again.

Answer 8

you're nosey as hell. He didn't do anything but talk to her. Is he not allowed to have friends? Yes, they dated before, and their romantic relationship is in the past and that's where you should leave it if you trust him. If you don't trust him, you shouldn't be with him.

Answer 9

Find someone you trust and hold on to him. and don't close your eyes☺

Answer 10

He's not worth it.. If he was messing around once, he'll do it again..