I'm a guy and I'm trying to give up porn because I've decided its morally wrong. Now I have strong temptation to watch it and the images of what I've already seen cloud my mind.
2007-12-26 06:00:34 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If you really want to give up pornography stop watching it. The images that you see in your head will eventually go away. Our minds are much like a computer. Junk in, junk out.
Instead of feeding your mind with the bad stuff, start reading and watching appropriate things. Occupy your mind with the things of God and you will overcome. All things are possible through Christ.
The Lord be with you
2007-12-26 06:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by TheoMDiv 4 · 8⤊ 2⤋
I'd really like a good look at the background of the judge! I cannot believe this man has walked away free - it's an absolute disgrace! Max that's a terrible thing to say about Free Masons - they're the least likely people ever to engage in anything like this. My father in law is one and is in a number of lodges because of his age and high standing in the orders. He is one of the loveliest people you would ever want to meet and being a sound judge of character i can also say that of many of the others i have met in this last thirty years of knowing him and his friends. They 'quietly' raise millions of pounds for charities including great ormond street every year - they're not brash like Blair et al, they just get on with the job and get it done. They do not deserve anything like this being printed about them. You could always find out more by contacting a local lodge and meeting some of the bretheren, you probably would be more than pleasantly surprised.
2016-04-11 01:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I congratulate you on your decision to give up watching porn. To get rid of the images that occupy your mind, you have to use a little bit of imagination. Imagine yourself pouring out those images from your mind and filling your mind with the pure, fresh water that is of eternal life, eternal goodness.
About the temptations, when they come, the body actually takes the attitude that "I will break over this time, and the next time I won't. I will watch this because it pleases me at the present. I will take this, for I don't want to suffer right now, and next time I won't." This way, if the Will is not strong enough and one allows himself to break down then he loses control and becomes a slave to his own indulgences.
In these conditions, you have to take a definite stand and say, "If there is given me a definite program to follow I will--I will--I will adhere to it, no matter what I may suffer mentally or physically! I will trust in the divine forces innate . . . within my inner self for the strength to endure, for the ability to say no when I should!" Hang on to this prayer, then you'll surely gain the strength to get out of the hole and heal completely.
2007-12-26 22:15:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you man. It's a long struggle. One you can't do alone.
Trust me, over time, and as you change your life, the past will not cloud your mind. But it takes time. Realize that's one of the consequences, but realize you can heal, and it gets better.
The temptation however... that lingers. You need support, and to replace the temptation with the good things in life. When you give in, there can be disastrous consequences - like for me, I'm married, and it really hurts my wife.
Never give up, and realize that if you don't - the time will come that you'll be free of it. Get a support system, and read up, learn, and grow. If you fall, get back up and keep going.
2007-12-26 06:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by Steve 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
There are two places you can go. You can go to www.settingcaptivesfree.com and they have free online courses to help break the cycle of porn addiction.
Or you can go to www.xxxchurch.com. They are an anti-porn ministry dedicated to helping people get out of porn addictions and and the porn industry. They also go to porn conventions and pass out Bibles there. It's really neat. They are totally non-judgemental so you won't be hearing any "fire and brimstone" stuff. Their website also has free Internet filters, too. Listen to some of their podcasts; they're pretty cool!
I'll keep you in my prayers!
2007-12-26 06:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I am so glad that you are trying to give this thing up! You do know that the victory is ALREADY yours? God has given you the ability to do battle with the flesh. He has equipped you with everything you need to be victorious. First thing is to get rid of everything in your home that would tempt you. Next thing is to be in prayer with the Lord all the time. If you ask the Lord to remove anything that is not of Him and replace it with all things pure and of Him, He will. This does not mean that you will not be tempted. It means that you will be able to get through temptation without sinning. It is hard to do at first. However, this becomes easier as time goes on.
I am here to pray with you and cheer you on to victory!. Just an email away! God bless you!
2007-12-26 06:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by Marie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I want to congratulate you on your excellent goal. Others may ridicule you for taking such a stand, but it takes a real man to resist this hateful plague. Only in a misogynistic society, is it considered "normal" to watch pornography. It teaches boys to view the female sex as toys that only exist for their prurient interest, essentially training them to be future misogynes. It also exploits the poor women in the movies, who often have already been sexually abused as children (how much of a choice does a psychologically confused person have, really?).
To answer you question, take the offensive!
a) Force your mind onto other matters.—Philippians 4:8.
b) Avoid looking at things that will stimulate improper desires.—Psalm 119:37.
c) Pray for “power beyond what is normal.”—2 Corinthians 4:7.
d) Keep busy in Christian activities.—1 Corinthians 15:58.
The first step is to stop looking at pornography—immediately! The longer you wait, the harder it will be to stop. Quitting may be easier said than done, however. At first, you might find yourself making all kinds of excuses to look at pornography one more time. Don't listen to yourself! And don't give in to the temptation to keep looking!
Take an honest look at the way the habit is affecting your relationship with your family and friends. Are you a husband and father? Chances are that your wife or children have noticed certain changes in your behavior. Since you have begun viewing pornography, you may have become more moody, sullen, secretive, or withdrawn—perhaps without even knowing it. You may sometimes lash out at family members for no reason. If you are looking at pornographic material, your behavior is probably telling on you. Friends and family members have noticed that something is wrong. They just don't know what it is—yet!
If you find yourself repeatedly drawn to pornography, don't try to fight it on your own. Get help. Take an experienced friend into your confidence or see a therapist. True, it will take courage for you to admit that you have a problem with pornography, but a mature friend will probably admire you for taking the initiative to put a stop to it.
Despite the publicity given to sex in this country, many people still find it difficult to talk about sex in a serious, dignified way. So, shame might make it difficult for you to bring up the subject, even to a confidant.
Whom should you talk to? The best person would be someone who is spiritually mature (possibly an older parent). You could start by saying: “May I talk to you about a problem that is bothering me a lot?”
Suppose, though, that while struggling to break free, you accidentally open a Web site that features pornography. Leave the site immediately! If necessary, shut down the Internet browser! If you find yourself tempted to return, turn to God in earnest prayer, begging him for help to resist temptation. "In everything," the Bible says, "let your petitions be made known to God." If you find yourself tormented by improper thoughts, pray until you get relief. Then 'the peace of God that excels all thought will guard your heart and your mental powers.' (Philippians 4:6, 7) Of course, you will need to replace unwholesome thoughts with those that are 'true, of serious concern, righteous, chaste, lovable, and well spoken of.'—Philippians 4:8.
There are many reasons for avoiding pornography. It negatively affects your quality of life, warps your judgment, damages your relationships with others and, most important, ruin your relationship with God. If you haven't got into the habit of viewing pornography, don't start. If you have, stop immediately!
Sometimes it is easy to become downhearted after a relapse. When that occurs, take to heart the words of Proverbs 24:16: “The righteous one may fall even 7 times, and he will certainly get up.” A temporary setback does not mean you should give up. Instead, analyze what led to the relapse, and try to avoid repeating the same pattern.
The key is to resist the urge and never to give up your fight!
I know you can do it!
2007-12-27 07:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by Rodolfo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we are instructed..we must 'turn' from our evil ways. I have counseled believers with this addiction and usually we discover that they still desire the addiction. Until you pray that you will hate porn as God does..it will stick with you. He will not force you to give up something...you must have the desire to do so first.
2007-12-26 06:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by rabbisb 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
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2007-12-26 06:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you're going thru. i eventually threw my porn in the trash. about those images, try focusing on other things like what else interest you ( cars, video games, music)
2007-12-26 06:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by darren m 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋