So pretend you're a 15 year old guy. You've been with your girlfriend for over a year and you love her very much. She feels the same way. You're very close and are intimate, but no sex. Your hands and mouth have full access from the waist up, and from the waist down, your hands have full access, but over clothes only. You've told your girl that you'll only go as far as she wants, and have stuck with that. For a few months now [you only see each other once a week on weekends pretty much] you've been trying to get down her pants. Every time she moves your hands, but lately, you try up to five or six times a night. Most of the time, she waits to see how far you're going to go before moving your hands. You definitely want sex, and her actions other than moving your hands make it seem like she does too.
What are you thinking at this point? Especially when she moves your hands?
2007-12-26 05:54:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And please don't judge. This is my life. I'm not a tease. I'm just not ready for sex.
And no, he's not going to break up with me, or he would have by now.
2007-12-26 05:56:35 · update #1
He does respect me a lot. He's just your average horny 15 year old at times. But he's never forced me to do anything.
2007-12-26 06:00:36 · update #2
Believe me, we're not having sex. That's my call. And no, he's not breaking up with me. Our relationship is stronger than that.
2007-12-26 06:03:51 · update #3
I would think that you don't really want sex right now, but you want the attention. It is honestly kind of mean on your part to go that far and shut him down. You, even though you are not trying are teasing him. It is like hanging a hot dog on a string on a stick in front of a dog. I is constantly just out of reach, but you can see it. I am sure he really enjoys getting to do what he gets to do but I am sure that he wants more. I am sure he is a little put out by you moving his hands, but a little understanding because he knows you don't want to go that far yet. Good luck to you
2007-12-26 06:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by stormdog3269 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You already know you're not ready for full-blown sex, and so does he.
I think you've got pretty good judgment, and it's not easy to balance your own sexual desires with his. It sounds like you want it too, but you know in your mind that you're not ready, for whatever reasons.
What you're doing, though, is kind of like letting the fox into the chicken coop, if you get the analogy.
Both of you guys are only human, and I'm sure you've had the thought that one of these times, it's going to be too hard to resist, so you will have sex with him.
This isn't a decision that should be made in the heat of passion - but it is how it happens with a lot of people. I know you don't want to regret in the morning what happened last night. Your first time with him should be wonderful, not anxiety-filled or with remorse involved.
But you're tempting fate by getting so hot and bothered, and I think you know this. You're sexually arousing each other. There is only one satisfactory ending to this!
You've done well by establishing limits, but let me ask you this question:
When you first starting seeing him, there were things you wouldn't let him do, right? Then, as the relationship progressed, you let him do other things, right? Then, as time went on, you allowed even more. Right? And so now you are where you are.
You can see where this is heading.
Sooner or later, the fox is not going to be happy with just looking at the chickens. He's going to want to satisfy his normal desires.
You might want to think about slowing down a bit, and doing more work on your feelings, enjoying each other's minds and personalities, learning about each other, striving to decide if you really love each other and want to take your relationship to the next level. The most important sex organ is the mind.
Your desires are normal, your actions are understandable, and you've got a good head on your shoulders.
You know how they say some guys think with their d***s? It sounds to me like your doing some thinking with your v*****.
Don't put your mind and your body into conflict with each other. You can reconcile them. When the time is right, you'll know it intellectually, not physically.
Good luck!
2007-12-26 06:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by jasper addleton 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, at 15 sex is very risky. So that should be out of the question. Second, he shouldn't be trying 5 or 6 times a night, that is lack of respect. Third, it might lead to a fight because he might get very turned on one night, and you might move his hands away, and he might get angry.
Bottom line, you need to TELL him that you are not ready for sex, and to stop trying to get down your pants until you are ready. I don't see any other way. Hope this helps.
I work with kids in a hospital, I see many young girls having babies, it is not fun. Be responsible!
2007-12-26 06:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by monkeyman1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a 15 year old guy. I'm thinking: This was really a lot of fun in the beginning, but now its getting very old. Until I find someone who will have sex with me, I'll continue to do to this girl what she will allow me to do. I'm also probably thinking: "Omg...how many times can we do this? Booooring? How do I break up with this girl without crushing her?"
2007-12-26 06:00:52 · answer #4 · answered by DeFreeze 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are a Tease every time you wait longer to see how far he'll go your letting him get worked up more &more then are setting him up to fail either tell him again to stop trying or let him cop his feel & tell him thats all he's getting tell him he needs to think about what he wants & decide whether its to be with you & no sex at all or find some else. but above all stop Teasing him its not fair to him either
2007-12-26 06:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell u the truth..a lot of guys just want sex. but if he truly is in love w/ u he should understand how u feel if u were 2 tell him that u r not ready 4 the real thing. good luck
2007-12-26 06:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by Eli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very simple...stop all the touching because this will lead to more and more. The best thing to do is keep your promise to yourself that you are not ready to have sex and don't put yourself in these situations. When i was this age i tried and tried and tried and when i get it, i didn't know what i was doing in the first place and afterwards it was awkward.
2007-12-26 06:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by RL9700 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shadow Th, Bless you girl hold out a long as you can,hopefuly until your wedding night ! I would be thinking well I tried but once more denied ! Have you both accepted Jesus Christ into your hearts ? It will well be worth the wait for you ! That way there will be no haunting memories to deal with once you are forever bound to your husband !
2007-12-26 06:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-12-11 13:15:23 · answer #9 · answered by friesner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that you arent ready for sex but want to keep the clothing inamacy thing if he wants to go only as far as you want to go than he will understand good luck
2007-12-26 06:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by peace love<3 happiness=) 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋