Have any of you ever been really in love with someone who had a drug addiction? I stayed with him through rehab and he ended up leaving me for someone he met in there. Two years later we have started talking again and now he just drinks and smokes out. It was okay for awhile because it isn't like it was. The other night we fought about his inability to commit and he asked me in front of his roommate to move in. He said he was in love with me and that we would make it work this time. The next day I called him at work and he was rude and told me he was busy. I hung up and haven't called back. It is like he is only sweet when he's high and either forgets or it freaks him out when he realizes what he said. I don't want to move in with him just be an actual item? I feel like such a fool and I know somewhere in my mind this will continue. I just love him so it makes it tough? Has anyone been in a situation like this? How did you deal, and or heal? Thanks!
2007-12-26 05:46:03 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't go any further with him. He will end up breaking your heart.
I have been in love with someone who loved her drugs more then me. It is no fun and is a very sad, painful memory that I would not care to remember or explore. Suffice to say it leads to much heartache and more for the one who loves them. Try Al-anon for more information on how to handle dealing with being in a relationship with a drug addict or alcoholic.
2007-12-26 05:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through. It hurts beyond belief to know you can't be with someone you love so much, the person that IS the world, not just one person. It is way too hard to let them go but the thing that you have to consider is that staying with him is not only going to hurt you but in the long run, hurt him. He needs to straighten out his own life before he lets in another. You can be there for him, everyone needs a friend but for your own safety it is probably best to stay out out of the romantic relationship with this guy. I know it hurts but just trust me on this. Even though it seems nothing will ever end here, time really does heal, no matter how long it takes.
Hope this helps :)
2007-12-26 13:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by Momiji-chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with a guy for a year and a half once. He was an alcoholic from the get go and for probably the last 9-12 months he had a major cocaine problem. He made me feel terrible like he couldn't get better without me...but at the same time...I was starting to risk my own well-being. I had to get out. He tried calling and we tried talking...but he was on and off constantly. DON'T move in with him. If you want to start seeing him...whatever. I'd start fresh though and find someone else...he'll always have issues.
2007-12-26 13:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in love once with a man who did drugs and used alcohol. It was headed nowhere but into a ditch because of that and I got out!!! I think you are in love with what you know this man could be if he weren't a drug addict. You can not change him and there's no way you can have a good life with him. I know it's hard for you but get out! Then give yourself time to heal and move on with your life.
2007-12-26 13:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I haven't because I have no use for alcoholics and drug users. I really am not criticizing you because I believe the heart will love who it will, but I also believe that in the beginning we have a choice as to whether or not to allow it to happen. Please respect yourself and find someone who won't make you miserable. If you do not separate yourself from this guy..you will only know more pain and grief. You know that what I am saying is truth, even if it is hard for you to hear. I wish you well!
2007-12-26 13:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by ceegt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a hard spot to be in. There could be an underlying medical or phychological problm with him. I have been there and it is very hard. It takes a long time to heal but family and friends are a big help and counseling so that you know it isn't you that has caused this problem and to help you regain your self esteem. God luck
2007-12-26 13:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just changed habits, drugs for drinking. You need to let go and move on. I hate telling people to leave but all this will do is hurt you and drag you down. You don't need to be on an emotional rollercoaster with him. Bow out and move forward with you. You cannot change someone he must do it for himself.
2007-12-26 13:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by twistedtoad03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I havnt but you should just get over him because everybody just does weird things like that when theyre high sooo move in with one of your friends he doesnt know and dont answer your phone when he calls who knows what he will do next...
2007-12-26 13:51:25 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Independent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend was in this situation. She tried to get him help but he refused saying he didn't have a problem. So simply, she just gave up and stopped seeing him.
2007-12-26 13:49:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he doesnt like u unless he's high
move on its gunna hurt like hell but times heals
and wats is with everyone hu has problems with ppl hu have problems ( drugs ,ect) theres sumone out there for every1 and we all screw up in life at sum point
2007-12-26 13:53:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋