Two years ago, my two wonderful dogs were put down because they had terminal diseases. My mother and i were heartbroken. After our dogs passed away, my mother was sure she didn't want to endure the heartbreak of another loss, so she swore to never adopt another dog. After the first year, i got over it. I still have dreams about them but, they no longer make me sad. My mother on the other hand, still whimpers at the thought of them.
Since then, the house has been lonelier than ever. There is no laughter, no barking, no nothing. I believe it's time for a new puppy.
There are several things standing in my way, though. My mother, for one, my father who cannot stand pets, and my schedule.
If i do get a dog, i fear i wont have time to tend to it as i will be starting college as a full time student soon and working part time after school. The dog will be 100% my responsibility and if i dont have time, how will i provide for it adequately?
2007-12-26 05:02:39 · 14 answers · asked by Angelita Amante 3 in Pets ➔ Dogs
In addition, i have already talked to my mother about getting a new dog, she shook her head no and even yelled at me when i provided sound reason as to why we should adopt another. My father doesn't much care if an animal is in the house, so long as it does not get in the way or bother him.
Money is not an issue. I have the means by which to provide food and vaccinations and whatever else a dog would need.
Should i try once more with my mother or wait it out some more?
2007-12-26 05:04:45 · update #1
I would wait to get a dog. With you going to school full time AND working soon, there will be no way you would have enough time to care for a dog, ESPECIALLY a puppy. I know you want the companionship, but you won't be around enough to fully enjoy it. Go to school, and get one once you're finished.
2007-12-26 05:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Look at what you've said
You are too busy for a dog
Your mom doesn't want one
Your dad is dead set against getting one
This tells me that your home is not the right place for a dog right now. No responsible breeder or good rescue group would place a dog in a situation like this.
I know it's hard and can be lonely, but putting a dog into this situation would be a terrible thing to do.
Wait until you are out of the house, you know what your "real" life will bring, and until your schedule lightens up.
GL 2U
2007-12-26 05:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please adopt a dog in need. Do not go out and buy a burebred, expensive, puppy mill puppy from a pet store. Having over 30 pets have definately taken a toll on me. I have gone through much loss and sadness, but you can feel redemption and reason when you rescue a dog on death row. Get the pup, and bring it home and take great care of it, how can your mom say no to a pup about to be put down cause it is to unnatractive to find a home. Some of the ugliest dogs make the best pets. Pups are hard to say no to. Good Luck and be sur eto take good care of your new pet and may he live to be...well...at least 10:)
On the other hand, if your dad hates animals and your mom is scared of heartbreak, and you are too busy, then wait till you are settled down to get a pet.
2007-12-26 05:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do not get another dog. You asked and answered your own question. Your mom doesn't want one and right now, I believe if you should still get one, she will be upset with you. Who do you think will be the primary care giver of a puppy because of your schedule. your mom will. Think of the dog. Yeah there are a lot of dogs and puppies that need good homes and need the love, but if you want to be a responsible pet owner, than you have to wait until you're out of school. Forget the dog for now and concentrate on school, then when you're out on your own, have a great job and can spend time with the dog, then get one. Please don't do it now. it just won't work out and from what you said about your dad, he certainly will be of no help. I think you would do a great injustice to dog right now. Please wait.
2007-12-26 05:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by Memere RN/BA 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you won't have the time to give a puppy the care and attention it needs. Give your mother a little more time. Don't push her into a corner, or she may feel that she has to uphold her oath to never adopt another dog. When she believes the time is right, she may very well change her mind.
2007-12-26 05:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by Socion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT. Until you can provide a stable home for the animal, please do not get one. Your Mother, who will have to take care of when you are gone is not ready and I wouldn't wish my worse enemy on your dad. Any one who "can't stand pets" is not a good person....in my book.
Just entering college is not a good time to devote to a furbaby. Wait until you see what your college schedule and work schedule will be like and possibly you get a place of your own. Then consider adding that love bundle to your life.
I would love to say your Mom needs that love and I'm sure she would love the new one, but It doesn't sound right... yet. Maybe later after you get your new baby,she will come around to what she is missing out on. And I cry for many of my past loves, even though they passed 5(Oliver), 15(Fifi), 35(Wally) years ago I still love and miss them. And when Boo (12 years old) goes to God...I'll get another one.
There just isn't pain to make me miss out on that warm fuzzy love.
2007-12-26 05:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by Lyn B 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
In October my dog Rocky died. No one was open to getting another dog for a while. Like you said, you're lonley all the time when there's no one around. My step-dad didn't like Kristi, new puppy, at first but now they're best friends. My advice is wait it out a while. I think getting a puppy someday will help you and you're mom out a lot! I know it helped my mom.
Good Luck!!
2007-12-26 05:57:44 · answer #7 · answered by D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait it out a bit more, Honey. From what you describe, your mom will make the pup and you both miserable.
Now, you could try to get your own place and then get a dog- if you can also get a puppy-sitter. But I wouldn't recommend that until your studies permit you time to take care of the dog yourself.
Good luck!
2007-12-26 05:11:11 · answer #8 · answered by Tigger 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't recommend a puppy unless you get one from the pound. Many people got puppies as holiday gifts and will wind up abandoning them (sad but true). There are so many dogs at the pound that need a good home - if your parents still say know you may want to see if your local shelter needs volunteers to walk, feed and bathe the animals to keep them looking good and make them more adoptable. Good Luck!
2007-12-26 05:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You should wait till you are on your own and you have the time. Everyone in the household needs to agree, otherwise it will be a disaster for everyone including the dog. And if you don't have time to care for it, it will be even worse.
2007-12-26 05:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋